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What is making you so upset? Why are you so sad? How long have you been feeling this way and who have you asked for help?
I try to talk to anyone who listens. I cry so hard with my mom. But it been goin on for about ten years. She ask my why I am crying and sometimes I don’t know. She so use to it know that is dosen’t bother her until she thinks I am suicidal. I try not to do as much around her becuase she actually call our family doctor without my premission. That was so embrassing. To smile in someone face, lieing to them. Telling them that you are alright when they kno your secrets. Something hurts so bad inside that the little things make me wanna stop existing. I did pills to keep me asleep when ever I feel like this. My boyfriend saw this and took all my meds away. Although I kno that there are people that loves me. It is something in my head that thinks that they don’t. I am not going to lie. I have try to hurt myself so I can’t stop thinking that the world is against me. At first I tought it was an attempt to get people to care. BUt after awhile it became more than that. I start to do it more often. And cut start to become more deeper. My bf saw the scars. After the a whole year of doing this he is the only one that ever notice. He ask me 2 stop and I did. But I still have an urge to still do it…like now. I am losing my job, he just found out he my have a kid, and my car broke down on me today. All this happen to me in less in two days and that is the story on my life. I want the world to stop crapping on me. I want this to stop. I want the pain to go away.
well calm down don’t kill urself
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Talk to a doctor. Tell them how you are really feeling. Get a therapist. You need some help. If you want to feel better you need to take some positive steps to get yourself better. Talk to your doctor right away and tell them you need a referral for a counselor.
Your boyfriend took your meds away? Were they prescibed?
I can relate to everything you are saying here. The times that I have been depressed and crying for no reason told the doctors that I have an imbalance that is beyond my control and medication can help it. I had to go through a few different ones until they found the one right for me, but medications do help.
I agree with JoJo, please talk with a doctor. There is so much help available.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I have felt the world on top of me also. I hope it helps in some small way to know other have felt similar things to what you discribe here and you are not alone. *hugs*
Hey sounds like u r bipolar and need proper medication to help you recover balance!!
Tell the doctor exactly what’s happening, don’t lie to him! don’t smile and lie!!!
no they was his meds… he had knee surgey so they were strong pain pills. bipolar??? wat that. I can’t help to lie… I feel so ashame. Right now I don’t have any insurance. I know in my heart I need help. My bf told me today that you can’t control things in life but you can control your reactions to them. He is right but I feel like I have no control. I can’t stop thinking about how much I am losing my mind. If it wasn’t for my daughter I think I would have gave up a long time ago. I wanna get these thought out of my head. Sometimes I feel like the guy on lord of the ring, Seamguel. Like it is something in me that is against me.
Oh, the two different people effect. Seamguel! I’ve got that! Yes, you really need to see a doctor. I now it is tough without insurance but maybe try to scrap up some money and go to a low cost clinic. Also, if they prescribe you a med. Check the company’s polics for low-cost or free programs you might be eligible for.
It is tough to get there. It took me a good 5 years or so before I told my doctor about what I was going through. But once you get that help, it feels so good to know you are walking in the right direction.
I am tryin so hard. I told myself that if I stop taking pills and hurting myself that God would take care off the rest. I am not to sure any more. I think the world forgot about me, including Him. It so easy for me to take a pill and feel nothing. It so easy for me to cut myself and contrate more on the physical pain than the mental. I am trying so hard. It has been amost a week… with no pill or nohting. But today I am gettin weak. Today I am caving in. Today I need someone to talk to and stop me.
Listen, whenever you feel down, you have to react quickly and change your environment, go and have an ice cream, or go to a sauna, or just play some loud music, or start to do some painting, or working out, or jogging, or just go outside to take a walk o to sit on the grass. Also try to change your place adding happy motives and paintings, why not?
You have to try to solve things with your own will and strenght, don’t try to depend on other people, people will not always be there for you, or even worse, people won’t always care. You have plenty or reasons to be happy I’m sure. Focus on that.
