Love help: I think I am starting to fall in love with a guy who lives very far away from me, I am living in England but he lives in Sweden. - Help.com

i had ur exact similar situation with my ex , she was japanese and iam from egypt , tell u the truth it is very difficult to keep such love unless one of u is ready to give up his work and live in another country , in my case we couldnt keep going because i have a very good job in my country with promising future , and if i had moved and worked in japan , my qualifications werewould have been useless there and with my work opportunities we couldnt have even afforded our daily expenses , so i asked her to move to hegypt but she wasnt strong enough to do it , so if u love each other deeply , just try to figure out the place thats suites ur life best and be ready as one of u should move
wishing u all the best of luck

I was in a similar situation, actually, sometime last year. Of course, the guy lived in Illinois…and he was trying to get with my sister. :P

Anyway…

Have you considered a long-distance relationship? From what I’ve heard, it’s difficult to keep up, but possible. If you guys both like each other and have been keeping in touch, you might as well! You guys can even exchange home addresses (provided your parents consent), and send each other little things–letters, photos, gifts. Who knows? :)

Thank you, it’s nice to know that there are other people in the same situation! I would love to have a long-distance relationship with him, at least at the moment because I believe I could commit to that, as there is no one else I;ve been interested in for the last few months. however I don’t know if he would be prepared to commit himself to a girl who lives so far away while it would be so much easier for him to have a girlfriend who he can see and be with. I’m also worried about booking a trip to Sweden for February, as it is still over 4 months to go and I worry that he might meet someone else and I will be stuck with a plane ticket! I guess I just have to wait see what happens. Thanks a lot though.

wishing u good luck

at most times, long distance relationship do not work. well, it works for others though. but it would cause hassle and u might end up hurt. for the moment, enjoy the friendship, no need to really overdo the thinking. you like him so what? :) let the feeling be. and one more thing, surround yourself with friends, get to know other people. that way you would not be totally thinking about the SWeden guy :)

Hey there!

Some Swedes are really worth trying, hehe… (lilies, I’ll chase you in your dreams!)

No, long distance relations don’t last. But that is when the distance is kept long. So it’s a matter of shortening that distance, the sooner the better. But in the meantime to eat the cake and have it, i.e. not to burn bridges behind yourself.
Because what is “love”? You are interested in eachother, you have a crush. Realize what it is and whether or not it is worth the efforts. But don’t throw it away only because of distance.

England and Sweden are not far from eachother! Keep in touch if you like him! How old are you? You mentioned “work”. It’s his damned job to go and see you as well! So do as lilies says, hang around friends! Tell the guy to come and see you, if he doesn’t he will fade away.

But about seeing eachother, what about Christmas? How hard “other commitments”?

After having seen eachother during Christmas or during a leave, and if it develops into a real relation, you can see eachother every weekend until deciding upon next step. With the help from Ryanair and creative minds, that is no big deal! And if successful, one (or both) has to move. So what’s the fuzz?

If I love somebody I will see her if she lives on the moon. Distances are meant to be overbridged!

molotok, the dream chaser you are right. :)

i must have forgotten the word ‘commitment’.
for some, it is easy to tell others they love them
but to stand for the ‘love’ counts more than
any one can promise.

Lol, call me a romantic fool if you want. The real world is not always what we want it to be.
Practical matters become obstacles that are hard to overcome.
But if I did not try to live as if things were as I wish they were, they would be really impossible to overcome.