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I am in a group at school where I hae great friends

and they’re really nice and all, but I have never to some of their houses, some of these girls i have known for more than 2 years! Is it right for me to be feeling a bit upset and rejected about this, as well as the fact that i am not always invited to things like shopping and movies when they go.

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Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (12 minutes after post)

the fact that you’ve never been to their house is not an issue. To me it is prehaps more of a point of worry. They may not be inviting you to their house, because the environment there. Maybe they are embarrassed… or perhaps something worse going on that they can’t share. If they are willing to come to YOUR house then I would think that’s ok.

The fact that they ditch you for movies and stuff is a different matter. That is rude and should be addressed. You need to talk to them and find out the source of the rudeness. If they have a problem with you, if they are good friends they would tell you… and you wouldn’t be hurt. A good friend can tell you ANYTHING with the fear of being resented for telling.
Bright blessings~
Richard

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Clonmel, 26, IE | 2 years, 3 months ago (16 minutes after post)

hey mayb der just worried bout ya cumin 2 der house dey tink its not as gud as your!!!!!!
mayb if u invite dem over more dey mite invite u ova sumtime!!!!!

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Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (19 minutes after post)

ERM… A good friend should be able to tell you anything WITHOUT the fear of being resented or hurting you by them telling.

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mesatanlove offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (3 hours, 47 minutes after post)

Well I believe that some friends are ashamed of their houses and that don’t want you to think less of them because they don’t have a good home or a nice, normal family. As for how you fell about them not letting you come over you should talk to them and see why. And maybe if they know that you fell left out then they might let you go to more outings. I know that it sounds like a bad idea to talk about how you fell, but it might do some great things. Just try it.

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