Also if you want to strenghten your faith, you should go to a church and ask to have a study, they will go to your house and show you what a beautiful book the bible is.
But you have to be active, attack the problem, have initiative, don’t wait things to be solved by themselves.
If you are convinced that you want to stop harming yourself, and start making changes, you’ll find it easier and easier to restrain the bad feelings. Of course there will always be ups and downs, but if you keep fighting and trying, you will find improvement.
Also there is that free telephone number that the Helpbot gave you on the first reply, call that number whenever you feel bad,
just kill ur self and stop complaining. do it do it do it! NA just kidding sometime u need to hear this and think WOW these person it crazy but think about what i said and now i change ur mind about killing ur self. Or maybe put a smile on ur face. Life is only 1 we dont get a other changes to live again so think about it, Ur 1 person, 1 life, 1 heart. Nobody is = to u so don’t let the worse take ur 1 thing
i have really abd exam depression i am going through it at the moment any advice
i am also depress to…but there like nothing to do to help it…
I’m depress to. I’m siting all alone and can’t do anything. I can’t watch tv or go on my computer. I’m just so depressed. I feel like my friends has all forgot about me, I feel like they don’t care anymore. Mabye I create my own pain so they can comfort me?..
I feel like im wasting my life…
it’s so empty inside me.. I feel like I just wanna start crying but I can’t…
It’s hard to explain the feeling I have inside me..
I feel the same thing too!! I feel like my boy friend is starting to be an ***!! Everything he do stress me out!! Everything i do STRESS me out too!! Nothing in my life really work!!
Never knew there are people out there who feels this way, All this while i taught i was the only one. I use to go to lonely places and lock myself in the room and start crying for no reason. I was not like this before, i use to be an active person…. i can’t even remember when i started to be this way and the worst part is that i can’t come out of it.
There were times when i taught that people might have put a charm on me or something, because the were no reason for all the sad feelings that i had in me. I know that i could have made things better if i would have known the reason, but this time i was helpless…. it was humiliating and i hid it from everyone…..
It has been almost 3 years now that i’ve felt this…. i really wanna stop this, i have cried and cried all night long and still felt the same way.
This has actually brough my confidence level down too…. I’am scared to speake up now… am always scared that i will make mistakes and often feel that no one likes me. It’s really difficult to make frens now….
I’m the same way right now. I always get this way when work slows down. (I’m a freelancer.) I try to fight the depression & I think I’m making progress but then another day comes & it feels bad again. Like there’s nothing to look forward to. Even though I know there are many things I should appreciate, like my loving wife, my loving parents, & my health (so far). I honestly don’t know what to do. Being an introvert, when I don’t feel good, I withdraw from people because it’s hard for me to socialize. I’ve tried positive reinforcement, saying to myself positive encouraging things, but it doesn’t seem to stick. It just feels like some things just happen in life & there’s no way to really fight it. You just have to go with it & hang on until things get better. I guess I’m not strong enough mentally to control my reaction to the things that happen in life. Just hang on. Just hang on. Tomorrow could be better. What’s the alternative? Checking out of life? Now there’s a guarantee that you won’t feel better. You won’t feel anything at all. You can’t really appreciate the good times unless you go through bad times. Just hang on & get through the bad times. Try to be strong. If not for you, for the people who love you.
To tell all of you honestly… I’m feeling slightly better about myslef when i found out about this web page…. Some how it never helped or worked for me when everyone tried talking about the problem that i was going through and i was to an extend scared that they might just give up on me. It’s just that, it was very difficult to explain to someone that you are just feeling sad for no reason, come on…. who in the right sense of mind would feel that way (that was what ussualy normal poeple would think, I taught)… And most times, the pwople who were advicing me will always try to find out what was bothering me and this was why i felt that they will never know and i will never get out of this, because it was nothing…..
