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My job is in transition right now. I am a Life Coach… meaning I coach on the biggest team there is. But what’s in a job? There are much better ways to define a person.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

wow…..i sound like my mother

Ucreate..all I can say for now is..when I hurt, I hold even tighter to my Honor..it was honorable to tell your parents..now you must…show them the honorable reaction

UCreate, I agree with Jade. If you want to be happy, you have to realize that you are the only one you have any REAL control over to make lasting, positive change. You cannot change another. You can try, but ultimately their change is their choice, you are just fuel to that change. So since I find that this is a truth, then of course I will agree with Jade in saying personal responsibility goes hand in hand with that.

Of course personal responsibility belongs to everyone; it belongs to the pedophile, as well as the little child. Because the little child lacks experience their choices are limited, or their fear limits them. These limits also limit the responsibility. The pedophile is SICK, and thereby makes very bad choices; This a tragedy. Eventually the pedophile gives the experience to the child so they can make the healthy choice, but by then its too late and years of therapy is needed.

This is an extreme example… in our every day lives if you give the 5 A’s, you will get them. Perhaps not from the source you wished, but you will get them. If you do get them from the source you wish, it is your responsibility to ask for them. If you don’t get them you then have to consider the relationship. Is it a relationship without the 5 A’s? I don’t think so.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

and As far as I am concerned, personal responsibility is what is conditionally wrong with society in general. Far too often we look to blame others with what we feel is wrong in our own lives. If we as a person or population do not like what is happening around us…we MUST speak up with intergrity and dignity. I recently told another poster, if you have a problem don’t treat it as a school yard fight. Present your fact based argument, support it with documentation, and argue with honor.

As for guilt, that goes against acceptance. Let’s say your parents don’t accept your lifestyle ever, should you hate/make them feel guilty for feeling that way? My answer, no, for then you compound the problem for not accepting their opinion. See the vicious cycle that presents itself. But let’s say, you tell them, I appreciate the fact that you don’t agree with my lifestyle, but understand that I choose my life paths and I accept your position on the matter. I hope someday, you will accept mine. Who holds the higher moral code? Who sets the example of acceptance?

Hope this helps…

I came out to parents this past weekend, and lets just say it wasnt the best reaction. I would write a help post but I dont know what to write.. your post here brought up that question that has been going through my mind. …should there be guilt or responsibility towards the non-givers, or not?

Like most, I so often am rushing around trying to get things done and my daughter will try to tell me about her day. I finally told her that each night we will sit down after my little boy goes to bed and share stories about our day so we can give each other our undivided attention…it is one of the best parts of my day.

My reasons for divorce centered upon every one of those A’s - without them it is a feeling of not being good enough.

My friends laugh at me actually for I generally do not multitask when I talk to them. I will sit down, turn off the computer, turn off the tv, minimize distractions and just focus on them. I drop what I am doing to talk with them or tell them to call i.e. in 30 minutes. But at the same time, they KNOW I don’t answer the phone when I am on overdrive…ha ha.

For humor…The confusion comes in when I am IM’ing more than one person at a time…it can be a bit dangerous when you hit the send key and realize you sent the wrong message to the wrong receiptent…ah well, alter their universe for just a moment.

Rich, again another great post…hugs…and thanks for being you!

How can i really be listening to my friend, if i am not really listening…?

I closed the chat window, and made a point to ask her to repeat what she had just said..and then..I listened.

We can say we are paying attention, that sounds forced huh?

I am, from now on, going to remember to GIVE attention…as a gift from my heart..on my honor.

THANKS RICH..so glad you are still around

;D nmw