boyfriend help: My boyfriend of a month and a half is having two kids real soon! - Help.com

Try just acting like a parent to them and accepting them with joy. I’m sure he’ll want you to accept them.

Oh, don’t be a parent, they already have a mom, and the last thing they need is one more adult telling them what to do. Be yourself. See them as people who have their own thoughts, feelings, likes, dislikes, humor, intelligence compassion, and have fun discovering them. Think more along the lines of big sister or aunt.

Will you all be living together?

Oriana, are these new born babies or is he gaining custody of two children he has fathered?

Oh, I think I misunderstood your question. Your feelings are really primal — those are his kids with another woman, but he’s your man. That’s natural territorialism, and you should kill the mother and eat the children so you and your offspring… wait.

Scratch that.

Accept the man is a father, and you want him to have the best relationship with his children, because those children are important. Think of it as extended family. I think the big sis/aunt mentality is right. Don’t worry about what you and your possible future children might NOT get from him, because, if you are in lifelong relationship, there will be plenty of love to go around.

Really, though, if you can’t deal with it, the sooner you leave the better. But give it 4-6 months to see how you feel when you hold them, and see how he is as a dad. Could be really cool and open up a whole new world for you.

Oh, you’re so sweet. (((Oriana)))