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Anonymous, sounds like you are ready to take responsibility for your life and create some changes. We are Carol and Paul from Las Vegas so we can identify with the Casino burn out and gambling addiction. One lesson we can share with you is that engaging in any addiction is in fact, chasing a fleeting high at best. The question to you is if this fleeting high is the cost you pay for something that may or may not happen? We think finding a police position would definitely enhance you and the quality of your life, and that you would be able to count on. Research all major city Dept. of Personnel for police testing or positions available. We know in Las Vegas that our police department called METRO PD hires from around the country and they pay very well.

That is sad to hear about your parents. You must feel so alone. Do you have anyone to talk to about this? If you don’t you can email me.

I haven’t had a relationship with my mother for about 4 years now. She was an alcoholic and we didn’t have much of a relationship anyway. I don’t know where she is and chances are I will never hear from her again. It’s worse than death because I will never know when she dies. It’s like I am constantly grieving. It sucks so bad.
My father is a rich snob and he never calls me. I haven’t talked to him for about a year. It’s really tough to live in this world without parents. I’m in my 30’s too and I found I still have a need to have them around. I guess you never grow out of that.

I understand how you feel. It’s a rough and lonely world out there and it’s like everyone is out for themselves. It’s hard to find happiness.
Your a sweet guy for helping out your grandmother. My grandmother died 4 years ago and she was like a mom to me. Cherish your time with her as long as you can.

Wanting to start out new may be the thing you need. Debt can always be worked out one way or another. Stop smoking the pot - it’s taking away your motivation. The drinking is pulling you down too. Join a health club and start taking care of yourself. Eat better and take vitamins to help your body heal from the alcohol and drugs. Try to keep life simple. When you feel better about yourself and get healthier you’ll get some attention from women. People tend to avoid people who are depressed. Start putting yourself first and take care of you.

If you need someone to email feel free to talk to me. I’ve been there and I understand.

Heather

you are in deep s**** at youre age ,intelligent and so stupid ,ok you are at the bottom of the pit,the only way is, and i quote :up, up ,up it is very nice and thoughtful of you to look after youre grand mother firstly get in shape,by going ,and i mean it cold turky its in youre mind there are no patches nothing else will fix it ,but youre self no wonder you are overwaight ,just eating ,bored with youre job you are still in youre prime come back to me in 6 to 8 weeks with a better result,may the force guide you….

This has been your first step to change in your life, just opening up to people and asking for advice. I agree with silverwings, you shoud get some help. I can’t imagine how it must feel to have lost you mum and dad, that is my fear, so I truely empathize with you. If you can get through this, you can get through anything, And hopefully when you feel a bit better within yourself your life will start to change, possitive attracts possitive. Maybe then you may meet a woman an who knows you may start a family of your own, life changes all the time and I hope you can get the help you need and begin yours afresh. Good Luck and take care of yourself
Luv Sue

Ditch the drink and pot. Look for another job in Detroit if you cant move further away but dont put your life on hold because of your grandmother. Is there anyone else who could look after her? Maybe get a day job and do exercise in evening rather than evening/night work and sleeping late in day as that can help with weight.