i don’t feel like doing anything.
i just laze around all the time. i have no motivation. i used to be a perfectionist. i have assignments/study to do but just put them off till i am really stressed. i can just get it together to go to class. but then i come home and the sofa and i morph into one. i’m boring (obviously). i feel like i have no personality anymore. i never see my friends (if i can still call them that). and i eat too - i used to be a v skinny girl and now i’m not. and its scary. i’m 24 and i’ve been depressed for six years. i tried 3 types of medications but they just left me in this apathetic slump, which didn’t go away even when i stopped them.
i feel so alone. and i know its all my fault, i just don’t have the energy or the will to change.
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well, I know exactly what you’re going through… I’m 24 aswell and have had depression for so many years…You know what though, the reason you are like this is probably due to being a perfectionist rather than because you lost that. Perfectionism can be your best friend just like it can ruin your whole life…it can make you so overwhelmed or scared of failure that it paralyses you. And sadly, doctors just rush into prescribing medication, which is so wrong in my opinion and does a lot more dammage…The only way to sort yourself out is to figure out what’s wrong and wrok around it. Medication can’t do that.
The best place to start would be to figure out why you choose the sofa instead of what you need to do? What would like to be doing instead? Is it too overwhelming? Probably. Write down each task and break it into loads of little goals and work on them one by one. A good thing to do too, is don’t think you “need” to do something, as the responsibility coming witht hat word will make you avoid it even more. say you “want” to do it.
Doing some exercise would help too, aswell as eating healthy. Try to eat foods that are very rich in vitamin B and tryptophan as they are the best things to help your brain produce more serotonin and have more energy. If the fact that you used to be skinny and not anymore is a concern, it’ll definatly help your confidence at the same time. If you want help with that I can help.
well I hope this helps, and if you knew all of that already, it’s always good to repeat it to remind ourselves. :)
i am depress dont feel like doing anything
When one is in this state of mind, then the best thing to do is “not do anything”,but meditate. Shut your eyes. Sit straight (even in your sofa, use one or two cushions) and watch you breath in and breath out (watch with your eyes shut)…means just observe that you are breathing. Let the thoughts come, but you do nothing “Not do anything” (mean think about that, focus on that or concentrate on that thought). Try to let go the thought. Another will come. Repeat this process.
You will begin to feel better after few minutes of silence. Physical and mental. Again try to do nothing… but your inner voice will tell you to do something. Listen carefully, what it is saying… Cooking something… Fried stuff ?? Do it and enjoy or make a good soup ?? Do it and enjoy or Iron your shirt ?? Do it and enjoy….. The moment you feel tired (that you would as you do not want to do anything)…. Sit again, shut your eyes and watch your breath….
Repeat the above process.
I guarantee in 5 days time you would not like to sit idle.. As you start doing after getting directions from you within and start enjoying… And one more, dont worry about your fattening scene.. You would be alright… Do deny yourself small pleasures…. Mark my words… You would go for running soon in next 15 days time…. But remember… when you dont want to do anything…sit straight, shut your eyes… and observe your breath..
Now dont say — I know this is meditation — I know you might be knowing, but do it dear….. You dare not NOT DO it….. You are fine and you will be better….
ive started my 2nd year into my A-levels this year and in the summer hols i was determined to do well for this yr, but now into two months of A-Levels i feel down and i really cant be bothered to do anything. i dont want to hang round with my friends, i dont want to go out, all i seem wanting to do is to stay at home and do absolutely nothing. i seem to always make excuses for doing any of my work, and like any people i do put my work till the very end and i get stressed out, i’ve tried many things, like timetables making more of an effort but i always seem to end up back to where i was to begin with. i dont want to be someone who has major problems in future years. i know how zoe feels because i was once a perfectionist and things had to be done right before i was happy but now i dont really care at all
i think i am the same. maybe i should just relax and observe like what mathu said.
