ƒ(x)=healberry³ changed the tags on this post: they were "Internet, life, Accepted, Fact, Point, Real Life, Part, Stop, lot, work" 2 years, 3 months ago.
I would say to try and do things you love more outwardly. For a few seconds ty and not think about regrets or fears and just be happy. then maybe your true nature will be show and if it is it will surely attract others.
Practice relaxation. Learn to laugh. Enjoy things, friends, family, people. Look for the humor in things.
@Bad Idea: The thing is, that’s very hard for me to do..does this mean that this is my true nature, being uptight?
@stars: A lot of times, I just can’t see the humor in things…like I understand how people could find something funny, its just that it isn’t funny for me. I rarely smile, so I guess I need to work on that.
you can’t destroy a part of yourself. i suggest pondering the reasons why you’re unable to just chill out. there is a big picture out there that doesn’t judge details.
When it comes down to it, we have much more power over ourselves then we realize. We can change ourselves, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. It’s the simple things that change us, like laughing at ourselves. As someone once said, “A man who cannot laugh at himself deserves to be laughed at by others.” Learning to accept yourself for who you are, and accepting that you make mistakes opens up so many doors. Often we are something simply because we do not see ourselves clearly.
thats just who you are. dont change yourself for other people cuz at the end of the day the only one left standing is you. if people find you uptight then hang with people who understand you and your personality. i have plenty or serious friends and really hyper friends…i guess it all depends. there maybe be a deeper reason to your problem.
hi you are my friend.
is that how u do it??
Nope, sorry…you click the icon that has the # sign next to it. That adds people as friends.
Ugh, it probably has to do with my deep fear of failure and abandonment, I’ve been known to fluctuate moods sometimes too, but I’m usually serious or sad for the most part.
Allow yourself to make mistakes and be stupid and see that your entire world doesn’t fall apart and that everyone doesn’t stop talking to you. They will have a good laugh and eventually you probably will too.
It’s hard to allow myself to make mistakes, anytime I do make mistakes I feel that I’m a failure as a person.
I’ve felt that way a lot before. I’ve felt like a failure and I also have the huge fear not only that everyone I care about will leave me, but that I will deserve it. The more I let myself make mistakes and just make myself laugh, the more I get used to it. I’ve discovered that it makes me seem more human and easy to connect with other people. If you never make mistakes, people who make mistakes have a hard time understanding you and you have a hard time understanding them. You’ve seen that not letting yourself make mistakes is causing you problems and isolating you, it might be hard to allow yourself to make mistakes, but the rewards are definitely worth it.
I do make mistakes, and when I do I always feel bad after that, but I try to prevent as many mistakes from happening as possible. I think I need to practice smiling, perhaps that might help my mood get better.
Rekaru … i have been similar to you my entire life. i have found that looking at life and all it’s experiences similar as to how i would view a movie has taken some of the intensity out of it. it has allowed me to ‘appear’ to others as having ‘lightened up’. actually i haven’t ‘lightened up’ at all!! i have just found a way to present myself in a way that others view differently ?? does that make sense?
you do not need to change yourself. i know fear of abandonment very well … and the one person who i have learned must NEVER abandon me … is ME. be yourself, honor yourself, love yourself, allow yourself to expand and grow. you will find that you out grow parts of yourself allow yourself to let go of the parts you outgrow.
we all make ‘mistakes’ and depending on the perspective you take EVERYTHING could be a ‘mistake’.
be kind to yourself sweety. you deserve it.
This account has been deactivated.
rekaru- Yeah, definitely practice smiling and laughing as much as humanly possible. It is a wonderful thing. My friends taught me to sing the Oscar Mayer Bologna song and the Oscar Mayer weiner song. You should learn those and sing them often. They make you smile and teach you to be silly.
you’re just another person making your way through this life … be kind to yourself and to others. Smiling goes a long way …
I wish I were an oscar myer weiner
that is what I truly want to be . . .
For if I were an oscar myer weiner
everyone would be in love with me!
This account has been deactivated.
Yay yours_dietcoke! You got the Oscar Myer weiner song, now can you get the bologna song?
Rekaru, do you know the bologna song?
Actually, yours_dietcoke, that post made me a bit teary. I think what you said makes sense. So I guess I have to present myself differently? I think that might be a little hard for me to accomplish.
And JoJo, I’ll try. Also, no I don’t know any of those songs.
Well, yours_dietcoke gave you the oscar myer weiner song. Unfortunately we can’t give you the tune. hmm….I will work on that. For now, try saying it 3 times a day.
Oscar Myer Bologna song
My bologna has a first name it’s oscar
My bologna has a second name it’s mayer
I love to eat it every day and if you ask me why I’ll say
Cuz oscar mayer has a way with bologna
That’s another one to say 3 times a day :)
By the way, don’t be too scared of me. I wasn’t serious about saying those songs 3 times a day lol
Heh, no its fine. I don’t scare easily..you almost convinced me to say them too.
