friends help: Ever feel that your online friends & conversations are better than the ones you have in person? - Help.com

i used to have good friends. but when we starting talking via msn, our first arguments really began.

Do you think that when your on line you think about what youre going to say and how you are going to say it a little more?
Also you can talk only when you want to,
Make coffee without having to make 2,
Wear no make up
or pick your nose while your talking
:o)

OK then lol
I JUST disproved the thinking 1st lol

I think it’s because we have more time to think about what we are saying. And it’s less embarrassing to say things, because it is just typed words, nothing more. Also, you can say all you have to say without anyone interrupting :)

I’m kinda isolated where I live and since moving here I lost all my old friends, (not that I had that many lol) at first they were saying how they would love to come and visit me but we have grown apart. With the internet I can log on when _I_ have time, and not just when I want things but to share with other people too. It’s late on sunday night right now, even when I had friends I couldn’t have called any of them up just to say, “Hi,” they’d want a big reason why I was disturbing them. On-line everyone is here because they wanna be, it’s not like they are trying to have a quiet night in with their b/f or get some work done but are just being nice ‘cos they are supposed to be your friend.

I prefer person to person hands down, even when I am just meeting people, it may be shaky and cliche at first, but to have a close friend it is better to be close.

If I had conversations with people in person I would be better able to compare.

Seriously though things in person are always better and allow for all the non-verbal and inflection cues to help communication, but there is the embarrassment of being face to face with the person so sometimes the openness isn’t as good as it is here.

These online conversation allow you to say the full thought without interruption. Also you are allowed to take whatever time you need to flesh out the thought. If anyone becomes interested in what you have said they get to respond with the same advantages and protections. Plus a whole group of people “listen” to what you have said. It is so much easier to get into a conversation here because of these factor plus the big one - it doesn’t matter if you sound dumb you will never cross paths with these people in the real world!

thing is, whats irriitating on online discussions, u can’t tell if some1 is being sarcastic or not. thats how my arguments really began.

i sometimes have that problem too..like my m8 laura..we have alot in common and have great chats on msn…then when we’re face to face with some other ppl it doesnt work out gr8! and yes i agree with someone above that you dont get interupted =]

I think that the online conversations… are very healthy… it gives everybody the chance to see what others are thinking and feeling… to learn and to grow.. to share and experience feedback… and to not feel threatened… to be able to open up and have a meaningful dialogue with others… to share with ones that are across the world… in another culture altogether… a way for introverts.. like myself… to be able to express themselves…. and of course… everyone gets to put the best foot forward… so to say… expressing the good side of themselves.. me included… as we all have a bad side… one that is not nearly as pleasant as the one we want to project… so… everyone is pretty much protected from that side of ourselves.. that we don’t want to show… and which.. in interpersonal relationships.. always comes forth… at some point… so.. Yeah… to online friendship…. the best of both worlds…. Let it happen… we need as many friends as we can get… whether online or off… friendship… is the oil that makes a sqeaky connection… not so squeaky…..

Best wishes….. to all….

oh, by the way… I just found where many of you had added me to your fan list…and now, that I found this… and accepted you as a friend…it feels very good…. and for that, I am very thankful…. so many had rejected my way of doing things.. that it feels good to be accepted by the ones that have… and I know that there are more out there that feel the same way.. but, like me.. have not yet figured out how to work all the features of this board…so… welcome friends… and know that it feels very good indeed.. to look below my posts.. now.. and see smiling faces… of acceptance… and for anyone out there that would like to add my name to your list.. please feel free to do so.. we may not always agree.. but.. we can agree to be agreeable…..friendship is a beautiful thing……

Gods richest blessings… to you all…..