Honestly to tell all of you, just pouring out my feelings out here and to hear similiar comments from you guys is really making me feel so much better. Somehow the feeling is fading off. I just hope that every one of you out there would feel the same way…. It would be nice if we, who are experiencing the same thing help out each other…. Just tell out what ever you feel….
same here!! when i found this web site i was relieve …
Hi..i feel like this is the end of world.no one , o nothing left which could comfort me.in these past few days all i did ws crying.being suicidal is something like to smell death in every corner of world.i don kno how many days i could hold on.wen dis frustration burst out…
All I want is to feel usefull. I also feel like I have been forgotten. Wow, it is much easier to say it here then just bottle it up. I’d suggest writing what you feel like and beleive, (for it is true), that everyone else feels the same. See? Now your not really alone at all.
I’ve been taking an anti-depressant since 7th grade. I am now a freshman in College. Half of my good friends went away to big colleges. I feel like they just dont care about me anymore. It seems as though they are living much better lives. While im stuck here in the same town. I go to a university, but it isnt anything special living in illinois. Sometimes i wonder if anyone from my highschool would care much if i killed myself. Im sure everyone would go on with their lives. But there is a small part of me that wants people to feel angry or upset about not being able to stop me from commiting suicide. Before i would every commit suicide, i would move to a new place. A place to start fresh and meet people who are open to new things and ideas. I could never kill myself because i love my family too much. But i have depressed and suicidal thoughts almost everyday.
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I was on medication from 12-18 and they didn’t do ****. If anything it made me worse. It’s all about a change in perspective. You control your mind no one else. If you think your going crazy then the result will be just that. Start being proactive instead of waiting for another down session to begin. If you feel even remotely going down than do something positive to counter it. This is coming from someone who has done many bad things and now has a wife, kid, home, the good ****. I’m on here today starting to feel down simply because my grandmother is about to die. So I feel if I can at least catch the attention of one person than I’ve done some good. Sometimes helping others helps yourself. Everyone is different just find something that makes you happy and stick with it. Stop thinking negative and start filling your mind with positive. And always remember **** HAPPENS whether it is losing your job, car broke down, family member died, but always remember it will past and life will move on or you can simply stay stuck on it forever not changing a **** thing! When you change your perspective you can see how small and silly the things we do are in the big picture. I hope this helps someone out there who use to feel just like me.
listen to music to cheer you up..think of the positive side of life..although im a pessimistic myself, i have learned that if you don’t give an initial in anything nothing will be accomplished. One reason why you should continue living is what changes in the future..never give up..do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend? if not then think of the person that you love the most in your life and start making some connections, cause there is nothing better than having a good conversation with someone who understands.. Medication doesn’t do **** don’t take them, instead whatever the situation is counter it with GUTS and stand right for altitude makes the difference.
i feel so drepressed, i find it hard to write here but im not sure what else to do. I feel like my friends dont are about me that my two old best friends pushed me out of our triangle and now its just them and im alone. I have so much stress for college and feel like i have no purpose in this world. Im still young, a senior in HS and supose to love it , sometimes i do but now i dont want to live. Plus i am gay and havnt come out to anyone and it chews me up inside. Can anyoe help?
I am so sad I dont know what to do. I smile during the day around people but when I am alone I am so sad. I keep getting dumped like I am a bad curse. I am looking at myself as a ugly and horrible person and can’t take much more. I am not sure what to do anymore.
Everyone goes through periods of feeling down and for all sorts of reasons and at lots of different stages in their lives. I have felt mildly down since childhood, but have always managed to keep it at bay by focussing on something positive or giving myself a little treat, like a walk round the park, when I should be working or a shopping trip. You dont have to spend anything, just say to yourself, ‘I may buy that, dress, bag or shoes, but I will keep looking in case I see a better one and make a decision another day’ That way, you dont end up depressed about your finances too. Im 51 now and divorced. I am very lucky and have a lovely man friend, but I am insecure in the relationship and desperately need him to show committment to help my insecurity. He is also divorced and I think therefore wary of making another mistake, so wont move the relationship on to us living together or being married. I need to feel in a secure relationship and think I may have to look elsewhere even though I love him, as I am getting too old to find anyone else. This is bringing me down as i feel i am wasting time and although part of a couple, we live apart and i feel so lonely. I smile at everyone during the day too, and all would say i am a very upbeat person and never down, but they dont know whats inside. There must be so many people like that. We are all going round looking at people, thinking they are ok, when in truth, they feel as bad as us.
