friends help: My ex and i were best friends.

NatashaPlease

My ex and i were best friends.

but now that we have split up he wont talk to me… its so akward i duno what to do!
I went up to him askin then he walked away.. so i text him askin he replies i dont see you as a friend anymore

How can i get him back as a friend?

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- Fourthings™ - 7 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

You can’t. Another case of want cake and eat it syndrome

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eqspike 8 #
US | 2 years, 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

The only thing that will help is time. He’s hurt, and he needs time. As a friend you should give him time to deal with the split and get over it. Once he’s over it, and has been for some time then try and talk to him in a friendly way.

He may decide that it is ok at that point. It really depends on how he deals with the hurt he is feeling right now.

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NatashaPlease 2 #
Aberdeen, T5, GB | 2 years, 3 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Meh, i just want it back to normall he said he doesnt feel the akwardness but it doesnt give him a reason to ignore me!

We have to work together on the year book comitee aswel… this shud b enjoyable :S

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- Fourthings™ - 7 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Did you dump him? If so he has every right to hate you right now. Ever been dumped? If you want things to go back to normal get back with him otherwise sleep in the bed you made!

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NatashaPlease 2 #
Aberdeen, T5, GB | 2 years, 3 months ago (9 minutes after post)

i never dumped him.. i wasnt mean, we were better off as friends it just shudnt of happened to begin with.
And yes i have been dumped.. Very hasly a couple of times aswel, so i choose to do it in a way thts reasonable and not hurtful.
Dont b so mean and bog off pls

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eqspike 8 #
US | 2 years, 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

I know you want things to go back to normal, but he’s obviously not over the break-up. You can tell him that you eally value his friendship, even though you aren’t together and hope that one day he will be able to be your friend again.

It won’t get immediate results, but later on down the road when he is thinking about it, he may remember those words kindly, and not hold a grudge.

Right now, all you can do is give him as much space as possible.

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- Fourthings™ - 7 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 3 months ago (13 minutes after post)

So “http://help.com/post/89042-iv-just-broke-up-with-my-boy” was a different bf? Slow down b4 ya get the clap. Broke up with = Dump
Me = Bogging off now, Good luck!

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GB | 2 years, 3 months ago (14 minutes after post)

You Must Say You’re Sorry For Causing Him Pain But He Has To Move On And He’s A Good Friend You Dont Want To Lose Him.

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Alright, Sorry, that was mean, I’ve been in his possition before and it really is hard to get over a girl that wants to stay friends, give him a cuple months space…. Sorry!

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NatashaPlease 2 #
Aberdeen, T5, GB | 2 years, 3 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Update….

He foned me just this second sayin he was bein unreasonable, and at school on monday were goin to try and get on normally bcuz we miss talkin to each other as friends..

Hopfully tht will b all sorted :]

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Sallywoo 0 #
US | 2 years, 3 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Good luck…but give him space too…

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Molly-12 #
GB | 2 years, 3 months ago (21 minutes after post)

well thats good news
im please for you

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- Fourthings™ - 7 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 3 months ago (43 minutes after post)

:O hehe

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eqspike 8 #
US | 2 years, 3 months ago (43 minutes after post)

You are fortunate to have your problems progress so quickly. You should be thankful. If you want to remain friends with him, don’t lead him on and give him false hope about getting back together. Be aware that may be what he wants, and if you don’t want that, make sure you keep things as just friends, and that he knows that is what it is going to be.

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oriana_griffi 1 #
US | 2 years, 3 months ago (2 hours, 26 minutes after post)

sadly to say you took that risk of of making that great friendship into something more. he might just feel that hurt or just need time…but i doubt that if you two do go back friends you won’t be as tight as you were before.

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