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What would you like to achieve with telling him?
What do you think would happen if you did tell him?

If you are planning to stick with him, and the other attraction is more of a fantasy (nothing too serious and certainly nothing that you would act upon), then its not a huge deal, and there is no reason to let him know. We all have our little secret thoughts, and if its relatively innocent, you are entitled to them.

However, if you like her A LOT, (not just a minor attraction) if you and think that your liking her could potentially be distracting or destructive in your committed relationship, or that you might have to chose, well, before telling him anything you need to really evaluate the situation and decide just what is at stake. If you feel like the situation is serious, then honesty is usually the best policy.

That is a difficult one…I think it depends how strongly you feel for each person… if it’s pretty much equal, the way you’re describing the guy seems to favour him, you could try discussing it vaguely with him…without mentioning who the girl is… you must know him pretty well; would you want him to tell you? & what do you think his reaction would be? hope that’s helped a little :)

I think you shgould be open and honest with your boyfriend.