I feel depressed. I have nobody to talk to. I’m completely alone.Nothing makes me happy anymore and nothing good happens to me.I am living in a deep black hole. I cry all the time and I can’t stop myself.I am in college but i’m not doing good because I can’t concentrate. My family hates me,and I feel unwanted. I lost a loved one last year it is my fault she died. I don’t want to live anymore.Even GOD himself hates me.I wish I were dead,this is not a sympathy note.
Firstly, you have a whole world of people to talk to on here. There is nothing you are going through that someone else wont have already gone through themselves, so dont think you are different. Your pain is real and although it feels like you will never be happy again, I promise you will. You just have to hang on and try to function as well as you can. If you can help someone else by using your experience to understand them, you will slowly start to understand why you went through what you did. Everything happens for a reason, but life is sometimes hard. When you turn the corner, you will appreciate the good times. Nothing is forever, be it good or bad.
i dont know anymore im soo young how can you be so deppressed… help
I sometimes feel so sad and lonely? =S… Mostly when i wake up i have this depressing feeling. It bothers me alot, i feel as though something is missing and i need something to fill my heart, i just don’t understand what it is. It’s diffcult for me to sleep when i feel like this. I don’t show it but it really hurts me. It’s not that bad to see a doctor. But i just need some advise, from anyone. Last year i had this feeling for 2months and i couldn’t get over it. Eventually a year passed but its starting to hit me again. Please help me =(
look, any of the things you have (goods, girlfriend, friends..) can be taken, stolen, finally given to others, except the most important: the power within yourself, that thing inside of you where your strength and will comes from even if you’ve lost everything, that’s what makes you unique, special, different, fearless.
when you are young, the best thing to do is to focus on yourself, be the best you can be, fight to build something with a meaning, happiness is in doing, find out what makes you happy, where do you want to be in 5 years.. stuff like that and pursue it, the rest will come on it’s own when the time is right. forget other people, you are the captain of your own ship, you are the one who gives the directions here, and it’s never too late
there’s an advantage in loneliness, there are no distractions, you can think clearer, decide better, happiness is not in another person, in money, I’d say happiness is finding peace within your own skin, just do whatever you can man, you can’t have everything you want in life, but you do have yourself, try to see your life from outside, as if you were looking at a chessboard and start making strategies
best of luck!
I don’t understand myself. I feel so constantly unwanted, as if I don’t quite fit in. I’m a college freshman right now, and I just finished my first year, which was such an improvement over high school. In high school, I had one friend, and I was so grateful for that - we hung out together, and I really loved having her as a friend. She was a wonderful person. But we had our differences. We were friends, I sometimes felt, out of necessity. I hated myself in high school. I was often ostracized by people other than my friend. She’s now in another country. My sister is my best friend, and she’s also in another country doing an internship. I have four months ahead of me, when I return to my hometown, and I’m afraid my friendships in college won’t last those months. I’m afraid that I’m not actually wanted. It’s been finals week, and I’ve been holed up in my room by myself, and I know I should be proactive and knock on other people’s doors. I should call someone. I should talk to someone, but for some reason, I just…something is stopping me. I have this self-destructive mind-frame of, “I don’t think they’d want me to knock; how could they? I’m such a worthless, unlikeable person. I don’t want to bother them with my presence.” I go through some moods where I feel so happy, so right, so connected, and times like these, where I feel so ostracized, alone, and nothing. I feel as if my friends are not real friends. I feel as if I’m unwanted, and I feel this deep, deep heaviness in my chest that constricts my heart, my breathing, so it’s as if I’m gasping for breath. I can see how this is all ridiculous, these feelings, but I’m so afraid of finding out that my fears are truth - that people simply put up with me, that I have no real value on their lives. That I could simply disappear, as I’ve been doing these last few days, and nobody would care at all. It’s a terrible feeling, and I feel as if it’s entirely self-induced and stupid. But it won’t leave me. I would never do anything to myself. I have never harmed myself. I have only been consumed with these thoughts of just peace and ending and finality - but I would never do that because I have such a good, loving family. I love them so much. I could never do that to them. So I live with these horrible, destructive, ridiculous, stupid, oppressing and painful feelings. And I just want them to go away. I want my head to clear. I want to feel good about myself and everything. And for once, I want that good feeling to last, to not have it followed by this deep unhappiness. I want this pain to stop.
