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Talking about tings is a good start.I was a victim of abuse as a child and as an adult. I dont know if it is something we ever get over,I think we just learn to get on with things.Talking to someone who is trained to deal with these things might help.

Dont bottle up anger and hate it wont do you any good. Scream,yell,cry do what you gotta do,to get rid of the anger and hate,get a boxing bag and take it out on it, this helps me.

Dearest Past,

You have carried this for a long time. It seems you are ready to put down this burden and walk away. Like you’ve carried this 100lb rock, its heavy, it scraps your hands and arms. close your eyes, see yourself stopping and putting it down. stand up straight, feel the release in your body as you stand up straight and tall. Take a deep breath and blow it away, blow hard. Now see yourself turning away from it and start walking away. into the future, a future of light, love and peace.

We can’t change the past, we can’t relive it. All we can do is accept and forgive and release the anger. Anger, held in, hurts you more than you know. Think about writing a letter, a letter you know you will never mail. It is important to release this anger. Think about this, let us know if we can help.
In light, love and peace, Robert

If you believe in God — LOOK UP Joyce meyer dot org — CHECKOUT her resources — she has TONSSS of practical books and tapes on overcoming abuse and all the dark thinking/depression/struggles that go with it — she was sexually abused ANd alchoholic violent Dad - now forgave him — is HILarious/really entertaining….as a matter of fact, even if you’re not into God you can learn from her -all my athiest/agnostic friends listen to her rap — she’s AMAzing…her stuff REAllly works b/c she tell you exactly things to do….you WILL get over these things/get better - KEEP seeking help. I like her stuff better than counseling (which I had for YEAARRRS) b/c counseling focuses on feelings, how you feel, over and over, and she will advise - yes look at stuff - and, also- have to learn useful ways to get over stuff and move on…..CHanged MY LIfe (and my husbands’ too…)hope that helps:)

wow thats intense.im in high school, im only a freshman and i went through the same thing with my biological father.only it was always the kids who got it not so much my mom.he did abuse my mom one time before while i was eating my lunch.i can remember my mom saying hurry eat it before he throws it at me. i started eating faster but he grabbed the dish anyways. my mom was wearing a shirt that i really loved it my favorite shirt for my mom to wear and now all i can remember of it was the stains he left in it. after my parents got a divorce i was confused with who i wanted to live with, they got joint costody, but after a while i went and lived with my dad. he was never home and i was always watching, feeding, and helping my little sister do her homework. i never got around to doing mine, so i would fail some classes and that would really upset my dad. i then decided to live with my mom and i have been living with her for about two years now. i dont talk to my dad much only on special occasions like Christmas and Thanksgiving, but he wants more fom me. i think as a fifteen year old i have been through more stuff than a 23 year old has been through in her whole life. i try not to let it get to me but i have these sudden outbursts. i want to blame my dad for that but something pulls me back from doing it. my parents are going to court soon to get my little sister, who is nine ,out of the care of my dad. she constantly cries from fright of going back but we cant do much until the court hearing comes. i think i want to testify against my dad. im not sure yet. i need someone who i can talk to but i dont have anyone. i dont have a bestfriend and i never have so im afraid to open up and spill my guts to someone.