Love help: about 5 years ago i was with a man who beat me and i got pregnant - Help.com

Have you considered adoption?

no he wants a baby of his own

Well, if he is not willing to look at other options and be considerate about the fact that you can not have children, he does not sound like a really loving guy that is totally committed to you anyway.

JoJO is right that is good advice

Unfortunately there are too many children on the planet we should all be responsible and not have any if this is possible.
I find men saying they _want_ kids rather selfish as they rarely (never) do as much for the children as their mother does. It often just seems to be a symbol of manliness for them.

first, sorry this is happening.
i cant help but think : sometimes rejection is God’s protection.
I’m with the others above - if he really IS the love of your life, he will not leave you over your inability to have a child. I know its rough to hear - but there it is. If he DOes live, you’re better off w/out him girl…better off to be free to find someone who loves you regardless of the child piece…..sorry, but thats the kinda love I think you should have….

Well i am sorry to but i think you are all wrong and he does love me and i love him and he is the love of my life he wants a child of his owned and i understand that i feel that you guys must have had rough lives yourself cause i was asking for help not negative feed back i and if he does leave me cause i can not have child i also respect just like i respect a guy for not wanting to date a girl who has kids and to say there are to many kids out here in this world now well guess what i dont them and reality is i want ever know them all i know is i got a good man who wants to be a father to his owned kids and i respect that and i want to be the one who gives him that gift of father hood so thinks for the advice but please keep that negative feed back to your self or just dont respone to me am i missing something this is a help line is it or not

This is a type of help line. The people here come to help and give advice that they believe to be true. If you just want people to agree with everything you say and not tell you what they think, then don’t ask for advice. None of us are robots that just respond the way you want us too. If you don’t want to listen to the advice people give that is fine, but I do not think it is appropriate for you to lecture or judge people because of the well intentioned advice they give you. The fact of the matter is that you can’t have kids and your boyfriend wants you too. Nothing you can do about that. No way people can fix that for you. People were telling you there views and advice based on the reality of the situation.

thats where you wrong i can do something about it there is medical help out there thats is the kind of advice i want and i don’t want yall to act like any thing and excuse me judgement please yall judge when you said if he can not accept that i can not have kids then he dont’ love me and i did not ask anyone to agree with me on anything i don’t think i wrote that and i can do and i can ask for help if i want to who are you to judge practice what you preach or get a life now your a experts on robots right is it because your one maybe and you don’t think that what i said was appropriate thats funny and what you said was now your a expert on conversation and advice o and i lecture and what do you call your responds o i get it its the pot calling the kettle black i guess your a expert on that to and me not having kids is not reality but since your so much of a expert on sitiuation i guess there is no hope for me huh thinks so much for that wonerful advice i feel much better adout life now since i got on this websit please yall keep up the good work i don’t know what i would do with out yall ha! ha! right

We ain’t no experts.
You want medical help ask a doctor dumba$$

that’s not me in the photo, don’t judge someone by appearances.

You don’t like this place why you still here?

who said i did not like it can you read cause i don’t think that i said that and i am still here cause i want to be and cause it is a help website and i don’t only god can do that let us pray god i ask you taday to please bless everyone on this website in there time of need i ask god that you will look upon them and heal there hearts and mind of the situation they are facing i ask you lord to grant the promise of a good out come today and everyday of there lives and that they will continue to live in peace in jesus i pray AMEN

That is a lovely prayer. Thank you for that.