i feel so alone and depressed. i used to cut myself but stopped six months ago because it was hurting my friends. everyone thinks that i’m better now but nobody seems to understand that it’s still SO HARD. there’s nothing in my life that’s bad which makes me feel ungrateful. i have a loving family and good friends… but i still hate my life and feel worthless and miserable. i don’t know what’s wrong with me… i take everything so personally and then want to hurt myself for just simple little comments. i feel like a drama queen and a ***** every single day. i don’t see how anyone could love me or even put up with me and lately i’ve been feeling like everyone is out to get me…..
I know how you feel, except for the cutting, i do other things to relieve the pain that are dysfunctional like isolate myself and become hard to get along with, its like a need a brick wall around me to protect me from the pain others can cause… life is short and i am trying to find ways to overcome my emotional roller coaster. My mother was plagued with problems stemming from post traumatic stress and it wasnt until i starting relating to these emotions that i realised how hard my Mums life was and still is and it hurts me to think i was such a horrible daughter sometimes… I feel guilty about so many things sometimes, i have social anxiety, depression, and suffer from other things like migraines etc… i have improved a lot from what i was like years ago when it all erupted with a panic attack and escalated into a breakdown… what helped me was to change my diet, too much sugar and caffeine will make your body feel like crap, i also gave up smoking (hard but worth it), i try to have small meals that include protein so i dont get food cravings from the anxiety burn out.
some theraputic things i did was write in a journal, do EFT (google it to downlowd free manual) and also read up on neuroplacity and practiced it (i have no ocd anymore because of this and s.anxiety much better). Yoga really helps too but i am too lazy to practice it reguarly.
Another thing to check is your blood levels for vitamins, minerals etc. I found that i was very low in Vit D and Magnesium… all of this takes time to resolve and rebalance so the earlier you diagnose the better… local gp will do this easily for you.
herbal teas are great, cammomile and lemon balm will really help if you take it reguarly.
I have my days where i am down and feel alone and helpless and hating everyone including my loved ones (funnily enough never hate my pets! ;) but on the norm i have more good days from making these changes and i notice people welcoming me more these days because i have a better attitude (from coping better, even when i feel low). the main thing is to keep busy ie. clean, hobbies, gardening, drawing, reading etc. but let yourself feel what you feel and be the first person to want to change for the better even though it means climbing out of your comfort zone.
i wish everyone the best and hope i didnt harp on for too long… feels good to share. x
Changes are available fo r only tha living,u have to live! No condition is permanent…
Changes are available for tha living only,u have to live! No condition is permanent…
well, im may not even be of your culture or anything but I feel so freaking depressed. I live in Guatemala, a central american country. Basically every person around me believe I was inteligent and now Im stuck im a small apartmente, full of bills and compromises to be kept up with and done with it. I´m so tire and I have even drank pills to just forget about it. I have a boyfriend who my parents believe is a loser, and maybe he is and he has drah me down into his sad life. I´m desperate. I need something to relieve me from this pain I´m feeling. But I still have hope……………………….
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