I know exactly what you feel, the best treatment is CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) it will help condition your mind to look at things with a fresh and more positive perspective. I wish you all the luck in the world, i know how horrible and life consuming it is when you feel this way.
P.S this is to A - your a knob! take your childish comments elsewhere and grow the hell up!
I feel same like you richard , i dont feel like doing anything at all,i just lost interest in everything, everything i tried to do and to change on my pathetic life goes wrong EVERYTHING, i dont want to try anything anymore, i hate my studies it wasnt me who choose them it was my mother , and i ll work a job that i hate, i live in a country that treat me as half human , stupid religion and traditions want me to be virgin till i get married , i m 22 and still virgin , and i tried to go to europe to feel the freedom , and have the right to wear skirts like i want, but they refused my visa , i gained weight as crazy so no good legs to be shown anymore, i have so low self confidence , seriously this life is a nightmare , beside that my country doesnt give any help, laws suck , social life suck , traditions suck, everything suck , why stayng alive if u are not doing anything u want, why , and why i cant just commit suicide , i dont wanna do anything , anything at all , among that suicide , i dont know why i study italian and spanish , why ??! i m an idiot , i cant make a plan to my life
i feel the same way as you do and i honestly dont know waht is the solution for it. all i need is someone to talk to me. i am not looking for any motivation or suggestions. you can reply to me on i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>
I have been very active but now I feel the same way as above… I dont get this. I do not want to do anything…..
I do not understand why I do not feel like doing anything. I use to do things now I do not.
I feel the same way….I had structure and a schedule that I stuck to, until I got laid off and was doing whatever I could to make money to not lose my house. Then I got a great job and my mortgage straightened out, but the hours are not condusive to keeping the same excercise schedule I had before. During my time of unemployment, I met someone who had been having problems with his business partner, who eventually shut him out of the business altogether. I spent alot of energy, time and money for someone with very particular and rare job skills who is not doing all that HE can to find work. He would sit around his house playing puzzle books all day, waiting for me to do for him, and I cant do anymore for him, because he will not do for himself. I think maybe my problem is that I am just exhausted. I get off work at 1am, go to bed at 3am if I am lucky, and when I get up I dont want to do anything, and I am gaining the weight back that I fought so hard to lose. I just have to snap out of this….
…the whole world is conspiring to shower you with blessings. all is as thinking makes its so.
I, too, feel the same way. I used to be full of life. I was very spontaneous, daring and outgoing but now I’m like a zombie. I don’t do anything at all. I am a stay at home mom and I barely get by with doing the things I need to get done. I feel like world is coming down on me. I having no motivations, inspirations or goals. I sometimes cry and feel alone and empty inside. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I want to find my old self again. This has gotten the best of me because it controls me and has a good grip because no matter what I do to change this I was end up back to where I started. This is not living. I want to feel alive again. I want to enjoy life like I used to. I have been to psychologists but they don’t help me at all. I need help from people who have gotten through this alone with no medication. Any advice?
Ps. I sometimes feel sick. I feel like I’m dying. I concentrate on death and illnesses more than I should. I make myself sick thinking of what I could have. Everything scares me. I see the world as a hazard. Please help!
i came to this site because I typed in google, i dont feel like doing anything and here I am.
iv read your posts and i cant believe that the words im reading sound exactly like me or what i would write in a diary entry.
i feel the exact same way as all of you. for me i dont feel motivated to do anything in life. I have taken 6 years to do a 3 year legal degree, iv worked in retail and absolutely hate it to the point that i never want to work in a shopping mall ever again.
