Feel help: ok well my dad cheated on my mom and when he did he like didnt

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ok well my dad cheated on my mom and when he did he

like didnt care about me,my lil si,and my lil bro he cared about her children more and now my mom wont stop crying about this crap and about the deviorce and says that she wants whats best for us what should i say to her to make her feel better oh and she is also blaming it on her self becausee she has cancer and says it her fault for pushing him away please help

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the_girl_you_knew 11 #
Nottingham, J8, GB | 2 years, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

just tell her you love her, and no matter what, she has her children. say no one blames her for the marriage breaking down, it was your dads decision to leave. time will heal it

dont hate your dad though, people sometimes do tings that suck but it doesnt make them bad people

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Demi4Life 1 #
Woodstock, GA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 40 minutes after post)

it is not your moms fault….your father made a huge mistake by commiting adultry..there is no excuse for it..sometimes marriages just dont work…for men, many times it is hard for them to admit that what they did was wrong, and he may have too much pride to admit it…now, you need to know that what happened between your parents had nothing to do with you and your siblings, you all did nothing wrong..your mom will work through this, it will take time, but in the end, she will be ok…its going to take time for your dad to come around, but when he does, you need to tell him how you feel when you are ready, and then forgive him, not for his sake but for yours, you dont want to have that anger pulling you down.

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shawn4tonya200 0 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 7 hours after post)

1st off, you tell your mom it is not her fault. Read my post, I am helping others so I can hopefully lessen the pain I feel now. Your dad is an adult with a mind of his own and HE and HE alone made a decision to do what he did. No one held a gun to his head and no one can go back and change it. I assure you though, someone will come along and show your mom just how speicial she is and wipe the tears away. Then he will want her back and like me it will be to late, then he will have to live with this horrible pain that will seem like only death can relief. I will keep you all in my prayers and wish you the best.

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yaise #
US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 11 hours after post)

OMG! Well first of all I’m sorry to hear that your mother has cancer. I know what it’s like to have a family member with that horrible disease.

First of all your mother needs your support and your strength. Make sure that you let her know that it is not her fault that she got cancer and that your father didn’t stick around to help her go through this difficult time. It is also not your fault or your siblings if it ever crossed your mind.

Whatever the reason was, I’m sure it’s painfull and difficult but the beauty about life is that you can get through anything! Tell your mom that you love her and that you are here for her and that its his lost and that she deserves better…a loving man to support her and help her heal. Tell her that she knows better than anyone that life is too short to live in the “what ifs”. Tell her that she is blessed to be alive and have the opportunity to survive her battel with cancer and find true love in the future. But that she needs to focus on getting better and on you guys.

Talk to your siblings and understand that sometimes parents grow apart. Sometimes they don’t realize what affect their actions will have on you, the child. Your father may not realize how he is making you feel…maybe you should talk to him and let him know that you need his love and support. Tell him that it’s hard for you to see him go but you want both him and your mom to be happy but you also need him to still be your father and show you that he loves you.

I’m telling you…the most important thing is family. Your mother sounds like she loves you and your siblings a lot. Take care of her and just try to bring happiness to the house.

Also, pray…it’s amazing what it can do…even if you’re not religious.

If at the end of the day your father doesn’t show you his love. I know that it will hurt, but know that not all men are like that and make sure that you fall in love with a man that shows you how much he loves you everyday.

Best of luck to you! ;)

OMG! Well first of all I'm sorry to hear that your mother has cancer.  I know what it's like to have a family member with that horrible disease.

First of all your mother needs your support and your strength. Make sure that you let her know that it is not her fault that she got cancer and that your father didn't stick around to help her go through this difficult time. It is also not your fault or your siblings if it ever crossed your mind.

Whatever the reason was, I'm sure it's painfull and difficult but the beauty about life is that you can get through anything! Tell your mom that you love her and that you are here for her and that its his lost and that she deserves better...a loving man to support her and help her heal. Tell her that she knows better than anyone that life is too short to live in the "what ifs". Tell her that she is blessed to be alive and have the opportunity to survive her battel with cancer and find true love in the future. But that she needs to focus on getting better and on you guys.

Talk to your siblings and understand that sometimes parents grow apart.  Sometimes they don't realize what affect their actions will have on you, the child. Your father may not realize how he is making you feel...maybe you should talk to him and let him know that you need his love and support. Tell him that it's hard for you to see him go but you want both him and your mom to be happy but you also need him to still be your father and show you that he loves you.

I'm telling you...the most important thing is family. Your mother sounds like she loves you and your siblings a lot. Take care of her and just try to bring happiness to the house.

Also, pray...it's amazing what it can do...even if you're not religious.

If at the end of the day your father doesn't show you his love. I know that it will hurt, but know that not all men are like that and make sure that you fall in love with a man that shows you how much he loves you everyday.

Best of luck to you! ;)

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