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Whenever a bloke I really like asks me out, I always say ‘no’ because I never feel good enough for them or take them seriously.

I then end up feeling I’m the one whos rejected, but I’m the one who rejects them.

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Fire offline Verified User (3 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (20 minutes after post)

dont worry about them being better, often they are worse.

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2 years, 2 months ago (40 minutes after post)

can you be more clear please..

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (43 minutes after post)

many times i tend to get an impression of people that they are better than me, but ussually they do not match up to my original imppression. most guys are after one thing when they ask a girl to go out with them.. they are not as good as you think.

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LuLu offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 Add Friend #
Mount Laurel, NJ, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 27 minutes after post)

i do the same, i dont take it seriously, i think its a joke on me. its probably due to insecurities and not being able to accept yourself. ive rejected and am living to really regret it. you should do what you think is right but try to accept yourself and realise that they probably just like you for who you are, if you weren’t good enough then they simply would have ignored you.

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Delft, 11, NL | 2 years, 2 months ago (8 hours, 36 minutes after post)

so..tomorrow go and ask him if he wants to go somewhere, why do you give up when you can fix it?

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2 years, 2 months ago (23 hours, 12 minutes after post)

yeh, I think its a joke and to do with my own insecurities.
It’s like I want things to go my way, and being unable to go the other persons because I live in my own little world lol

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jesusisthewa offline Unverified User #
US | 2 years, 2 months ago (5 days, 9 hours after post)

Just say Yes for once instead of rejecting them.

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Delft, 11, NL | 2 years, 2 months ago (5 days, 9 hours after post)

yeah, just say YES, don´t play safe.
if you play safe all the time, u don´t live.

it´s not like the guy is asking u to marry him! lol.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 week, 2 days after post)

if yoo tke a risk yoo never no one of the guys that u reject cud b the love of your life :):):):):):)

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