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It sounds like you have no reason to keep in contact with her then. Stop calling her. Stop trying to talk to her.

In time, you’ll both calm down. Eventually you might want to ‘confront’ her - tell her how she made you feel, how she hurt you, etc. And maybe allow her to do the same. Maybe after getting everything out in the open you can reconcile - or maybe you will both agree to leave each other’s lives.

Remember that you are both responsible for everything that happened in your relationship - good and bad. Don’t blame everything on her (I don’t think you are though) but be willing to take the blame that is yours. And try to remember what was good about the relationship!

Most importantly, try to see how this breakup was a good thing. Find the positives and come to terms with the negatives. It’ll take time, but you can find good in anything. There’s a lesson for you to learn if you’ll learn it, you simply need to discover what you’ve tried to teach yourself.

Spend some time thinking about everything, figure out how you feel, come to terms with everything that has happened. But also, go out with other friends, make new ones, have some fun when you’re upset. Keep up a good balance in your life and you’ll stay sane until you figure everything out.

Good luck!

You can’t have it both ways. You can not want your space, and be a b*tch to finaly get it… then all of a sudden feel lonely. Since you can’t have it both ways, which way do you want it now. Think before you speak…. think before you wish; ’cause wishes can come true. You wished to have some space, yes? Well it seems you have that now. You want to live a bright life? Forget about the past… you can’t change that now anyway. We are talking about right now.

you can’t take back the thing you said but you can try and make it up to her…write her a letter and tell you didnt mean those words and you don’t think she is fat, but you hope you can be friends and be civil around each other if you happen to run into her.

i sent her a text saying exactly that office girl…and got no response. she is using this you see to purposfully try to make me feel bad

do you want to get back together with her? is go get her back but if not i really think you should move on and learn from what you happened…but next relation don’t call her fat! i know i really hate being call fat from my relations…good luck, hunny!!

*if so, my bad!! lol!!

So let me try to understand this… you don’t want to have ANYTHING to do with this woman, but you want to feel a nice, cozy and intact emotionally. Who told you that was possible? We are all connected. If you cut someone out of your life… you will feel loss inevitably. With loss comes the pain of grief… you are actually going through that now (both of you are)). So tell me what you really want now.

You need to cut her off your life completely. Get some new phone numbers.

That’s not a nice thing to say, fats…

can you remove that!! Fat your not very nice to say that this is a real problem that were are trying to help this sweet girl!

nobody was calling you fat!! this is not about you so go away unless you are reallly going to help this sweet girl!!

Hey Office gal,

Just ignore them. Everybody will get their just deserts.

Time is the greatest healer, I have come out of many bad relationships and it takes years for all the hurt and pain to be buried you can’t get over each other if you are still in conact, your frinds may be understanding if you ask them to avoid places where your girlfriend may be for a while untill things calm down, but believe me when I tell you it takes years not just months or weeks to become just friends with someone you cared about

sorry anon i hope this helped and you can find someone to treat you like you deserve!

he is so ignorant

Is he gone now

Who?

that Fats person that was rude!!

Well, he/she/it is gone now. So never mind. He just wants attention, and that’s about it.

yeah i know! childern!!

Oh, I have nothing about children…

they act like children…

… if I had something, I might use it…

move on..y do u feel bad? she’s the one that cheated and etc…your normal , it wasnt the most mature, but your normal