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So… saying “Hey” and putting a winking smiley next to it is full-on flirting these days?

Hey ;) Xeno… just kidding :P

If she makes you feel uncomfortable, just tell her so.

Then what’s the worry? You don’t like her, don’t know her, and have no intention of doing anything with her… all that, and the only contact you have with her is over freaking MYSPACE. Maybe I’m just slow today, but where’s the problem here? Just ignore it.

Just ignore her… She’s your gf’s friend, not yours.

Tell her. It’s just Myspace.

Yeah… tell her on myspace.

i dont think you should approach her about it i think you would just offend her plus she could just be trying to befriend you considerring you will be moving with your girlfriend and will be in her life as well

oh and some friend that is, no offense, but you should suggest to your girlfriend to keep better company if she is so untrusting of her friends.

i think you are making this much bigger than it is, i befriended my best friends boyfriend on facebook and said hey! with a little wave… that hardly means i want to sleep with him. *sigh* oh the drama

Why is it a problem if SHE wants to flirt? It’s not like that makes you a cheater or anything.

I have a tendency to be blunt sometimes, so I would just ask her what her intentions are. Depending on how she answers then I might be very blunt in explaining the committment you have.

I love to be friendly with many ppl and lots of ppl like to call that flirting. Well ok, but most ppl who really know me know that I am totally committed to my husband and would never do anything to violate that commitment.

no dont tell her anything just yet. . she could take it personally . .maybe she isnt even trying to hook up with you . . she probably just wants to be your friend since you are dating her friend . .and if you love your girlfriend then the flirting shouldnt intimidate you . .and if its not right on her behalf that doesnt mean that you are doing something wrong . . and since when did a hey with a wink become a sort of flirting . . :S

why are you putting so much thought into this anyway? are you afraid you will be tempted into it? its not your placce to make it known that what shes doing is wrong. be friendly, but dont outstep any boundaries, as well as make it known when she crosses yours—and no a wink does not qualify– it is up to your girlfriend whether or not to keep this “frenemy”. imagine if you are wrong and you will have to live with that shame for the rest of your relationship and she will be uncomfortable knowing you dislike her friend. as for her husband, im sure he knows what shes like, and if not he’ll figure it out—but you arent the one to make it apparent.

well you could reply in a way that is straight forward . .find a place in the messages where you can say . .* my girlfriend has told me so much about you ,and since i love her so much i trust her and what she says . .so i guess we could be friends * something like that :D
something that couldnt be mistaken for a flirt . .just be straight forward :)

thats a good response starlight

Or send her a joking message. Like “you’re not coming on to me are you?” or something like that… See what she says, you and your gf could be paranoid.

lay off the jokes man !!!dont go there ! your not at a time where you can throw around jokes hehe

im unsubcribing now, honestly i think you and your girlfriend enjoy it all.

lol… what a narrow line you have to walk! go the heavy route then…

ye , then see what happens :)
its not like she is saying * hey i think you are hot * hahahaha
ok sorry no time for jokes :P

*lol at Starlight*

Myspace causes too may problems. O_o If I were you I wouldn’t worry about it. But if it bothers you that much say something to her.

dont ruin it james !!! he was going for my advice ! :P
actually he cant tell her anything about him thinking that she is flirting . .it will just ruin any chances of having a normal friendship .. cuz if he is wrong then things will get weird . . just reply in a friendly message while being straight forward . .its the best way ( and not because i thought of it lol )

lol nah I’m not trying to ruin anything.

oops my bad ! i just thought that people are out to get me :(

hahahaha :P . . sorry just a tad bit hyper hehe

I think if anything it is your GF responsibility to tell her friend, if she should call her a friend really, its not up to you to have to fight off her friends, unless its a test of hers, if she is like that, to see if you take the bate so to speak. Why does she have friends like that? Friends that are willing to try and take your partner away from you, thats abit sick, i think you need to tell your GF to get a grip on what friends she does have, as i would prefer hanging round with my enemys than friends like that, atleast with an enemy you are expecting to get stabbed in the back

well, try not to reply, or just say hi. if she takes it to far, than explain to her that you love your gf, and that she cant stop you from loving her. tell your gf to talk to her friend, and ask her what is going on. If her friend just says something like : just being nice, and saying hi! or : nothing is going on with me, im married!! wht do you think im trying to do!
your gf is probably right, but, is she jut saying hi?

Starlight is smart, follow her advice and you’ll feel sooo much better!

( The other starlight that is, sorry)

haha thank you starlight :)

Wooo 2 Starlights, that may get confusing lol!! :D

Yeah I know, i need to change my name cause she was here first- but what to call myself? ;-)

Make a post and get ppls opinions if ya need some help. :)

LoL- good idea!

noo you didnt have to change your name :( we could have ruled help.com together
hahahaha lol

well i personally think that you should delete this other woman all together, because that way your girlfriend would never have to worry that she was flirting with you or think that u wud be flirting back, that way u can continue to love ur girlfriend with no interference!

Hahaha, thanks Starlight- but it’s a pretty and unique name! I like that someone else thought of it too!

well , you know great minds think alike lol *wink*

Hahaha, yes they do :-p

im was in the exact same situation my mates gf took a fancy to me and my GF went spare nothing happened what so ever but i did feel oblidged to talk to her as he is a mate, i reasure my gf that nowt will ever happen n i gave hints to my mates gf that im solid with my gf n your only a mate etc, she got over it n now we fine