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Hi I’m 44 years old, married and I have one child living with me. My son suffers from an autistic type diagnosis called S.I. Dysfunction or sensory integration dysfunction. In 2002 I divorced my first wife and agreed to pay her $3200 dollars a month in spousal and child support. Back then I could barely afford it. I was stupid and didn’t get advice from a lawyer. We went to a mediator instead. I left her everything and left with only the clothes on my back. She has since remarried and my kids from that marriage are 23,19 and 17 respectively. To make things worse I had been working as a government contractor in Kosovo and live here with my current wife and son. I owe so much back child support to my ex-wife that my passport was revoked. I was forced to resign from my job and find my-self a day away from being homeless in Kosovo. My wife is suffering from severe depression, my son needs special care and I’ve depleted my funds completely including the money my family had sent me to get by. I’m so desperate and don’t know how to get out of this mess and save my family. I don’t want to escape my obligation to pay child support. I want to do whats right but I can’t help anyone without a job. Anyone have any ideas?

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Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (26 minutes after post)

I’m barely know what to say… my heart goes out to you, for I found myself in similar straights at 44, I’m 47 now, and still climbing out of the hole, but almost out. I couldn’t have done it without help. Family helped me obtain a lawyer. You need from the sound of it both family and emigration attorney. One thing I learned… if your $3200 a month is court ordered… paying ANY amount of it shows a “good will” effort to the court. At least it did to my judge. I hadn’t paid any based on an agreement with my ex… then she prosicuted me for contempt of court. Since I hadn’t paid any… and appearantly didn’t TRY to pay any (regardless of my agreement) I was found guilty and sentenced to 35 days in jail. Your sentence sounds worse I’m sorry to say. You’ve been to the Embassy and there is nothing they can do to help you? Even if it’s to help you find a job? Stay strong my friend. In the darkest hour the answers do come. Live in the faith that it will get better… and it will.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (3 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Start applying, you will get a job soon. Monster, Yahoo Hotjobs, Careerbuilder are some of the largest job boards, where you can apply for jobs and upload your resume. Since Craigslist, allows free job postings, many smaller companies post their vacancies on this online classifieds website. You can also search for jobs from multiple websites using aggregators like SimplyHired and Indeed. Referrals also are becoming a increasingly popular way to get hired. More details and website links available at
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hotdog321 offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (9 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Keep applying for a job…but, in the meantime contact your state for financial aid. If anybody is entitled, it’s you and your son. Also, look in your local phonebook for Autism chapters…they can work miracles.

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