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Is it one thing in particular that annoys you.

sortof
its the way hes allways the boss and everyone has to do things as he likes
hes so embarassing and anoying in public hes so loud he allwatys patronises me and thinks im still a little girl even though im nearly 16
i dont know im probably just being stupid

I got a similar thing with my Dad, I use to be daddies little girl, and I think he just doesn’t want to accept the fact that I’m growing, this may be similar to you.

yeah i think it is, we all used to be close but now he works in london and only comes back for the weekends and weve kindof drifted apart… he just cant understand that i want to go my own way, i dont want him to come with me on a shopping trip and that kinda stuff hes just so embarrasssing

Pretty similar with me, we just drifted apart, when it comes down to it, it’s no-bodies fault, it’s just the way life takes us, and I think the hardest part is for your dad to start to see that his daughter is growing up and for you to see that in your dads position the most precious thing in his life won’t be there forever, causing him to panic, and react in the only way he feels he can, which unfortunately for you is through over attention at the wrong times causing such embarrassment.

I think there is a difference between, drifting away and hate. You often only truly hate someone if you aren’t afraid of hating them. If it is your only drive when you think of them. In your case you seem to be a bit confused. You may be very angry with him, but I doubt you hate him.

He is probably really struggling with you growing more independent of him and he may be overtly bossy not on purpose because he wants to still be able to maintain the same kind of relationship with you; and he can’t because you’re growing up. He will understand eventually and will see your side but it may take a while.

You will grow to realize that you are annoyed at what you see of yourself that you don’t like, when you look at him. We are more like our parents than we care to admit.

As a father I know how you can feel, but try just a few times just too see and feel what he feels. Most fathers and Mothers know what might be best for you at some point in your life. So please just take the time and think about what is being said or asked. Any qustions don’t be afaid to talk TALK to him. It’s Gods way of testing you. Honor thy father and mother

I was like that when i was a teenage. I could not STAND my daddy. His walk, cough, leaving clothes all over the floor, many many things I did not like.

But all that changed once i got older. Now that I’m older I realized it was just my teenage years being ****** to my daddy.

I love that man so much its ridicules