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What do you do when the one you’re with wants and needs you a lot more than you want and need them?


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~LazyDaze online Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 211 #
Colwyn Bay, 90, GB | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

Just accept that we can’t all have the exact same feelings for everyone else as they do for us.
There is nothing you can do, as long as you are happy with where you are and who you are with, don’t ever do things just because you fear hurting someone else’s feelings, if its makeing worry then the best thing is to get it out in the open and explain how you feel to them, it may hurt but at least you wont feel pressured into something you are not ready for.

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Hyperactiv3 offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 27 minutes after post)

I agree with LazyDaze. get it out in the open and let them know and get it off your chest. how long have you been with him/her? it takes time i didnt really need or want my girlfriend as much as she needed and wanted me for the first a few months we were together. now its almost 4 years and I cant live with out her. she’s my world.

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Adolphus, KY, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (8 hours, 27 minutes after post)

In your other post you stated that you gravitate toward needy people..

You might want to check out info on codependency… I think that fits what it

is…

And I would let them go, as I don’t see how you can be helping them, if you

feel like you want to be somewhere else….

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x_waitingforthesun_ offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Whitehall, PA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

Well, I’ve been with them for over 14 months now. I think I’ve always known what I needed to do I just needed to hear it from someone else. Thank you all =)

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