Love help: Im not falling apart, and im not going crazy, however; my girlfriend of 5 years just left me. - Help.com

answer her phone calls dumb! when u lose her u’ll regret it! be good to her!

The same thing happened to me and we were together the same amount of time. I did act like an *** when she lef and after a while I realized I was better then the way I was acting., no girl is worth it, love is sipposed to make you feel good not tear you down. I found after I stopped trying to get intouch with this girl my life started to get much better.You should ask GOD for strength , and NEVER let ANYONE bring you down or take your peace from you , nobody is worth that.If she cares at all she will let you know , but for now STAY AWAY , AND PRAY , believe me , you’ll be fine !!!

Do what you truly feel like doing. Don’t be afraid of taking a risk. Don’t try to play games to mess with her head. You wouldn’t want someone to do that to you…

I just wouldnt know what to say and im glad im in her head..if i wanted her back, what would i do from here?

Friend…there are a lot of things you can do I have been there to and it hurts for the most part. A bunch of things going through your head…What should I do, should I answer her, should I stay cuddled up under the blanket with the lights out crying??? These are all natural things and it is goog that she is calling you. You can answer the phone if you like, but don’t get worked up on the emotional part of clinging to her sleve just yet, let her talk for the first 3 calls…listen to her tone and conviction and purpose in the situation…on the third call you slowly and gently ask her if it is ok for you to share your feelings to her. If you mean what you posted then you need to let it go, but you need to control it and stay calm and don’t forget, remember she is a women and she does care for you…”work it out together.”

I hope this helps you out guy.

She seems to be intent on being friends and its hard to read her but I know she still cares about me, what i do where i am etc. At this point i feel like shes angry or something. For instance i made the mistake of texting her this mornig saying whats up etc, and now she hasnt responded all day. Ive been suggested to just ignore her for acouple weeks and go from there…what do you guys think?

You need to ask for closure, be with me or not?? If not then you have got to move on to another nice lady. I am sorry for not offering more solutions, but there is nothing anyone can do if that person is not willing to be with you…

I am in the same situation…right now.

Been with my lady for 10 yrs…it is hard to move on.

Thanks for the advice, ive got some thinking to do.

all day I have been depressed and I can’t focus…I seen some thing that just made me feel crushed bad…it is unbaringly disturbing…I am suppose to be working right now, but I can’t even think clear. Your situation is hard, this I know.

They think it is easy to be a man, like we don’t have feelings…we do have this emotional value…for me it is my women that gives me pride, that not being the case here would crush me…dude I feel you! I seen some thing and it is sort of close to what you said…only difference is I am serching for answer to some thing that only she knows..your lady is your pride, does she know you think this and that is why you love her…and that is the reason you hate to not see her, touch her, hold her, watch her face as she smiles or looks at flowers in a window…dude I feel you I am so depressed it is ripping me apart. 10 yrs for me is long and yet soes she know that I am feeling this now? Maybe she don’t even care if she knows this. Well, what ever happens…happens I guess!

“Depression is a monster and this ******* is eating me alive!!!”

if i was in your position.

i would;
pick up the phone (when she calls)
see what she says. if she said she was sorry or she wanted to be friends or something of that nature, i would say im sorry, but right now i am trying to get over what you did to me, and i need just a little bit of closer.

i remember in 6th grade i made a mistake and went out with a boy after knowing him for 2 days, he later broke up with me (1 week in)
the next year we went out again and it lasted about a week also.
the next year, we went out for about 3 months, but then finally realized we werent compatable. we fought alot, and couldnt really mesh as a boyfriend and girlfriend. we are still friends, and close friends at that, but we realized that by not closing our past it got in the way of our future, during the times we werent gonig out we fought and **hated each other**
when really we just didnt work good as a couple. if you close the lovey realationship maybe there might be a friendly realationship.

GOODLUCK!

Youre right black code, women dont know the power they have. I’m scared this girl has forgotten about me, its been a week now and we havent had any full conversations/phone calls. it sucks..i dont really know what to do with myself…****..

you have to answer her call,she might be wandering. if your gonna talk with her your realize if you feel her to be just your friend or the way you are supposedly. ive experience it before in different way, waiting for a reply makes me insane.
im glad to say i move on…

you should have listened to my advice, (the 1st one..) see how your attitude changed?