Love help: I love my ex with all my heart, we both made our mistakes in the ending of our relationship. - Help.com

Be patient, give yourself a year and a half to cool off…don’t attempt to do anything relationship related during that time…No dating until you cool off and move on. If you try to get into a relationship now, it’ll only mean attempting to clear your head of your ex and it won’t do you any good.

You need time, you need space, and seeking other relationships won’t give that to you. A great rule is to take the amount of time that you were in the actual relationship and divide that by two. That’s the amount of time that you’ll generally need to be alone to ‘fix’ yourself…to calm down and move on.

Sounds like you’re not ready to be with someone else.
It’s not fair to your potential date if you’re still pining over your last love.
So just…chill for a minute.

Good advice. Plus if you rush into dating, you may inadvertently prevent the two of you from getting back together.

Now that the concensus shows you should give yourself time to rest, do you have much else besides work to keep your mind off things? Make sure you go out with friends, maybe take up a hobby you enjoy and just become involved in stuff that interests you. (Like kickboxing or an art class, I don’t know what you like though) The good part about this, is while getting out into the world again, while getting over something that really really sucks, you could also be meeting new people and who knows who you might about around you after that year and a half of you time. Plus, both things I mentioned are good for venting unwanted emotions.

And if you already go out and have fun, well ignore me then. :) I just wasn’t sure.

I know how you feel on this one. I was in a 5 year relationship and I ended it because she was unfaithful. My heart is still with her and wants her back with no end. I’ve tried to date someone else, just broke it off twice because my heart and mind weren’t ready.

It all depends on your heart to, if you think you can wait and your willing to try and give your relationship time with the hope of getting back, I personally think it’s a choice of your own heart. Think of it, is it healthy for you, maybe or not. But the thing I know is if you tried all you can with your ex, no matter, what you say do or am inside and still can’t connect with them, then it’s just really up to them to come back, as hard and terrifying as it is, it’s the truth, their unwilling spirit will do you no good and I’ve done this believe me.

I hear you, I get sharp pains in my heart to and it hurts. But I’ve tried all I can, the only thing I can do now, is not necassirly wait but give it time and if they come back they do. We were like that to, in the beginning right after we broke it off she begged a bit to get me back and I didn’t because there was to much evidence of what she did even though I never saw anything except a couple of times, I only saw the results of her cheating. Then after I realized that I didn’t take her back I started togo back to her, yeah that didnt’ work, my mind was playing games on me….I want you, I don’t ok I do, but is it right, all that stuff..

So I hope you can take a bit of time to process this and think about it…keep in mind it’s the both of you whom were in it, don’t put all the blame on yourself..

Good luck..

If you believe in a person keep on believing that the person wil come back to you. I have not seen any e-books on the internet that offers successfull advice. My main idea is if you still love you ex wait for them no matter how long it takes. I believe that if you love your ex than you would be willing to give them another chance. Please believe me even if it is hard just follow your heart and dont let anybody make you get into a relationship that is not with your ex. If ex is the one then she is!!!

ok prom was yesterday and me and my ex go into a little arguement which eventually effected the rest of the night and made us break up. we have been fighting over little things that we really shouldnt be fighting over. I love her and she loves me we have been best friends since the 6th grade and i am her first real relationship. people say we are to young to be in love (18) but i think they are wrong i am in love with her and i always do everything to make her happy. We have only been together for 8 months and we are now both graduating in a few days and i am so afraid to lose her forever. i mean she is my best friend and my true love. she is a very family orientated type of girl so she thinks she has to be tough when she is infront of her mother and father so i think that she might not take me back because she said broke up with me and might not want her parents thinking that she is a baby. I can tell her mother likes me and deep down inside wants us to be together but she has to stick to her daughters choice. I would do anything to be with my baby. i lover her so much and she hasnt talk to me in 2 days. i dont know if i should txt her or not. she hasnt talk to me at all but i am afriad if i dont txt her she wont txt me or call and she will eventually just stop thinking about me and go of to college and forget about me forever. We have been best friends and lovers and i dont want to lose her . what should i do

I would wait till the end of time to be with the only person in the world that makes me happy i am so angry over this, because she never left her ex, and all he did was say horiffic things about her, i have proven to her my love by marrying her only to find she never left him very sad. Yet she denies everything we were told by a professional that we must put behind the past and start a new but all she does is bring up the past and tortures me she acts like is a game.