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Since I am new here, I really am trying to figure out how to use the sight.

I have read everyone’s post even if I didn’t respond to you, I am still trying to figure out how to. I have had the worst flu ever and was laying in bed with my baby taking a nap and had the urge to write. Well not a whole lot has changed in my life I am still enabling my spouse of 16 years to destroy himself, me and our family while I wait on a rehab center to get him a bed. He has been going to meetings three nights a week and has a sponser only to leave a meeting to do what? Well we all know that answer. I confront him with it and same old same old, no I didn’t….Come on now, I watched you for over a year and half, I know when your stoned out of your mind that you are looking for people that has dug tunnels in our yard, yeah that’s his favorite…. I am really trying to understand the whole thing without getting mad, but I have lost that battle to. I did get him hooked up with a rehab center on payment plans and with my fingers crossed his bed will be ready this friday. 28 days inpatient, but then what? I know one day at a time, but what people fail to realize the people around the addict don’t have a day at a time. We have the big picture, our future, does that make sense? I am having a real hard day today. I can only hope my spirits will soon be lifted or maybe what I am really trying to say is my “burden”?

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Mikesisso 3 #
Cape Coral, FL, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

Please call Al-Anon. I am in a similar situation and I am looking forward to going to my first one tonight. There are others out there with similar if not the exact same problem. I urge you call or go to Al-anon.org. Get help and remember You can only help yourself and you can only help him if he wants it and if you are healthy. BTW Get better from the flu…

Barbyman 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

well trust me ,you seriously have to open your eyes ,that your husband needs help is concluded but in my mind he doesn’t really want to ,give him an ultimatum..its you and your family or its separation what ever else you want to do ,that is up to you, he has to do it himself,its called cold turkey and its done without doctors
or rehab or anything else, he has to want to do it,good luck and may the force help you on this one….

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

WOW …..you remind me what I lost ….a beautiful wife, at least my children are grown .I’m 49 and I’m working on my third year clean . Your spouse doesn’t know now how lucky he is that your still there.I hope for both of you that he gets clean and stays that way for your family..but he really must want to stay clean.I know how hard it is for him and now I know how hard it was on my wife. I never thought of her only me getting high . In the end I lost her and would give anthing to have her back. We were married 25 years……..O well , I’ll pray for you and your husband , hoping you have better luck then I did. JUST BE CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!!! GOD bless you and your family!!!!

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trustme31 7 #
Rockford, IL, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

Thank you all for words of wisdom your thoughts and prayers. I appericate you all. But this really is my last go around with him, if rehab does not help, then I am gone. It is very hard to walk away from 16 years of marriage but I have come to realize it is even harder to have endless nights of sleep, the sickness I feel in the pit of my stomach when I know what he is doing behind the door. And the worst feeling of all is that I feel like the prisoner.

Help me with: Just plain fed up… As you know I have been sticking by my husband with his addiction, rather seeking out treatment

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Mesquite, NV, US | 2 years, 2 months ago (2 days, 5 hours after post)

I haven’t really figured out how to best use the site either. It seems to wander around a bit. TrustMe31: Amazingly enough, I just left Carbondale three weeks ago or so. When I lost my wife & my son,I was devastated and a friend, living in a community there offered me shelter. Unfortunately it didn’t work out, so I took shelter here, with another friend. Three weeks later and I’m in worse shape now than when I lost my family.

What do they call this? ” Abandonment Issues ” ?

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