friends help: I’m feeling lonely in High School… - Help.com

I hear you there. I am gonna tell you my freshman sophmore years in highschool I had barely any friends. Now I cant promise this will work but its pretty much a fact of life. You may not have to many friends your first couple of years of highschool but as you get older and as people around you get older they really start not caring so much about outward appearances (what their idea or their friends ideas are of a friend) and really start looking at people for who they are. I will tell you this so many people knew me by my senior year just because I always kept to myself and people just got naturally curious to talk to me. So just grow up like you are now, dont change yourself for anyone, like yourself because thats all that matters.

wow that sounds like me. i’m a senior now, and I feel so much more mature now than I did then. It is true, you stop caring about whether people like you or not by senior year, which means you talk to people more honestly/with out trying to sound a certain way. Everyone knows highschool is bull and socially it isn’t representative of how people connect outside of school.
The first couple years I felt like i was walking around in a day dream, i felt disconected from everyone. I watched a lot of movies and read some NIetzsche and they consoled me. Life is lonley for most intelligent people, but as you grow up, more people around you are intelligent, so its pretty even.
I live near you, in manhattan. Wouldn’t it be funny if we passed each other in the street?
isabella

WELL i’M A SOPHMORE i only had like 3 friends that i really talk to and they have A lunch i have B lunch…. so during lunch i just go to the bathroom and sit on the toilet and try to sleep for 45min!!…sux… but i’m starting to read books and searching the internet and i’ve found alot of interesting stuff on how to make new friends… and its really helping me!! I made a new friend yesterday!!.. and it was really cool!
my english kinda sux cuz i don’t practice it alot…. so its hard to make a conversation with a nother person… cuz sometimes i get stuck with a word!!… but i’m getting better at it!!

I am in grade 10 now…
I have zero friends at school. Zero.
I feel very very lonely at school since I never say a single word throughout the day except answering a teacher’s question…besides that, nothing. I feel disconnected from other students and I dislike highschool. I still am a honor roll student…but I am just picturing getting out in grade 12! 2 more years…

Continue to be yourself. Have things outside of school. Write in a diary. Listen to your favorite music and read books that interest you.
These are the only things keeping me sane through my teenage years. Sigh…

well hi i am from greece!i am feeling lonely too even if i have a few but “real”friends!my problem is that i think that my best friend is a little bit competitive towards me and this makes me feel really lonely and sad…i don’t want her to be jealous of me because this completely destroys our friendship!i am afraid to talk to her because i think that she’ll think that i am the one who is jealous!can u help?

Try mixing with other groups. I know it sounds hard, but I tried this and I made heaps of more friends and everyone is really accepting. you should stay the same person you are, but if you have something that makes you stand out, flaunt it so that everyone remembers who you are. if you want to try and work things out with your old friends, sit them down and have a chat. a d&m. but, if they dont accept you for who you are, theyre not really friends that you want to be with and you should find people who like you for who you are.

I am having quite a bit of problems as well with friends in highschool like for some reason I get jealous when my friend talks to all these popular people because i dont want her to become one of them like i dono i just feel soo shy like in social studies class i have a friend ut she just ignores me and goes to other people i just dont know what to do could someone please help me. I just want more friends.

since i was in high school,i don’t have any friends,because i just feel so shy to talk to people.the only things i do is flirting around on the compass and looking for girls.

I am A freshman and I talk to people but it feels like whenever there is a conversation it feels like i am out of it. Then I say something and they look at me wierd. I talk to the girls but I dont like to just go up to them and say something because it makes me feel like a creep. I don’t get alot of numbers and whenever the girls talk to my best friend. I feel like why can’t they talk to me like that?

i really hate school and i can pretty much relate to all of you since Ive came to the united states im not the same anymore im way more shy i never use to be like that i have a couple friends but still i feel bored with them all the time and some of my friends seem like they think their better then me i just want good friends that i can have fun with and just be myself that’s all but other then that high school sucks.

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1st-Know that you are actually not alone. Most people feel lonely in big school settings.
2nd-Stand up straight and put on a smile. Often, lonely/shy people are confused with arrogant people. You have to send a signal that you are friendly.
3rd-Don’t try to be popular, just be nice. Look around you and start observing other people. Often, people are lonely because they are waiting for the world to come to them. To make friends, you have to be willing to look at what OTHER people need.
4th- Don’t give up. Schools in the U.S. are terrible for shy students. It gets better when you get out. Stay in school, though, or you will really be limiting your choice of friends in the future.
GOOD LUCK!