Dang, I was so close lol I meant it, I meant it. Definitely say them 3 times a day.
Well, how can I be so sure now when you quickly changed your opinion? >.>
ummm…..that was my other personality. This personality is 100% sure lol
Hehe, so you have split personalities now. So if you’re 100% in this personality and 0% on the other, wouldn’t that wholly make you 50% sure? lol
ummm…..none of my personalities are good at math lol
All I know for sure is that you should definitely say the oscar mayer songs 3 times a day. It is crucial for good mental health.
Uh huh, well I’ll definitely think about that one. If it works, I’ll tell you so.
My friends found something wonderful for you :http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tF37vBu4g34
Haha, that’s so silly. Totally retro too. Um, thanks.
See, you need to be singing that song at least 3 times a day. Did it make you laugh at all?
No, but your attempts to get me to sing the Oscar Meyer song did. Thanks, you brightened my day. =)
No problem, anytime. Pretty soon, your new assignment will be to sing that song in front of other people. Be prepared :) Talk to you later.
Sorry girls, I got caught up in another post. I tried to watch the commercial but for some reason my speaker is not working!
This account has been deactivated.
Kay, see you JoJo. And no, I’m not one to sing. >.<
Haha, yours_dietcoke, I’m not a girl. It’s okay though, that always happens.
rekaru … if my post brought tears to you, it hit a cord. Honey … be gentle with yourself. you will find your way through it. smiling is good. these days i talk to all kinds of strangers … cuz … well we’re all in this to gether eh? oh . . . lol, lol, sorry sweety . . . it works with boys too!!! omg . . . i am sure i am red. funny funny .. . i have two son’s how old are you?
This account has been deactivated.
That’s alright dietcoke, we were just goofing off a bit. I hope the other post went well. You’ll have to listen to the commercial when your speakers work again.
Talk to you later rekaru. I am not one to sing either, but after much persuasion and hard work, I came to the point where I finally could sing the oscar mayer songs. It changed my life for the better. Well, ok, maybe it didn’t change my life necessarily, but it sure is fun to be so silly and be ok with it.
yep, keep that inner child alive and happy … silly silly. those commercials look so …. archaic!
Sorry I called you a girl rekaru … my stupidity. oh well … have to be kind to self. But, i hope i didn’t make you feel bad honey.
This account has been deactivated.
I’m 16 years old, don’t worry though about the gender thing, it happens a lot on this website. It actually made me smile. I’m trying to better myself, so I’ll definitely take everything said into consideration. Perhaps I’ll try singing too, heh. Thank you girls, you helped cheer me up a bit. See you later.
Good night rekaru. what you are experiencing is not uncommon honey. you’ll work through it. be gentle and kind with yourself. much love dear. sleep well when you get around to it.
my boys are 23 and 21 !
You have made me smile too.
This account has been deactivated.
Whoa, that’s awesome though, your sons are fairly older than I expected. Okay then, good night.
The way i am trying to stop being so uptight is to realize that what other people think of me is none of my business.
I cannot control it or them. I can only do the best I can in my life and seek out others who want to the same, others who want more out of life.
This account has been deactivated.
thanks, wantmore … i needed to hear that.
This account has been deactivated.
we read an essay about something like this today o.O
try controlling the way you judge people. obviously, you’re going to either approve or disapprove of the things that people do, but don’t be so quick to judge - instead, try seeing things from their point of view, make an effort to take a really compassionate look at what they do and why they do it. just being interested and trying to understand is not the same thing as advocating or disapproving… but once you really do understand where they’re coming from, your own judgments will be worth a lot more.
and even better, when you diversify what you understand in this way, it’ll make you more comfortable with what you believe, and more firm in why you believe it :D
everyone is not perfect we all have ways that make us different and sometimes that is a good and bad thing we all have are own opioion about what upttight is u might your uptight and someone else might think your just shy so just be you
From what I know of you, you’re not uptight at all in any way, you’re still finden your feet as to who you are, this feeling is normal, just keep goin the way you’re goin and you will be fine ;) You’re a whole complete person and the only drawback you have is your age, you will have your heart broken many times over just like all of us, but you will come out on top! I have faith in you rekaru, you will show us all how it’s done one day :)
A good way to start is to focus on something that you like about yourself, once you can accept something like that other good things are sure to follow.
ƒ(x)=healberry³ closed this post.
This post has been closed, no more replies. Thanks!
Bad Idea
AnOlderOne
work in progress
The Seven Stars
BrownSugar5199
yours_dietcoke
WantMore
not el Trent
- Fourthings™ -
thejolleyma