Love help: I first met my husband when I was 21 yrs old, our story in a - Help.com

i can’t believe no one replied to this!!!!!

i’m so sorry, it looks like your husband is very bad at recognizing just how much you’re worth and what you deserve :( - and you deserve much better than that, believe me!

you’re not wrong whatsoever to wonder about those things, why he did those things - he treated you like something less than a person, and he’s the one person in your life who ought to be reaffirming you constantly.

i think you should ask him these questions, confront him and don’t let him get away until he gives you the answers you deserve.

You definitely should talk to him about the past. Even if you don’t get the closure you need, at least maybe you two can let it go. What’s in the past is just that - past. You should probably focus more on the future, having a good relationship with him and your kids.

I totally agree with wot Trent and Mitz said. You have done nothing wrong darling. I suggest you talk to him about the past, get it all out in the open and stuff or it will just fester and poison the relationship. Does sound like he used you as a ‘yes’ girl but there is obv some thing there or ya would not have lasted so long together. Work on it together and you could be very happy.

Talk to your husband let him know how you feel you deserve much better than that
Communication is essential for any relationship to flourish, especially between a husband and wife. Share your feelings, your thoughts, and discuss work things out together.If you have a disagreement, which there are bound to be many throughout your married life, don’t let things get out of hand.Talk things over as calmly as possible and agree or learn to compromise on a solution to the problem

I’m sorry, I’m a little confused, before we talk, can you tell me… are your children 20 and 17 years (or months) old??

I have to agree with the responses above. You should speak with him. It sounds like it isn’t healthy or doing you much good to internalize your concerns and unhappiness. Its difficult to be in a relationship and to go on as though nothing has affected you. You really deserve better …and deserving better is about making sure other people in your life treat you with the respect and honesty. Don’t allow yourself to be treated that way… unstable or roller coaster relationships are no fun. Eventually you get sick of the ride and need to get off. Whatever the outcome may be, prepare yourself to take care of YOU! If he isn’t putting you at the top of his list, put yourself at the top of yours.