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why?

What happened that makes cutting less painful than what you feel inside? If it’s okay I ask.

There are alot of people out there that cut themselves…and I think probably for the same reason…to escape what they’re truly feeling if I had to guess. Is anyone aware that you’re doing it?

Is there anyone you can talk to? Do you have a close friend you could confide in?

I guess you wouldn’t be here if you did? Sorry if that was a dumb question.

When was the last time you cut yourself?

I know it is not easy but try to distract your self
by meditation, exercise, talking to people you can trust,
helping people etc.
Try to do things that make you happy.
This will reduce you stress.
If you feel you are clinically depressed
seek professional help.

This might help

Disappointment and Perspective
by Kim Eickhoff

Being disappointed is all about perspective. It took me a long time to realize this. I was under the impression that if someone did something I didn’t like, or a situation evolved that I wasn’t happy with, then I had the “right” to be disappointed. Of course the disappointment always led to me having the “right” to be upset, depressed, frustrated or even angry. After all, the situation didn’t turn out the way it was supposed to, or a particular person didn’t behave the way I believed they should. Therefore, it was disappointing to me and I felt let down. I never once thought it was just my perception of the matter that was causing my disappointment and that I could control this!

What I slowly began to realize through studying myself, as well as paying attention to others around me, was that those things that would upset me, would not upset someone else. I also noticed that those things that appeared to be the biggest deal to someone else, only made me laugh. So what was going on? Obviously, it couldn’t be the situation itself because that was the one constant thing in each equation. What did change was who was interpreting the situation. That was what was different. So I began to wonder if my perception of a situation, any situation, was something I could control? Could I change the way I perceived something, and therefore, change my emotional reaction? I discovered, that yes it was possible. I wasn’t necessarily in control over what happened to me, or around me, but I was definitely in control over how I responded to those situations.

I began to play with this idea a bit. I believe that the people in our lives are great mirrors for how we think and behave, and therefore, can be great educational tools. So I started to focus on the people at work, my fellow employees as well as the customers. I began to pay close attention to what it was they were complaining about and the reasons behind their getting disappointed or upset. I would perceive the situation through their eyes, and then I would force myself to step back from the situation and see the bigger picture. What I always got from this exercise was a different perspective.

What I began to see over and over again was that when most of us get upset it is for one reason and one reason only. The universe is not behaving the way we believe it should behave. This could mean that we didn’t get the raise we believed we were entitled too, so we become disappointed. If we had not expected a raise in the first place, however, we never would have been disappointed would we? It could also mean that someone does not treat us in a particular way that we believe we should be treated. Or our dreams don’t turn out the way we believe they should have turned out. Or an investment didn’t work out the way we thought it would. Or someone dies before we believe they should die. It can be as heavy as that. I am not saying it isn’t sad, but at the same time it isn’t our choice to say how long someone is to live, now is it? Those are our perceptions of what we want, of how we want the universe to behave. When we get disappointed, we never stop and think that it is our perceptions or beliefs that are wrong. We think it is the universe that is wrong because of how we feel personally! That is a pretty grand stand to take when you think about it.

So how do we change our perceptions? By becoming more aware of what your perceptions and beliefs are. You cannot change what you do not understand. So spend some time looking internally and when you become disappointed, think about what is disappointing you. Is it really the situation or the person, or is it because they are not behaving in a way you believe they should behave? Then slowly as you do this, force yourself to look at the bigger picture of what is going on. Force yourself to see the situation from a new perspective and offer positive spins on what has happened. I believe that the more you do this, the less you will be disappointed because you will stop taking things so personally. You will also begin to realize that the way things turn out are the way things are supposed to turn out, whether they are in line with your beliefs or not. This will lead you to feeling more in control of your emotions as well as of your behaviors and actions. You will also be able to use any challenge as an opportunity to grow, develop, and move your life forward, because you will not continuously be knocked down by disappointment.

Okay…well, I’m hoping you won’t cut yourself anymore while you’re here. I’m not sure what I can say that would make you feel better….but there might be someone here that does.

Maybe everytime you felt like cutting you could come here.

F sake Sam stop cutting and pasting such trash you aren’t helping!

Fitz I’m sorry you don’t feel any better and don’t feel able to use any of the coping strategies I recommended. Please try again to tell someone and get to a doctor. I worry about you, and can imagine how awful you think you are, please know this is not true, that it is an illness but if you try you will get better. I haven’t cut in nearly 2 years now and before that it was probably about 3. Please take care.

Well I’m going away til wednesday but will be thinking of her, my poor dear, I remember those feeling and like you’ll never escape, but please try.

how do you still have blood in your body

i know it is super sad and i know many who have suffered from it
and really it just amazes me on a strange level how that much blood lose could be sustained

but it is sad it happens to often
and goes unnoticed to often

horrorxquee wrote:
all of this advice is stupid.
talking to people doesn’t help.
believe me i know.
i’ve talked to people for three years and it’s done nothing.

i can’t see anything ever helping.

you’re wrong, it does help. i dont cut anymore, althought i do run the thought through my head several times a day. talking to people was the start of my way out. it doesnt just stop there but you need people around you to talk to

never give up on yourself

i used to cut like you but ive cut down to about 10 tomes a week but sometimes im good and only cut about 3 times a week.. and ive helped a bunch of ppl on here with problems like this even though i dont consider mine to be a problem more like a relief but thats just me and it works for me.. but i would like to talk about it with you..im young but actually really smart and most of the time helpful….XD

well i get on here alot so send me a message when ever or do you have myspace cuz im always on my myspace…XD

whats your URL and or name if name i need first and last….