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I can’t take all this stuff man

I’m a senior in high school, i work at circuit city 20 hours a week, i get of of play rehearsals every weekday at 5 on Tuesdays and Thursdays i have SAT prep for like, 3 hours a session i got caught making out with my girlfriend in my car today so i can’t even do that anymore and to top it all off some guy rear ended me today and my leg is now in pain. i just don’t know what to do about this anymore, it’s too much all at once and i am just really stressed out. sorry for the rant post but i just needed to look this all over and reflect, i know that my life isn’t that bad and that ultimately i’m a happy person but right now i just can’t see my situation improving in the near future.

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- Fourthings™ - offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 2 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Is it really so wrong to make out with your gf? I mean, it’s not a sin or illegal. And maybe you should consider crossing some stuff out of your routine to free up more time.

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BruceTuxedo offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Arlington Heights, MA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

the girlfriend thing was a teacher catching us on campus, now we don’t have a private place to go anymore

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BruceTuxedo offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Arlington Heights, MA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

and none of these things are things i want to have disapear

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

That sucks, maybe you could drive off somewhere more secluded and if you can’t cross anything if then perhaps you could write yourself a clear time table of all your activities, I know it won’t free up any time but it helps to deal with it.

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BruceTuxedo offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Arlington Heights, MA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

i can’t drive off with her, drive off privileges haven’t been granted to us yet and even when they are she’s a junior so she can’t come with me anyway, just yesterday my friend was suspended for driving off

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Wow, that’s very strict, I guess maybe just keep a good eye out next time.

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Oster: Gettin' It. offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Have a date. Meet her off campus. Have her come over.

The rearend thing, that’s covered by the other guy’s insurance, and you should go to a doctor immediately, but contact a lawyer, too. The other guy’s insurance will be billed, I don’t believe you have to pay a cent upfront.

Talk to a lawyer. It’s a clear case so they will takes a percent of the net over the bills. The rest is yours for pain and suffering, and lost wages. I think that’s all you get there on top of medical, rental (if needed) and car repair.

Your efforts will pay off, don’t sit around being a victim. You got hit with a lot, but you’re right — things are more very annoying than anything.

Keep things moving.

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BruceTuxedo offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Arlington Heights, MA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (29 minutes after post)

Oster, thanks, that was helpful.

i completely forgot to mention though: my girlfriend is agoraphobic i can’t even take her places.

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Bellflower, CA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (30 minutes after post)

Well, I guess that’s all part of highschool. I’m a junior right now and I feel the same way you do, with my AP classes, 6 clubs, and the job I’m trying to get. Hang in there, really, and just try your best at everything you do, as hard as that may sound. This has been a bad week for you probably, I’m sure everything will even out in time.

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Spokane, WA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Do you have a faith? If so seek your answer there ~smiles~.

Go to a chiropractor and tell them you were in an accident and now your leg hurts. Ask your chiro if he knows a good lawyer friend, if not call your insurance company and tell them what is going on. Then it is up to them to fight the other insurance company, if they don’t want ot give you double your doctor bills and loss of work incurred, then get a lawyer.

School is a ***** I ain’t gonna lie to you (pun intended)! College is a hoe too ~smiles~, but eventually you get out of it and as you get older time moves faster, so use the time you have well ~smiles~.

I hope you find the answers you seek!

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 2 months ago (31 minutes after post)

That’s a shame, is she taking any medication for it? Beta blockers I heard off Roj are good for anxiety and xanex is also good for things like that, I’ve been somewhat agoraphobic since taking to many ’shrooms, drinking cures it for me…

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BruceTuxedo offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Arlington Heights, MA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (31 minutes after post)

silverwings, the extent to which i don’t need that **** is mind boggling, and now i am finding it difficult to like you

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Oster: Gettin' It. offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (36 minutes after post)

Go where she’s unlikely to have an anxiety attack.

And, yeah, chiropractor with a medical physician on staff — medical doctor has to sign off, prescribe meds, and the chiropractor will treat whiplash, etc.

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Arlington Heights, MA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (37 minutes after post)

my leg really hurts, i didn’t even notice when it happened, but now it’s just seriously cramping up

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Oster: Gettin' It. offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (42 minutes after post)

Go ahead and get the spinal xrays with the chiropractor. If you put it off too long, the insurance company may suggest the injury was suffered after the accident.

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Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (43 minutes after post)

You can go to the emergency room.

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BruceTuxedo offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Arlington Heights, MA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (46 minutes after post)

i’m going to the doctor first thing in the morning.

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Oster: Gettin' It. offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (47 minutes after post)

Oko, it’s possible that the leg cramp are from peripheral nerve damage near the spine.
Not the spinal column, so call hospital for advice. They may have you take OTC pain meds, amy have you come in. Def get to a chiropractor ASAP.

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Barbyman offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (4 hours, 35 minutes after post)

go and find a black cat shove it in a microwave then the bad luck stops and you be back on top ,sitting in the car and watching stars fall down hmmm…..

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Nassau, 23, BS | 2 years, 2 months ago (13 hours, 22 minutes after post)

Someone told me that you work hard when your young so when you get older you get to work less. Don’t worry every now and then things get overwehlming, it gets better.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (14 hours, 36 minutes after post)

When I get overwhelmed I find that it is all about choices. You say that you want none of the things on your list to go away, yet there has to be some give somewhere. What is your goal? What in your list does not help you towards that goal? (girlfriend doesn’t count on th elist of things to eliminate, I get that :-))

While being the play may be something you enjoy, are you able to actually enjoy it and still work (I assume there is areason you need to work) and finish school?

Thank goodness this is your last year of school (unless you go to college). It will be done soon.

If you choose to keep everything on your list, then you may be choosing to be overwhelmed.

Keep us posted on what the doctor says.

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Arlington Heights, MA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (20 hours, 17 minutes after post)

i have a sprained groin muscle as it turns out (not the first one i’ve had and it sucks)

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

That sucks, hope you feel better soon!

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Oster: Gettin' It. offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

Ah, cool. Glad you got that checked out right away. Plans with the gf?

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Changedgirl offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
CA | 2 years ago (2 months after post)

I know exactly how you feel. I am in university and work 2 jobs so I know the meaning of stress! I think the best thing you can do at this point is just try to be as organized as possible to keep you from losing your mind. You can’t really cut back on anything (except the play) but if that is something you enjoy a lot you should try to keep it in your life. Get a day planner and plan out your study time in intervals. This tends to help me. Best of luck Bruce!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (6 months, 1 week after post)

i think you just need to prioritize
what things are most gonna affect your future
what do you NEED to do
mabye some time you should take a break from everything and just relax, then you will be regenerated for everything else

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