Love help: I’m just really down and depressed and constantly feel like I’m battling alone.

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I’m just really down and depressed and constantly feel like I’m battling alone.

I crave the attention my friends and younger sister so easily get off guys, they can’t understand how lonely I feel because they’re both quite whorish and sleep around. So when I say how lonely I am and need some love and attention and need to loose weight and look better to get that they always say they do too, when they don’t, society has already accepted them and they’ve had plenty of attention and it would be nice to get some just so I feel wanted and don’t feel like I’ve completely failed at life. I just wish that for once I would have someone there to message/email/call me so that I feel closeness to someone and not like I could fall off the end of the earth and no one would notice. I’m a perfectionist and keep trying to loose weight to look better and knowing I’m not liked the way I am makes me want to loose weight more. I over exercise and its now caused me stress in my legs and find it difficult to walk. I’m 5ft8in and weigh 9st2lbs, nothing special. When I can’t exercise I feel anxious and sick

I’m often described as a heartless cold b!tch, which is what this has resorted me to. Just seems people always go for needy dependent girls, whereas I am very much independent and don’t rely on others at all. I just want to feel wanted and not a complete social reject. I lack confidence as it is, and knowing I’m not wanted only reduces my confidence. I’m 19, how long does it take to find someone, anyone?
I just feel that there no one to talk to and everyone else turns the problem into their own, despite not having the acceptance problem; they can’t understand how I feel. Sorry for the long post :(

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Evycontent 1 #
Brooklyn, NY, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (30 minutes after post)

Professional help is all good. However, I can almost feel the wanting in your words. I’ve been where you are. You are not alone. I hear you loud and clear. You matter! As long as you’re alive, you have a chance to be happy. I was lost in a darkness that had no end. No matter what the problem is, is really is’nt. Right? Please write more about your feelings. One day you’ll be just as content as you want to be. Everything is possible. Pray. I’ll pray for you to find peace and contentment. My best to you always. (Evycontent)

Christina Sponias 1 #
Athens, 35, GR | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

Don’t feel depressed for this reason, because you are young and you have health, you have many good things in your life and many skills. Don’t pay attention to what people say…

Relax and believe in your personality’s value.
If you are sincere and you help the others you’ll make many friends and find the right person for you.
This is a big world!

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SnowSi #
Rochester, NY, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

I’m sorry that you feel this way. People like us are rare life doesn’t seem to satisfi us. I’m 29, sitting at work, I go on the net and type in help this site comes up. Here you are I felt this why when I was 19, too. I don’t have your answers but I’ll tell you, you’ll never stop looking. I own a company and that doesn’t do it for me, I have a house, a boat, 5 trucks. Still, here I am. I’ve even been married. If I can tell you anything don’t let life comsume you, just take it, I helps. I mean try not to stress on it to much. People and love will come into your life just know when you have it and don’t lose it. I was young and dumb and let the some great ones get away.

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Omaha, NE, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 34 minutes after post)

i’ve been there as well, but as a “needy, dependent” girl you described. it was never easy, and it never will be, feeling like u don’t fit in and like you’re not cared for. but people DO care, whether you know it or not. don’t worry about your weight too much, you’re fine the way you are. you’re not alone,there’s a lot of people that feel the same way you do, but trust me, it’ll get better.

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LuLu 1 #
Mount Laurel, NJ, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (20 hours, 26 minutes after post)

I just feel like I’m living only in hope. I try to convince myself that I don’t care, but I do, and that I should just quit bothering about ever finding anyone, but that tiny bit of hope remains and I just cant let it go, which is surprising as I have become such a negative person.

Sorry, tvluvr15 I didn’t mean to offend you, I just meant that guys tend to generally go for girls who they can look after, whereas I am very much independent and don’t rely on people at all.

I just really hope that life turns around because I feel like I am actually dying a lot inside.

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Evycontent 1 #
Brooklyn, NY, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

I don’t have a quote for you yet — one’s comming? I wanted to let you know I think you’re great for doing this. You go girl!

LuLu 1 #
Mount Laurel, NJ, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

just to let people know that i have branched out and am seeing other people. went out with a friend on saturday in the end, clearly a real friend who is willing to do stuff and be there not only when she wants something, but when I want it to…which is really nice. just a shame the summers over and I will be returning to Uni

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