I dont feel motivated to finish anything that i start. i get excited about a new idea but dont believe i will ever get anywhere so i let it go. i pretent to be happy around others then when im alone im depressed and feel like i have no friends or anyone that ever wants to hang out. i dont have family who know or would ever understand where im coming from because they are too closed minded. i wish every day for something to change but it never does. a lottery ticket, maybe win a trip or just get a lucky break that will leave me happy but it seems like nothing comes for free or even easy.
at the same time im a spiritual person in the sense that i love to learn about ways to stay positive and learn as much as i can about life and its tests and difficulties but yet still its hard to keep going when you feel empty.
every day goes by and things come up to make it even harder to be happy. debt gets deeper, energy fades a little more and i feel more and more negative towards others when i never used to be. its not like me.
i just think that for all of us to feel the same feelings like this means that all these things happen to people all around the world and we just need to keep going. we need to believe things happen for a reason and we will get our time to be happy.
if we choose to be happy now we can but many things wont let us. but if we try to forget those many things then all wel be left with is happiness. i think amongst all our issues we forget ourselves and let the worst get the better of us and all we need to do is think of other ways of doing things. other ways of thinking about things so that we can change them.
i think were all writing here believing were victims of a sad life with no freedom and no hope but in fact this life is about us and our ability to overcome and keep going. were not victims because we have the power to decide to forget things and leave them behind, or to let something go and move forward, we all have the power in our own hands to get our lives back and all it takes is a decision and a belief in ourselves and our inner strength to do so.
i hope that every one on this page can just make one wish and really believe that it will come true and that will set alot of change in motion in your lives. it really will. i know you and i will be ok.
sounds like i wrote this
wow. Hi 5 we all are such failiures. But that’s cus we let ourselves be.
Funnily enough im 24 now, but its been more than 3 years since this q and a started.
and i felt exactly the same as most of you above. Like Eve stama, asads.
But let’s take for atleast today, anonymous’s and mathu’s reply into consideration.
How true. I am a perfectionist but at the same time i’m a lazy ***. So hence its just a big cycle of back and forth and never finishing any of my projects, be it personal goals or work goals or uni assignments. Ever since i can remember my high school projects are always half finished.
I’m going to stop beating myself up about it and putting myself down that i’ve left this assignment to the last minuite. I’m just going to get on with it and change my attitude to I WANT TO DO IT. I really do. and this time even if it half finished it is better than not giving it in. And i’m going to remember I want to do it better next time.
yeah i feel the same, sorry for saying exactly what a lot of pple have said already. my biggest problem is getting out of the house, i don’t like anything including pple. i’ve always had some problem since the time i cud rember but it was nevr this serious. i wud feel depressed for a a day or 2 and then i’d be fine but now i feel down n depressed all the time. i don’t feel like working and i’m almost 30, i don’t know what to do. i’ve given up but life doesn’t end. altho i know its not the right thing to say but i want to die. thers no solution in sight cos i simply dont have the will to do anything.
I feel the same way too… I’m only 21 and I don’t do much either. It’s hard for me to get out of the house sometimes, and to be honest, I feel like such a failure. I want to change that, but I have no motivation to even do it. I question myself if there is any purpose in anything. But I don’t know. I sometimes feel like giving up, and I feel like such a leftdown to my family that I’ve realized this isn’t life just staying home. I honestly feel like I need help because I have not enough energy to do anything.
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I have dreams i have goals i have lots of ideas. But when i have a day off to make them reality i just stay home. I m in the process of opening a small sandwich shop. I have so many ideas for decore and think so much on what i should do first but i just stay home. The only way ill actually get things done if my husband is off motivating me. But us being off together is very rare. Like right now. Me and my husband are most likey going to get the lease signed. Hes working and im off. Its 2:33 pm and im still in my sleeping clothes. I had plans to today. And im thinking aboug doing them but … i dont know i feel safer when i stay home. Whats my problem and what can i do to prevent this from ruining my future?
There is something that makes people afraid to leave the safety of their home-it is a disorder-if you are depressed–TALK to someone that can help you. There is free help. Set goals, time it. I made three loaves of bread today, did 4 loads of laundry and am try8ing to get my house cleaned and work on school work doing off break and find work. It’s a start for me.
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