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Maybe they said more than what they were comfortable with and just feeling a little open and embaressed?
Give them time, you can’t force someone, just shout them to say you can wait and will be there, they will open up, or maybe change the subjust to something a little lighter if what you were talking about was emotional.

OHHHH yeah, I beat the invite again!
Thats twice now off two people I beat the invite :D
Im getting too good lol

This is the SAME QUESTION I was wondering myself.

Like people totally falling off the face of the internet, on this site it makes me wonder and worry. So I totally found someone else who knows more of their personal information, and asked them to contact them just to make sure they were ok.

lol Lazy, it depends on the person and what they’re doing in that current time. I’m sure they didn’t do it intentionally though, just leave your calling card, they might be back later.

maybe something happned,something unexpected…..

I don’t know. I know that feeling though. you feel so helpless and you just want to know what’s going on and if you did something wrong. * sigh * I’ve felt that far too often.

Hugs. I hope you find your answer.

Leir yeah I drop those people, fek’um.

I have soft insides, if I choose to care about someone—I will cut them off if they short me like that, it’s how I am. There’s no point to hurt if you don’t have to, life’s too short and you seem too sweet to deal with it.

:) On a side note. I’m totally inlove with this music video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5pm-U…

when people dont care about you , then just dont care about them , because they arent worth it :)

~Starlight~ wrote:
when people dont care about you , then just dont care about them , because they arent worth it :)

Sometimes it is in our nature to care even when its not returned, its what makes us the better person, their loss

Lazy daze , leirbag , you are both very right . But when someone doesnt care about you and always hurts you alone your care for them fades , thought my sis howevercares about everybody even the people that hurt her the most .She is sooooo nice that she would do anything to see someone happy even though they arent as nice to her . At the end people like her are the ones that suffer the most in life…
its not easy but eventually people learn ( hopefully )

It’s always best to give people the benefit of the doubt. You can’t reach them, and you don’t know why. Best to wait and see.

No problem.

:) bbye

Sometimes things happen outside of the internet. Hehe, there is life in three dimensions, Leirbag.

Agree with candp -

Although belated but still my thoughts. Sometimes people get busy with thier own lives and just don’t find the time for a computer service. My answers a bit obvious, but hey, if they don’t want to talk they don’t want to talk.

We can’t live our lives online. If someone that was in trouble no longer requires our help I would keep the attitude that it was no longer required, or perhaps they solved the problem on thier own. Maybe they are looking for help in the real world.

Whatever or whoever found something else to do for a while, and when they need help from us again they will be back.

Don’t worry so much Lierbag. Life can get busy, and should not all be spent in cyberspace.

Or maybe thier computer just broke down.

who dun it?

why does it matter, Lierbag was hurt by this. Let us console him and move on.
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Accusations and blame yield nothing but pain.
Nothing is lost and nothing to gain.

(ther’s your poem for the day IzzaBizza)

because i’m curious. that’s all. it’s none of my business but i want to know who’s been upsetting my friends.

and that was a lovely way to send your message.

Some people are not chatters… Sam admitted to that once I think. I’m generally not a chatter either. I’ll post, I’ll reply, but rarely do I use this forum to chat. I tend to speak when spoken to… or if I have something important to say :) Some people are just like that… it’s not that they think any less of their friends.
Bright blessings~
Richard

I made a post about the same thing not long ago. I’m still not sure.

Hey Richard - Missed you

Mm, perhaps something cropped up and the person couldn’t get back on the comp? Happens to me all the time.

on your last talk did something happen?

It doesn’t matter. It’s their choice who they want in their lives, to what extent, and maybe they didn’t feel comfortable, interested or otherwise wanting of communication.

If this is someone who told you not to contact them, don’t. Period. If they haven’t, and this is someone who could contact you, or you’ve tried to contact them but they refuse to talk, and there is no indication they want contact, then take the hint.

Is this person male or female?

No idea. Try not to take it personally though. Keep smiling ; )

I agree with Xeno, you cannot always find out why people stop talking to you at that time, but they may come back eventually. Could be they are embarrassed about something they said or did, could be they’re afraid to get too much involved in the friendship, could be their spouse is getting concerned they spent too much time with you, could be that they are mad at you right now but will get back to you later to resume the conversation. Whatever it is, it hurts though. Hope the many positive reactions you got to this post helped to heal a bit.

there could be a million reasons

why don’t you just ask? i’m sure your friend would be glad to know that you cared enough to inquire :O)

Ask them. Send them another shout (when you know they are online) and just say hi or something. And I think it’s rude to make a post like this. If you are having a problem with someone, speak to them personally, and don’t involve other people.

Maybe just ask them if you offended them in some way but I think someone already mentioned that they maybe embarassed, could be who knows, but you know they old saying you can lead a horse to water but can’t make him drink, so whatever the reason just know you tried.

same thing happened to me sorry i know its confusing and hurts not knowing what u did

Not very forthcoming on the details, are you, Leirbag?

hey Allan… thank you. How have you been? I’m doing ok here… a little upset at achool, but I’ll figure out a way to survive.

Sorry it took so long for me to respond, but I thought it appropriate considering this post ;)
~Richard

Something like this just happened to me irl…

It made me a sad panda.

Gabriel;

I would give that person a shout, just say what’s up? where did you go? Maybe they got lost in chat or was busy in a post or surfing other sites. I know sometimes I will be on this site and on MSN with one or two other people, and it is easy to loose track of where your at. I’m sure they would not intentionally dis you, they probably got busy.

:)

hmmmmm….maybe it’s just time to let them go?