girl help: all i want is a relationship with someone and have someone to be with… im more than capeable of getting one but for some reason im so picky.. - Help.com

did i make thise post? few years ago if i did…
I was in the same situation as you are now so i know kinda what your going through. You need to accept a few things, the first one, you arent being “picky”.
The psychology behind that “picky” mentality is something along the lines of, “Well i really like the girl, but he has a stumpy left toe” (or something like that). You are not giving yourself the oppertunity to fall for that person, and the reason for this… You are afraid, you are afraid that this person will reject you, and do it in a big embarassing way.
In the past i have been mistaken for being 33-37 years old (probably not a good thing considering im about 20 somehting), but how you act is your business, if you cant fall for girls your age look a little higher, just because you are 22 (or whatever) dosent mean you need to date 18-22 year olds if you dont want too.
One of the best resourse i have ever seen is a series of publications by a guy called David DeAnglo (something like that, do a net search). Id suggest you read and apply his advice, see if it works, because lets look at it from a realistic point of view, what you are doing at the moment, isn’t working.
Of course now all the posts about waiting for the “Right one” and “soul mate” will follow, but in that regard, im impatient. Besides, ive rather had more fun looking and finding, rather then sitting back and waiting :)

Matt123, i know what you’re talking about. People always say i’m 19 going on 30! ; ) But i don’t give a **** really because I am what I am, and if people don’t like that, then it’s certainly not my problem. With relationships, you just have to take the plunge i guess. And even if all does not go well, it’s better to have lived than not lived at all.

you will know when the right girl comes along because nothing will stop you from moving foward with her