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Im in luv with my best friend (Girl)..

shes made it pretty clear before that nothing is ever going to happen between us; this breaks my heart but she doesnt think its doing any harm 2 me! i think it would be better if we stopped being friends so i can get her out of my head & stop the pain of rejection even though i cant bear the thought of leaving her… what do you guys think i should do?? help….

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ihatelife offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

why would nothing come of you to?

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Derry, S6, GB | 2 years, 2 months ago (15 minutes after post)

she fells we are 2 good of friends.. & she doesnt like ‘going out’ if you will with friends even though she never said that to one of her other friends :(

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ihatelife offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (17 minutes after post)

oh dear well it can become a little akward if you broke up etc so i understand what she is saying but if you really want her talk to her about it but remember you cant force her to like you in that way ‘kisses’
ps are you a boy?

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Derry, S6, GB | 2 years, 2 months ago (26 minutes after post)

yep im a boy! lol but we never went out with each other before.. i know i cant force her 2 like me but i dont see any reason 4 her 2 keep turning me down.. it would be ‘Awkward’ supposidely, yet she is happy enuf 2 jump on our other friend when we are out! ;(

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ihatelife offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (32 minutes after post)

oh good you are a boy lol sorry
how old r ya?
just wondering coz if you are quite young then maybe you shud wait a while an see what happens …….. dont wait 4eva there is always someone out there you wud liek just as much so dont close off all your other options focus on enjoying your time together ‘kisses’

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makhaiandmomi offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (37 minutes after post)

It is clear to me that she is trying not to hurt you but she is, and you need to tell her that before pushing her out. You never know maybe she regards your friendship as something special in it’s self and doesnt want to take the chance of ruining it, and those other friends are, really just friends nothing special, I know you dont want to hear this but girls come and go realfriends come very seldom, keep this inmind and talk to her tell her how you fell and that it hurts you, and you’ve contiplated on ending the friendship and see what she says then when fully informed make the right decission for you,but yes as happiness put it dont close the door just yet something is always bound to round the corner and blindside you(in a good way) and if you want to get out everything you have to say without her interupting write it all down and give it to her then give her time to digest the info before asking for input.

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La Mirada, CA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (40 minutes after post)

Shes Not Interested / Attracted to you Physically. Get over it.

Being long term friends is something to concentrate on. I’ve been there before and have a best friend who I used to want to be with. (Thank God I didn’t; She really blew up!!!)

Stay cool and in control. Thats all you can do. Force never works with women.

And you can’t change ANYBODY; You can only inspire them to change by example.

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Derry, S6, GB | 2 years, 2 months ago (42 minutes after post)

im 19 happiness8.. lol

‘makhaiandmomi’ cheers for da advice…

‘rpg000′ dat was a bit harsh lol but true non the less..

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makhaiandmomi offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (45 minutes after post)

no prob hun it always helps to get advise from a woman’s point of view we are soo confusing and yet we understand eachother, I hope what ever path leads you , that it leads you to happiness

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La Mirada, CA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (45 minutes after post)

There is someone out there waiting patiently for you, attracted to who you are, that just hasn’t found you yet. Don’t waste time on NULL issues.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing expecting a different result.

Peace Bro. You’ll be fine. When you stop looking, it finds you.

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Derry, S6, GB | 2 years, 2 months ago (48 minutes after post)

**THANKS** :)

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La Mirada, CA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (57 minutes after post)

Deny the female attention; The female will always want more.

Back handed compliment example (works great on women): “I don’t care what anybody else says, I love a woman with a little meat on their bones.”

or

“I like a bubble butt - I don’t understand that anorexic fixation most guys have.”

It lets a girl know to think 1. oh my god, he sees my imperfections & 2. oh my god he loves my imperfections.

Just a little advice young blood.

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Derry, S6, GB | 2 years, 2 months ago (59 minutes after post)

haha lol

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La Mirada, CA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

Most women are very insecure. Always looking in mirrors. Always looking to be validated by some dude.

The hotter the girl, the more insecure usually; because shes been used to such high expectations of herself.

Thats why backhanded compliments work. Don’t be Evil - Just know the woman. Use good judgment, be confident (most important!! (always pretend you have all kinds of hookups already)) and pray!!!!!

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La Mirada, CA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

As far as your friend goes; Just be her friend. Talk about other chicks, Hang out, do what you’ve always done together. Time will make a great bond of it. The girl I was talking about earlier I’ve now been god friends with for 13+ years, she married one of my High School Enemies (he’s totally cool now) and has had kids, but we still can talk to each other about anything; Plus the fact that she blew up (see: Got really BIG) years ago, hasn’t done any harm.

We’ve been ONLY friends for years and years and I’ve got myself a hotty for years and years and all is good.

Goodnight!

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makhaiandmomi offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

you are right alot of women are insecure but alot of time not all but alot is do to the upbringing, or bad relationship, not nessecarily due to high expetation although sometimes yes but the girls do need attention when your friends and when your more because once the attention is not there they doubt themselves and and the hotter the girl the more erogant you get ya that too is on some levels insecurity but for the most part people telling them how pretty they are and now they feel like they need it and thats not a high expectant of her self its a demanding she not foreget it( how pretty she is ) the best kinda girl to go for when your looking is the one who has no idea she is beautifull and is ignorant to the fact that people are watching her every move because she has good confidence and she isnt stuck up, so you get 2 for the money. any way my shift is over goin home DERRY you are special and if you dont get this girl then dont fret you will find someone who suits you better keep ya head up

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ihatelife offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (3 hours, 2 minutes after post)

oh gosh you are older than me N im 18 ‘kisses’

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ihatelife offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (3 hours, 3 minutes after post)

looks like you have cheered up a bit

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ihatelife offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (3 hours, 4 minutes after post)

N please verify your account

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surfgirl_kew offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Windsor, NF, CA | 2 years, 1 month ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

aww that so cute look if u feel really close to her an u think shez single and likes u bak then ask her out rite her a poem-a good one-or have some other girl ask her if shed like go out with u but try keepin it cool and dont mess up ur friendd ship ur ull life ir messed an ull start feelin acward around her
ps add me

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (3 months, 2 weeks after post)

hi enyone whant to talk on email just send me email on this adres (email removed)

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