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okay

he will kill himself if he ever loses me.
and i know he would do it.
i love him
but the fact that he is not giving me a choice
is making me resent him.
if i ever get close to saying i dont want to be with him
he says he has nothing to live for
and without me he is worthless..
and nothing will stop him from killing himself.
im afraid that im only staying with him because of this..
although, him saying that
may be the only reason i dont want to be with him.
i just feel like i dont have the freedom.
and i dont know what will happen later in life.
i think i just feel i should rebel against him because
he is putting so much guilt and pressure on me.
like if he died i would be responsible for his death.
i guess im just really confused.

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*lilies 711 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

get away from this guy. real love is happiness. making u feel guilty is not worth it.

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Thingy-thing 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (30 minutes after post)

If he really loved you, he wouldn’t put all this unneccicary guilt on you, living like that isn’t healthy, sometimes, as hard as it is, you just gotta think about you and how you can’t let one person rule you.

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Pinkdragons 12 #
Bristol, B7, GB | 1 year ago (49 minutes after post)

call the suiscidal hotline and say you are been ‘threatened’ by your boyfriend that if you leave him he will kill himself…i think they might give you some positive feedback and maybe not make you feel guilty for feeling so guilty about wanting to leave him.

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Leah 2 #
University Place, WA, US | 1 year ago (2 hours after post)

Captain Roj’s Ghost wrote:
Call his bluff. If he does it he does it. Live for you and not for someone else. Let him waste his life, but don’t let him waste yours too.

exactly.

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