friends help: i think i have a drinking problem. - Help.com

I can relate, do you want to quit are control it? I’ve been trying to teach myself to control it and pace myself but it’s not going well hehe

Yeah, it’s a change of attitude I think, ya know like accepting the fact that you won’t be drunk at the end of the night and focussing on drinken real slow, also eating during drinken makes it easier, I’m probably the wrong person for advice on this hehe, I’m still hungover from 24hours ago hehe

if you think you have a prob, you probably do. i would say - stay away from it. if you’re unable to do that - seek prof’l help. it is good you’re posting this tho. my stepmother died from drinking…its one of those things that can get worse if you dont stop it right away….so i’d take it seriously….good for you for at least seein’ it…..you can address it before it controls you/your life…

Don’t make a big deal out of it with friends, just say you have to stop because of some medication or something. Then start thinking of fun nondrinking things to do right away before you get bored. Don’t dump on your old friends, but try and make some nondrinking ones . Support groups are great for that.Think of something really cool that you always wanted to do, and start going for it. If once and a while you have some bevvies, don’t shame yourself, because drinking is a blast once in a while! When you do drink, go to somewhere where you can dance your *** off, rather than sit around! I’ve been there, and I realized that the my main drinking problem was that I substituted getting loaded for getting a life.
everything in moderation, including moderation!
lots of luck!! Don’t beat yourself up, lots of people end up in that zone!! Just force yourself to balance your social life with pursuing your dreams!!

do you drink hard liquor or beer or both

Hi, Dani!

Getting some good advice here. If you think you have a real drinking problem, cutting back won’t help,you have to cut it out and get support. If you decide to cut back instead of cutting it out entirely, but then slide back into your old drinking patterns, you very likely have a real drinking problem.

When do you drink, and why?

Do you know what triggers the drinking? Maybe if you manage to point out what exactly makes you not be able to stop…as from experience, that’s the most important thing…well I mean I don’t have a drinking problem, but my mum is a sober alchoolic so I’ve seen it and heard all about it hehe If you figure out what’s going on, the drinking “pattern” you always follow…then you can work on changing that pattern to control yourself.

Hope this helps.

try drinking somthing that doesnt get you so messed up that ya dont know what your doing or dont take your girlfriend when you go ,if you think you really have a problem go to aa it really does help.

i know how you feel check out aa worked for me 17 yrs ago

buy a nonalchy drink and pretend its alchy

Yeah, there’s a good bit of that in many mixed gender AA groups, unfortunately. Women’s-only AA meetings might suit. Wow, you may be a double winner, AA and Al-anon. Can’t say you really NEED either, but as an adult child of an alcoholic you might do well with Al-anon — which doesn’t have the same type of members as AA.

Anyway, you may be able to quit on your own, but there’s usually underlying emotional reasons for drinking problems, which you might want to address. There are counselors who specialize in counseling people with issues complicated but drinking/addiction.

You don’t really sound like an alcoholic, honestly, not to minimize. I’m not sure why you’re drinking so much when you do.

I’m guessing the small town makes you feel like you are expected to maintain the same role people are used to seeing you in?

Actually… you’ve been going through this for quite a while, haven’t you?

Ok, so the nice people and the drink are euphoric, and that relieves the loneliness. I think if you go into the pub, you will drink. You may start out not drinking, or drinking a less, but you’ve already said you tend to keep drinking once you start.

Let’s not go there anymore.

There must be church or community groups you can join, volunteer work, something to keep you busy and your mind off.

Have you talked to your dad about your drinking? Does he still drink?

I used to have a drinking problem. I did it because all my friends did it. I don’t drink at all now because one of my friends died from drink driving a while ago.

Drinking is not bad, but you need to know when to stop. If you are going to drink, have someone you know around you to tell you to stop once you have gone to far.

If that dosn’t work, why not stop drinking!

Tell her not to buy the drinks!

She is a bad parent if she keeps buying you drinks!

ROFL! Ok, YOU can be reasonable and take authority. You may have to draw the lines and not allow people to push you where you clearly don’t want to go. It’s hard enough, eh?

Imagine confiding about these things to someone you loved privately and having them tell your world - fortunately my world was not interested. These matters are settled privately with the people you love, people that understand these matters or those you trust to keep it private. This is a safe place, but be careful of whom you tell elsewhere. What happens when you retake your life?

my NAME is DANI wrote:
i think i need to control it, because i love alcohol, its great, just, not in the large quanities i have it in.

Hey Dani… I Wen t Thru Exactly ha Same Thing…. Go and Find Help from Dum1 u Trust Or Call Alcoholics Annonymus…. Its Not as Bad as It Seems!