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Yes, I feel like that often. It would be so nice to just freeze time for a few weeks and get my life in order.

I somehow understand what you mean, but somehow not.

absolutely.
each day passes too fast, each year pases too fast, and everything blends together.
i just can’t catch up

I don’t know how to stop it. Maybe if you can find an activity that helps you be in the moment, then time will slow down for that moment and it will be therapeutic. Some people meditate, some people play music, etc…

yup. what’s wrong?

What kinds of things are stressing you out?

good i guess. i could be better

y? what’s wrong with u?

I totally understand where you are coming from.

Seeing as it is impossible to freeze in time, maybe you could put things into order of what is most important to what is least important and then go from there. Like if you have something that is really stressing you out and is important, try to fix that before you fix the other little things in your life.

I don’t know if that makes sense?

so it’s all different things or just one big thing?

same here sort of.

I understand what you mean, like you can stop time just so you can get a grip on things. There really isn’t enough time in the day for everything.

ever since my mother died, i think like you, even i have great kids and loveley grand kids ,then i hit the whats going on syndrome i do play the guitar and i just turn my amp on and play for at least an hour ,sometimes longer and thats the same with me writing music when i hit a brick wall, but than again i shouldnt complain today i have everything i wanted and that is life only i wished it was years ago…

i completely understand my life is the same right now… one horrible thing happened and it seems one after the other horrible things keep happening. It seems as though I can’t catch my breath - take a breather from life. I am literally overwhelmed by my life and i understand - you cant breath and just feel like crying always.

well - i’ve been there for sure. but there are things i’ve done which have helped - one, make sure get good sleep, make SUre exercise daily, try to cut out some stressful even if fun things and replace with relaxing things (yoga or just time w/a book)….and try to not take more things on….mostly - gotta keep good stuff in your life/on your plate so youre not consumed with the complicated stuff……hope that helps some…..xx

yeah i been there too, best thing you can do is talk to a person close to you. what your holding back is suffocating you. let it out and it will all get better. I hope everything works out ok.

I can’t help you but Yes I can share with you beautiful_blondie, I understand your feeling, and that’s natural I think.

When I want peace and have that’s voice in my head (just like happened to you maybe)
I tried to hear to silence, even silence have their own voice you know and you could hear it too :)
( it’s like when we playing music very loud then we stop it suddenly, we will
hear like ‘iiiiiiiiiing’ like that in our head — i wish i can describe it more, but I hope you know what I mean)
everytime you hear that noise in your head, stop it and there will be silence.

about the ‘catch up’ thing I think it’s just process to knowing ourself even better,
how to react, how to feel, how to learn about people & situation around us.
naturally things will get better in time, you will know how to handle it.
every person have their own way about this,
just remember, It’s ok to feel that way.

you’ll be alright :)

beautiful_blondie wrote:
so im not completely alone… how do you stop this feeling? i feel so sad and confused and stressed that i feel sick! ive been getting dizzy alot from this lately and i collapsed last night.

I have some good news and some bad news, blondie… The bad news: You can’t stop that feeling. The good news: You can fight it.

It is all in yer mind, gal.

Dont think I can help but I can sure relate, I wish i could take things back that ruined stuff with the girl I fell for, her hatred for me was finalised today, blergh **** this ****

or wish everything and everyone would freeze and see the look on their faces. and yes, change some. :)

defo, i’d love to be able to do that, but if it’s because you feel like your mind’s overcrowded & you need to balance things, writing down everything on paper would prob help, talking them over with someone who’s close to you does too, when you keep it all in your head it can make it harder to know where to start… it helps put things into perspective & you’ll be able to think clearer & cope better…

u’re thinking too much blondie, i go through it all the time, just relax, what happened is a past.

last time i felt like u, it was when there was sum drumming that i’ve trying to do but i couldn’t, at the same period i have done some mistakes.

there’s a movie called “patch adams” for robin williams. one of the thoughts it presenting was the following, if u have a problem don’t focus on it, look at what is behind it.

the reason of that feelin’ ur havin might b so deep inside u that u can hardly see it. let life flow like a clear river runin through the green forests.

if u have done something that u refret or there is something that happend to that u hated, believe me that’s the way it should be.

f it’s about some thing u have done, let me ask u a question, who did it, it’s stupid question but the answer is, it’s u. u just said in a post that u like who u r, so don’ worry, things will go the way that maches what u did.

like u can hardly tell us how u feel, i can hardly discripe what i mean, all i can say is don’t focus on the bad feeling, every thing is gonna b all right.

u seem like a very good person. so don’ worry good things will come ur way. think about the things u love and do them. play music or listen to it, go out with friends or even alone, take a walk, look at how funny people look and act, enjoy the sarcasim of the universe, enjoy the nature and the sun, read the last shout i gave to u.

when i was ur age i felt so depressed, feeling the same like u, but believe me it ain’t worth it, at least look at ur avatar and imagine sceans of love just do what ever u love…..be happy….be blondie.

you have no idea…. this has been happening to me. and im a very patient guy. it hasnt always been like this with me. things started when i met my girl.. her life has been chaotic from the start. and its been tough. i just found out her dad is now in jail for beating her brother. my girl, she tells me about this stuff, then locks or drinks herself away during stressful times. i dunno what to do. its so frustrating.

thank you for the shout btw

I meditate when it gets too bad. Sit in a quiet room and breath. Imagine all my thoughts going past me…

I have to do this often so i can get a breather…

Hey BB!

You’re very allegorical. No wonder your poems are so good. Comes natural to you, and I bet you’re wicked good with symbolics.

Anyway, yeah. Critical voices in our lives, usually parents, significant others, tend to get in our heads. Sometimes it murmurs, like a deadly voice undermining our will. It’s usually “you have to do this, but you’re not good enough” type things that get in there and echo around.

Not sure, but it seems like the “voice” is in or related to lingual parts of the brain, because they would get drowned out when engaged in conversation, music, reading… I don’t know really, I guess anything i was involved in or focussed on enough shut ‘em out.

Noises around the house were really irritating to me when I was in that environment — made me flinchy, irritated, etc. On edge. Sign of an abusive situation, possible PTSD. Away from the environment, nothing. Didn’t matter if there was noise around, just didn’t affect me. So I knew it was the family environment.