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man bear, im sorry btu i dissagree…

Pil you are not begin to demanding you just dont wnat her to cheat on you. and i understand that. Just tell her how you feel and maybe she will understand
and if not be like so then am I aloud to go and talk to my girl friends with out you??

no you are not, why do you turn this to make them your fault like you were too demanding?

do you think she’d be happy if u’d started going out with girls that have crushes on u? or course not, she’d be jealous as well.

she doesn’t respect u as a partner. she KNOWS those guys want her and she WANTS to see them as well. that’s emotional cheating in other words.

u r not being demanding. If i were u, I’d dump her. I’d consider that enough. And probably she is even manipulating you making excuses so that at the end it’s U who are being demanding and she is the victim. Yeah right.

Get urself a girl that respects u in the same way u give respect.

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“i don’t want to dump her because i care about her”

i know you’d be delighted if she loved you with all her heart and if you were the only one for her. if you are still with her it’s because you are just hoping that she will be like that one good day. In the meantime you are still taking all her cheating, just because you still have the hope that one day this will happen.

It won’t. Love yourself enough to get that girl out of your life. Those guys are laughing at your back. She is probably cheating already with the indian guy, she lets him do everything he wants to her when they meet.

She is not jealous about you? then that makes it more clear, she wants you to go out with others because she does not care about you as much as she cares about the indian guy. If she gets really jealous about somebody is about him, not about you.

Open your eyes. Love yourself. You are addicted to the person you want/hope her to be, not to who she is.

i dont think u are being too demanding. the only time i’ve wanted to keep two guys seperate is when i had feelings for the two of them. but if a guy had feelings for me and i didn’t for him, i’d want my new guy to meet him out of respect for my new guy. and it would also help the old friend get the hope out of his mind.

i think you shouldn’t trust her.

Still making excuses for her because you still want to feed your hopes of her staying with you. She is going out with him and other guys that hit on her remember? Basically she wants to try to get him back.

They key is that if he decided to not marry, she’d be right there to be with him and she’d dump you.

Think about it, and all the best of luck.

It really a matter of her respecting your feelings… I think most ppl would feel insecure in this situation. Sure you should be able to trust her but she needs to consider the damage seeing her ex ( especially alone) does to the relationship.

Normal I would say you must have trust in her…but this sounds a bit dangerous for your relationship because of the intensity of her feelings for him and him for her.

You say you care for her…that’s not really true love and the fact that you are even willing to think about says alot.

Perhaps it is just time to move on.

You look like a young mature man, therefore she is not a teenager either, do you honestly think they just talk when they meet?

Also, a good woman should not need a babysitter, she should be able to make perfectly clear to other men that she is not available. Instead, she is going out with that man and and with other men that she knows are after her.

She doesn’t valorize you, either she is controling you by making you feel pitty, since you keep making excuses for her…Or maybe you are controlling yourself to stay with her and accept whatever she wants to do just because you are just too afraid to lose her.

Maybe due to something in your childhood, or from your past you have predisposition to please others, and to put other people’s needs first than your own’s. The truth is that she is not being the victim here. You are the victim. Let her go and find yourself a nice girl.

Hi. I’m female, and I do not think you are demanding. However, you have to also understand that she probably is a bit blind to some of the guy friends that she believes is platonic. Maybe deep down she knows or doesn’t know if these guys have interest in her beyond friendship. Either way, the reality is that as long as it isn’t openly expressed, it’s fair game for a friendship. That’s because friendship is based on being platonic.
Who is to say she is cheating physically…we don’t know. But I’m sure you knew from the time you met her that maybe she wasn’t over this guy. You met her soon after and know about their relationship. You’ve just got to admit to yourself the very thing that you have been thinking in the back of your mind. Yes, she isn’t completely over this guy. This guy is getting married, but who cares about what the Indian boys’ situation is…the point is that her heart is elsewhere.
Maybe you have got to just think about where this relationship is headed. If she is serioua about you and you express to her your issues with her meeting up with the boys and her ex, she will compromise and start making changes. If she isn’t wiilling to as much as you are willing to give up your girl buddies, then that isn’t a fair relationship. SOmething is unbalanced. Before all this, maybe you need to think about whether she is worth all this effort. IF this girl is marriage material and you believe she is worth it, then I suggest you bring up your concern and improve your communication and start telling her what you want from her. Often times, in relationships we are unhappy because we are scared to tell the other person what we want.

sweetheart i hope you take what is written here into consideration. nearly everyone says something is just not right with the way your girl is acting. better to cut your losses now than to become even more emotionally invested and devasted later. i have in my younger days played these types of games with men i thought were unfaithful to me. in church they say a spirit knows a spirit, on the street they say game recognizes game, and as i child we all said takes one to know one. believe us, this girl is not yours alone. whether emotionally or physically, something is going on. furthermore, she doesn’t respect u enough to tell the truth and just keeps stringing you along.

some women just do not like to be alone. they will do whatever it takes to keep someone in their life, even if they don’t really want them. u deserve to have someone that loves u and respects u at least with the same magnitude that u feel for them. it won’t be easy now, but i can be devastating later.

Nope, you aren’t being demanding. You are scared that something will happen between them and you have a right to be. I would be too if I were you.

She is obviously still in love with him. If she really wanted to move on she would cut off all ties with him. I hate to say it, but maybe you need to move on too. This girl obviously needs to wake the hell up and see that this other dude isn’t ever going to give her the kind of relationship she wants but she can’t let go. Too bad she is missing out on other things. Good luck!

I don’t think that you are being unreasonable. She needs to take a look at what she wants, and if it is you, then she should have no problem with letting you go along, b/c if she has nothing to hide then there should be no problem.

Oh my Gosh, gorgerous man you are, dont get involed i know you do care about her, i did the same thing and now i am married to the man i thought i could may he care, you are to sweet me too it is to late for me please keep looking for that women she is out there. i have two children now and really confused. Stop and think about what you want and about your future children and their happiness, i wasnt to smart, but please dont be with her she is set on being a part of another mans life even if he is married and will cause you so much grief, and make you not be a caring person in the long run. please slow down and stay busy in other areas of your life. get a dog….lol just kidding for real backoff from her she will only be thinking about another man while with you.

Run… She meets with a former lover alone to talk about personal matters. Run… She says she wants friendship with him but you all cannot meet. Run… She still into him. RUN!!!!!!!!