Love help: my girlfriend doesnt like my past and often brings it up which i hate. - Help.com

she is insecure… she sees you with all this experiance.. an herself with not much.. think she need reasurance…

Well if she’s never even kissed someone before you, she’s probably kind of new to the whole relationship thing, so she doesn’t know how to react to your past. I don’t want to sound mean, but she’s gonna have to get over that. Everyone has a past, and everyone has baggage. Unless she meets someone who’s lived under a rock until just then, which is not likely.

Let her know how you feel. Tell her it’s upsetting you. But also reassure her that you’re with HER now and not those other women. You’ve chosen to be with HER and no one else. Tell her what you just told us: “just want to forget it and move on with life with her.” It seems like your past bothers you too. So tell her this. You want to forget it ever happened and create new, happier memories with her.

Good luck!

If she can’t get over your past, then she needs to move on. Any you can help her with this if you want. The past is just that… past. Can it come back to haunt us? yes… can we relive it? most certainly… these are the things your girl is afraid of as the previous reply said, “insecure”.

I really like all of the above replies and I really liked what Nikki said about your conversation with her… you do need to talk to her.

AND for YOU. Your girlfriend is bringing your past back to you. She, by her mere thoughts and passion, is createing a very tempting world for you; mainly the world of your past. You will start to find yourself, if you havent already, in those situations where you will be tested. She is, by mere will, setting you up to fail. The thing is YOU don’t have to fail, as long as you know what it happening. I understand your resentment for these tests… but that is why you need to speak with her. Only when she is more secure, will she stop testing you.
Bright blessings~
Richard

I agree completely with Izzy007. Unfortunately that is a problem she is going to have to deal with herself. :/

sit her down tell her you dont like it that shes brings up your past maybe she will stop once she sees how its hurting you

How long have you been with her???? It doesn’t sound like it has been too long.

I got with my b.f 3 years ago and didn’t know he had been married before i asked! Finding out made me very paranoid and concious etc but after a while it died down, now i don’t care about his past because we have been with each other for enough time to know that i never want to put him through what his ex wife put him through and knowing that he loves me much more than he ever loved her because i am the conplete opposite.

I definitely think time solves this one

we’ve been together 11 months . its still all the same **** .

p.s. i am the person who wrote this

hey monty.. i’m stickin with the insecure.. she the one with the problem..:)

just Ask her to stop talking about it simple