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you must try pick yourself up and look at the positives and do whatever you can to correct the negitives.nobody is perfect.what are you insecure about?
really anything and everything when it comes to trust issues. My previous relationships have been filled with cheating, lies, deceit and all that fun stuff. Im aware that thats part of life, but my current boyfriend now has to deal with my insecurities and my feelings that he’s going to be just like the rest. I trust him but at the same time, I dont know if Im setting myself up for the past yet again. I cant help but think that he too will hurt me, even though part of me doesnt think so, theres that other part that almost overrides everything.
Actually, cheating, lies, and deceit actually don’t have to be part of your life. White lies meant to protect feelings happen, but the minute the real deceit starts that’s time to leave. All I can suggest to you are three things. First, learn from exprience and chose your next boyfriends wisely. Avoid the bad boys. Second, give your current relationship some time to develop. Trust comes with time and the process of really getting to know your boyfriend. You don’t have to rush trust. Third, just have some faith in the meantime. Try to recognize and label feelings as insecurities when they come up and have some faith in your boyfriend. I know that’s hard to pull out of thin air, but if you let your suspicions or fears rule you, the current relationship can’t be enjoyed. Plus, it can’t hurt to be open with your boyfriend about your insecurities. He can’t fix them, but the fact that he knows where you are coming from will help keep him sensitive to your needs.
Hahahaa cool…here and i thought i was alone :)
An Unknown Location | 7 years, 3 months ago (12 hours, 37 minutes after post)
allz, u have insecurities from past relationships?
Everyone deals with the trust issue. This goes on ALL your life. No matter how long you are with someone, you never fully trust them. But, my philosophy is, my peace of mind is more important and if i’m constantly worried about what my partner is doing, it will drive you CRAZY…
So, let it go…Just take care of your own affairs and learn to be secure in yourself. Learn to love yourself and enjoy spending time with yourself. This has been the great lesson for me, learning to like spending time with just me…
Actually CCC! i did respond to this post. That warning popped up (java) would not allow it to go thru.
I thought it might be the wording? So i changed it. it was refused?. i rephrased!,.. it was refused. i kept resubmitting it.
then i got a message, that said something like? HOLD on cowboy!…?) Ha ha.. as if? Someone was monitoring it in real time?…IT just made me Laugh out loud..
To answer your question, it was more like an issue i (Had) with My latest Guy?… and it was a Trust issue. But, i fixed (O)ur wagon. I called time off? for our relationship. It hurt mem just as much as it is Hurting him?
Thanks for asking, my name is Stella, i truly do believe that..
All is (Z) Vanity!..ha ha..
hey girl long time no see just give him a chance if he hurst you then ill come to canada and hurt him thats a joke laugh give him a shot if it doesnt work out ill be here for you sweetheart good luck and hit me up sometime
i went threw this
i hated myself i would get on myself about everything
but all i started to do was find something i thought was okay about myself, like my eyes, an i focused on them, an thought they werent too bad, then my lips or hair ect. and i told myself, this is wut i look like, im me, an now i love myself, an i could name a million things i hate, but i dont, i just ecepted them it took some time, but now im so confident an it feels great, just no that it dosent matter wut ppl think of you, as long as your having fun an are happy in life who cares? just live life an be happy with yourself an then everything will fall in place
I am very insecure in my relationship, I have had only three relationships in my life and the first two were horrible… This guy is great, kind of waiting for the other shoe to drop, ya know, too good to be true!! The only thing that really bothers me with him is the fact that I haven’t met his family, over two years later… I think that adds to my insecurities, definately doesn’t help.. I feel so out of control on it too. He tells me how much he loves me and that we will get married, asking me for patience on this, but yet I haven’t even had the honor of meeting his family… And my insecurities have already made me crazy!
Nikeethegr i feel you what you are saying i have been in a relationship for the past 5 years and i have never met my boyfies family, he behaves funnily when he is at home which gives me more reason not to trust him , he never picks up my calls attimes , he is just full of excuses and when i complain am told that he is busy i mean i have reached a point where i think i am wasting my precious youthful years with someone who is not being honest with , someone who wont even make up his mind on when we should settle down. The saddest part is i love him so much and he is like embedded in my skin he is my life i wish i could walk out on him and maybe there is someone out there for me.
I have insecurities in my relationship to. My boyfriend and I are presently in an argument over my trust issues. I met my boyfrined 5 years ago while his ex girlfriend and my boyfriend were on a brake up. we dated for about a month and a half. He went back to her without telling me. He has called me every year asking me if I was happy. Finally after 5 years I give it a shot with him. He still has hatered towards hes ex girlfriend which I feel he shouldn’t have moved on with me until that hatered fade. I know I love him but i know i have to let him go. He wants to leave me over this instead of helping me through my insecurities. Hes my 5th live in relationship since I was 15 years old, I never once had a guy work with me through relationship problems, instead we end. I don’t ever want to have a serious relationship again
My boyfriend and I have a long distance,interracial relationship that my family doesnt approve of. We went to highschool together. We met two eyars ago when I called him and basically asked him out on a date. It was nice at first, but ever since I had told him that since high school i’ve been in and out of therapy and switching schools I’m so insecure about everything! Where hes going, who hes with and I’m constantly asking him over the phone what he’s doing when he’s JUST AT HOME!!! He tells me all the time to trust him but I always feel like there is something he’s not telling me. He has never cheated on me and he is always trying so hard to be with me but I just dont know what to do anymore.
I have had insecurity issues 4 as long as i can remember! when i was at school i got the normal name calling and never felt pretty. ive always felt i had to act over the top to get noticed n just wanted to b liked by everyone. im 37 now and feel i should b over it. ive been married and divorced n now have a bofriend who i have been wiv for 8yrs and these feelings r still there! i know he loves me but isnt very good at letting me know when i look nice, i have to ask “does this look ok?” i know this sounds silly but im sure this would boost my confidence a little. ive tried talking to him about it but he says his not like that, he thinks it but doesnt say it! i trust him but got that, she is so pretty and im not issue going on! it nearly came to the end last night and im scared i will loose him 4 good if i cant sort this out. please someone, got any sugestions???? karen.
Ok I’m new at this, but I’m having a problem. I have finally found the guy for me! We love each other so much that we are both plum scared of losing each other, and we have serious trust issues. I don’t know what to do. I know he is not cheating on me, but its the fear of him finding someone better and leaving me, and he has the same fear. What do we do? And sometimes it causes arguments. I don’t want to lose him because of something like this because in one way I know he will never cheat, but its always in the back of my mind saying well he is a man and whats saying that he wont do all that the my exs did…..
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