Love help: i found out today that im not the only guy she has slept with.

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i found out today that im not the only guy she has slept with.

ive been with her for 3 years. i also found out that one of the times was when we first got together. i feel like sheis lying to me all the time. to make matters worse we have an 11 month old daughter. i dont know what to do. he lives 1500 miles away but they talk to each other all the time. im pissed,hurt,and confused what should i do. i love her and my daughter both more then anything ele in this world. help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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natedog_co 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

i dont know i just heard her talking to her sister on the phone.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (9 minutes after post)

how do i take my location off?

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

then she has been talikng to this other guy i know she hasnt slept with him. i asked her where she was at and she told me the mall. i could tell she was lying so i left work to head to the mall and i saw my car at the park and there she was sitting wit him

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (14 minutes after post)

earlyer she was drunk when she was talking so she was talking real loud to her sister

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (21 minutes after post)

she wont talk to me about anything. if i get her mad she doesnt like to talk or resolve it.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (22 minutes after post)

i love her so much im scared that im losing her.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (24 minutes after post)

she left her my space up and i saw a message saying that i love u to her ex boyfriend the one she cheated on me with. is my marriage done?

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (32 minutes after post)

shes not happy and she dont care if im upset about her being at the park with the other guy. that she told me when we first started dating that she didnt want to be serious but i never heared that. that she is still in love with her ex. and the rest i already posted.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (33 minutes after post)

she dont know that i heard all this i was afraid to mention anything so i made her take a shower and put her to bed.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (34 minutes after post)

we were drinking wit her mom together. and her mom went home

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (37 minutes after post)

Since the girlfriend isn’t here and asking questions, we can’t analyze why she is doing what she is doing. The real question is: “Why are you with someone who is lying to you?” remember, the world around you is a reflection of you. You are in some ways, lying to yourself.

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yours_dietcoke 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (41 minutes after post)

Hi there … Just read the dialogue.

You’ve been together for three years and you have an 11 month old daughter. Your girlfriend is emotionally unavailable and confused about what your relationship is. You are hurting and trying to hold the relationship / what is left of it together.

Nate … You must take care of yourself and your daughter. Your girlfriend isn’t at a place to be committed to anyone. She sounds confused and lost.

How old are you guys?

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natedog_co 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (43 minutes after post)

21 and 19

yours_dietcoke 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (48 minutes after post)

okay, you are young. and you have a small child. She is 19. You’ve been together since you were 18 and she 16. Are you married? Do you work? I am collecting information here Nate … before I give you anymore advice

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (51 minutes after post)

yes were married and yes i work we never fight about money cause its always there. she tells me that it seems that weve ran out of things to talk about.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (57 minutes after post)

Have you considered going to counseling? Would she be up for that?

Do you or she or the both of you have a problem with drinking?

The reason I am asking these questions is because … Nate … your daughter comes first here. You have to think about her security and the environment she is living within.

If your wife needs time to get herself together and figure out what her priorities are then she needs that time. If she needs that then you need to determine what is best for you and your daughter and then do it.

I know you love her. But you are way too emotionally out of control. You need to be strong for yourself and your daughter.

Counseling could help you both come to terms with what a marriage really is and what it takes to make one work. It can also help you determine what is most healthy (emotionally, spiritually, physically and intellectually) for yourself, her and your daughter.

What do you think?

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natedog_co 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

i will ask her tomorrow when she wakes up no first time weve ever been drunk since weve been together

yours_dietcoke 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

Stress eh? Talk to her in the AM .. Talk about counseling … can we talk tomorrow? you can shout me if you want.

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