life help: It is 389 days until I’m eighteen, and I’m pretty sure I’m leaving town the minute midnight strikes.

Ruricolous

It is 389 days until I’m eighteen, and I’m pretty sure I’m leaving town the minute midnight strikes.

I don’t know what else to do here in my life, I haven’t been allowed to grow up. I’m mad at my parents for that, mad at them that they’ve babied me for so long that I don’t know how to be grown-up, I don’t know how to take care of myself. They’ve crippled me, essentially… Is it so weird that it breaks my heart at the same time? I never wanted this, I would’ve loved to stay in the warm, loving family we pretend to be - and sometimes, we actually are. So, I’m leaving the minute I can. I’m sadder for my mom, because at least she’s trying to fix everything now.

I feel sad. I want to tell her, Stop trying. It’s all gone to the dogs, stop trying.

So! I have three places lined up at the moment: Chicago, San Francisco, or San Diego. The first one is where I’ve got a couple of friends and family that would take me in until I got up and running. The last one is where my brother will be in the spring, and he’s offered to take me in, but he’ll be a struggling, starving college student. Wouldn’t be fair, you know? And San Francisco is where my best friend’s brother is living, and we’ve been drawing out the plans that we’ll save up for the next year from jobs and birthday/christmas money and starving to keep our lunch money and what not - so that we can move out there as roommates and so on.

Any suggestions? Chicago has snow, but I do so love the hills of San Francisco. San Diego? … Maybe. I wouldn’t want to put the strain on my brother, so that’ll be my last option.

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It is 389 days until I’m eighteen, and I’m pretty sure I’m leaving the town the minute midnight strikes. I don’t know what else to do here in my life, I haven’t been allowed to grow up. I’m mad at my parents for that, mad at them that they’ve babied me for so long that I don’t know how to be grown-up, I don’t know how to take care of myself. They’ve crippled me, essentially… Is it so weird that it breaks my heart at the same time? I never wanted this, I would’ve loved to stay in the warm, loving family we pretend to be - and sometimes, we actually are. So, I’m leaving the minute I can. I’m sadder for my mom, because at least she’s trying to fix everything now.

I feel sad. I want to tell her, Stop trying. It’s all gone to the dogs, stop trying.

So! I have three places lined up at the moment: Chicago, San Francisco, or San Diego. The first one is where I’ve got a couple of friends and family that would take me in until I got up and running. The last one is where my brother will be in the spring, and he’s offered to take me in, but he’ll be a struggling, starving college student. Wouldn’t be fair, you know? And San Francisco is where my best friend’s brother is living, and we’ve been drawing out the plans that we’ll save up for the next year from jobs and birthday/christmas money and starving to keep our lunch money and what not - so that we can move out there as roommates and so on.

Any suggestions? Chicago has snow, but I do so love the hills of San Francisco. San Diego? … Maybe. I wouldn’t want to put the strain on my brother, so that’ll be my last option.

Help me with: It’s been three weeks, apparently - actually, I think more like four now.

Jeff 4 #
Gamla Stan, 26, SE | 3 years, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

SF is not a good option if you’re low on cash — you might be able to make it in the surrounding regions, but SF is really, REALLY expensive to live in even small one bedroom places.

I couldn’t say what it’s like for the other places, however I know that craigslist has sections for each of those cities — so check those out to get a feel for it.

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Ruricolous 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Really? Wow, I had not known that. Thank you, I’ll be sure to look into it, though… I dunno, I’m looking to have a book published this winter and I hope that comes through. A lot of what I’m planning hinges on that at the moment, but for now I’m planning on being a penniless teenager without a star to hope on.

What’s Craigslist? I haven’t heard of that.

Maybe Chicago, then…

Help me with: It’s been three weeks, apparently - actually, I think more like four now.

Jeff 4 #
Gamla Stan, 26, SE | 3 years, 2 months ago (19 minutes after post)

http://sfbay.craigslist.org/
http://chicago.craigslist.org/
and
http://sandiego.craigslist.org/

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Ruricolous 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 2 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Oh, thank you! That’s very helpful. ^^

Help me with: It’s been three weeks, apparently - actually, I think more like four now.

Jeff 4 #
Gamla Stan, 26, SE | 3 years, 2 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Np :)

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 2 months ago (54 minutes after post)

You know, im in the same situation right now, im 18 and i had everything planned out.

I thought that i had life so easy at home, and that i wasnt allowed to do anything normal people my age were allowed to do, So i moved out, got a job, lost it, got another job lost it, had an apartment lost it. Now im living with my gf’s friend, and will soon be moving with her down to my moms house until i finish schooling and save up enough money to get an apartment.

Im not telling you that your decision is wrong, you’ll be 18, and im sure you have enough life knowledge and commone sense to see how hard it is to live on your own starting from nothing.

My main motive for writing this was just me wondering if you have any back up plans for if your book dosent get published, because if it dosent where will that put you, and its ok to be a hopeless teenager for awhile, but what happens when ure 20, 30 or 40. What will your finacial situation be, will you be living in a shelter, or have a place of your own?

Just make sure that you let your parents know what your doing, because in the case that things down work out for you, they’d really like to know that your alive, and that your at least somewhere in life

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Eddy 0 #
US | 3 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 57 minutes after post)

Cant you get a dorm at uni or somthing? Havnt a clue what its like in america though but yeah.. thats what im going to do… uni plus a part time job then onto full time after with a flat =)

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ethan.t 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 2 months ago (6 days, 2 hours after post)

you haven’t been in the real world yet, have fun paying taxes, health insurrance, car insurance, bills, electric bill…

sure when i’m 18 i’m goin to move out. but seriously, as soon as you get a taste of whats out there, i really don’t think you’ll want to move you.

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