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I’m sorry to hear that happened to you.

What happened? Tell us more, maybe we can help.

awww, (((((yours_dietcoke))))) I’m so sorry. I do not want to see you hide away inside your shell. I will miss that wonderful you!

*more tight hugs*

sounds like the Simon and Garfunkle song “I am a Rock.” You might put that armor on… but one day its going to get really hot out and that armor is going to fall off or you’re going to take it off. You’ll be ready to open up again. What that person did to you is wrong but we’ve all been there. You’ll find a person to trust again.

(((J)))

I am sorry to hear it…those that are willing to take the chance regardless of red flags and the pain that accompanies, in the end live fuller, richer lives for the experiences.

Don’t stay in the armor too long. It’s a nice place to visit, but a horrible place to live.

Jade

That is a sad and painful thing. I don’t know why anyone would betray a trust like that.

Sorry you’re going through it.

Listen yours_dietcoke, you can’t keep that impermeable armour on forever. I know how strong that feeling is to not let anyone else get into your mind enough to make you feel vulnerable and emotionally laid out to hurt. Perhaps I am a hypocrite, but it is necessary to open up. Just be more wary about who you do it with. One of the key things about life is to learn by your experiences and live at the same time.

Of course,you will encounter such people as you described above, but that is part and parcel of life, and love. You can’t ever experience true happiness if you are not willing to let others in. Of course that involves the risk of being hurt, but that is a risk you must take in order to become a happier person. You can never feel whole if you retreat back into your shell and stay there.

sorry to hear about that. i did that once, and so i know how it is you feel now. let us just be extra careful. hugs.

Sorry about your situation…

“Betrayal”

A dark and ominous cloud surrounds
and attempts to shut out the sun.
The joy and warmth of a heart of love
shines on. The darkness has not won.

A wavering deep within the soul
questions .. Was I wrong? Did I stray?
Why would this wound me so?
I ponder and I pray.

My God of love is always there
and He guides me through each day.
When I weaken and begin to question “why”.
He says, “my child, pray”.

For I will give you all you need
to “weather” such a storm.
Have faith in what you know is true.
My steadfast love transforms

. Marge Hampton© August 2005

Also let me add that the mistake was not yours. It was the person who betrayed you that made the mistake.

im sorry for you ‘but you will be fine.

I hope you’re not beating yourself up about this. You gave your emotions and trust and the other person took. From your post, I think you’re a very graceful human being.

coke i am so sorry to hear this. i really hope that you feel better!

Love and its crazy webs it weaves, it makes everyone look the fool at one time or another. I know how you feel, and I know one day you’ll feel better about this, but til then keep your chin up!

that’s how life is, sometimes we meet ppl that will dissapoint us, sometimes we will meet good and sincere people.

You must be feeling pretty bad right now, giving your trust to another person was a huge choice, well, things didn’t go well this time, but i can asure you that in your future life still has much more to offer, don’t give up ;) (*hugs*)

Sorry that happened to you, but you have to have the ability to share, and have trust worthy friends, start out small and work into the bigger stuff. My best friend who I love dearly, can sometimes let the cat out of the bag as well, forgiveness goes along way. i don’t know why some people feel compelled to blab about others, but i also know you have to be able to talk to someone. I hope you let someone in again very soon.

Yes, he did it. That’s my point hon, not everybody is like that. I am sorry he did you that way, I truly don’t know why people go out of there way to deliberately hurt other people. Just know, I love ya and I hope you can learn to trust again because like I said everyone needs someone.

me too

my fiancee broke my heart

You soooooo got it going on now!!!!! Congrats!! It’s so true, make friends but don’t keep the hurtful ones. No one needs that kinda baggage around. Love ya much, be well.

It sounds like you have a good outlook on things. It might be hard sometimes but at least you know the right direction you need to head in. Good for you. that’s great.

What a beautiful thread, and a beautiful example of how our human nature and will to live in joy surpasses any disappointment. Yes, when we interact with each other we are given the great oportunity to learn more about ourselves.. sometimes in a painful way, sometimes in a joyful way, no matter how, experiencing help us grow richer and stronger into our own power.
Way to go girl!