Love help: hey guys.im a gay guy and living with my boy friend.my boyfriend - Help.com

I am sorry for what you must endure…trust me, I’ve been through it. Your boyfriend’s reluctance in indropducing you as his bofriend is just a sign he hasn’t fully come to terms with his own identity. This is not the end of the world….he may simply need time (or he may never come to terms). When I was in your position, I sat my boyfriend down and we had a discussion…this is what you need to do to establish where the relationship is going. If you have a future with each other, stick it out and give hime time. If not, well, it’s better to learn this now so you can move on and obtain your goals.

You love your boyfriend, you know he has children and that he hasn’t come out to them yet.

It was your decision to be with this man, you have to accept him for who he is, and that his children will always be very important to him—and that they are ‘part of the deal’ of being with him.

Suck it up! Look I know it’s hard, but from what I understand from your post it 2 or 3 days at the most?! You don’t have any personal hobbies to occupy your time? Read a good book!

My position is this. Your partners psyche is way screwed up. Does his ex wife know he’s gay? But one thing for sure… he love his kids. If you screw with that… you are screwing with YOUR relationship with him.

I’m not gay, and Hotdog just posted a beautiful post. He said in a far more gentle way some of what I was thinking.

Bright blessing~
Richard

Well it must be hard for him too. Just give it time and let him know you won’t leave even through these hard times when it feels like he is ignoring you. You will see that in the end everything will work out just fine. =]

It’s up to you but minnie might have a valid point.

Thank you, Richard…I appreciate what you’ve said.

It sounds to me like you need to have a little social life of your own. If he needs time, fine, give it to him if you love him. But that doesn’t mean you have to sit at home doing nothing. Go out! Have a good time on your own! Find some new friends, and enjoy the time to yourself. It’s good to have separate friends in a relationship, so when you two need time away, you have somewhere to go. That’s my two cents.

Uhhh ! I am not gay so i really don’t know waht to say. But i feel Richard ’s answer is much better. So think about it and make a good decision.

Keep yourself busy when his kids are around. Those kids are your boyfiend’s so try to understand his situation . you seem a nice couple so try to work things out & don’t let small things to affect your relationship negatively because it is hard to find love & you are so lucky that you have found it so do your best to make it work .
GOOD LUCK

thank you to all your advice.i have taken it all to heart and will realy think about it.this man is the love of my life.thank you to all once again!!!!!!!!!!

Hey Calv, glad to hear the good news. Glad to have helped. Give me a shout sometime to let me know how things work out.

2 or 3 days out of 14 I would say the percentage of time spent, would be in your favour. They are his children and he spends very little time with them in the scheme of things. Have the good grace to allow him to be with his children, work on your relationship , when the children are not there.