[Help] I recently got engaged to my girlfriend of a year.We Updates to this post /post/125019-i-recently-got-engaged-to-my-girlfr Mon, 09 Nov 2009 10:16:33 +0100 Reply from cobra408 /post/125019-i-recently-got-engaged-to-my-girlfr#reply-3475752 what you have to do is find out how you feel inside what feels right and don’t go solely by that you have to choose with your heart and your mind i’m stuck in the same **** right now I lost my ex but more or less she ****** around , and I have been with my new girlfriend for about 8 months now and it was about a year and something months that I broke up with my ex yet I think about her every single day no matter what thats why i’m up this late posting this reply is because I”m hurting, and I don’t know how to make it go away but, if you think its worth more to stay with the girl your with you have to make the choice based on what you see in 10 years and who is better, and who you truly love. best of luck my friend

]]> cobra408 Sat, 23 Feb 2008 10:49:07 +0100 Reply from theresape /post/125019-i-recently-got-engaged-to-my-girlfr#reply-3368975 It’s feast or famine, eh? And it happens all the time. The biological clock starts ticking, and suddenly the guy she dumped doesn’t sound so bad after all. Sounds like the plot of “My Best Friend’s Wedding.” It’s also just happened to my son–now that he’s happily reattached to another wonderful woman, the one who gave him the heave-ho last year is rethinking her decision.

Ouch!

I don’t envy you this choice. On the surface, I’d say stick with the woman who did NOT dump you, and who feels so right for you, and who loves you the way you want to be loved, as you so beautifully put it. But only you know what’s in your heart.

If you decide to go forward with the wedding plans, I would suggest that you send your ex one LAST text message saying,
“Look, I loved what we used to have, but I have moved on now, and I don’t think we should be having this kind of contact now. I wish you the greatest happiness, but now I have to direct all my energy toward the woman I love now—the woman who is going to be my wife. I’m sure you understand.” And then STOP ANSWERING HER MESSAGES.

Bless you.

]]> theresape Tue, 15 Jan 2008 21:39:58 +0100 Reply from DChristophe /post/125019-i-recently-got-engaged-to-my-girlfr#reply-3367754 What a great opportunity life has given you! You and your fiance will undoubtedly both be attracted to and have others who are attracted to you both. Try talking openly with your fiance and tell her how much you care about her and that you were contacted by your old girlfriend and thought it would be no big deal. Now is the time to learn how to talk with each other in open and direct ways with one another about what you both expect from each other and develop trust and respect for your relationship and how you build mutuality.

This is just the beginning…learn to trust the power of your relationship to overcome everything and you will be on the road to a remarkable marriage. Best of luck and trust in your love for this woman you love. It really is completely natural for you to feel the attraction to your ex or other girls at times like this. The depth of a serious committment is a bit frightening, but ultimately brings out the best in most of us if you and she are a good fit together. It’s tough growing up, but the journey is worth the payoffs if you make it with a good partner.

Take a chance and just be honest with her about who you are and how you feel…regardless of the outcome, you will be able to know you were forthright and there was nothing you pretended about and will start to grow from it all.

]]> DChristophe Tue, 15 Jan 2008 06:17:29 +0100 Reply from Meh? /post/125019-i-recently-got-engaged-to-my-girlfr#reply-3367726 ur ex had what, 5 years to be in love with you and get back wit you, i think she lost her chance!!! unless you love the ex wit all your heart, stay wit ur girlfriend!!

]]> Meh? Tue, 15 Jan 2008 06:03:17 +0100 Reply from The Seven Stars /post/125019-i-recently-got-engaged-to-my-girlfr#reply-3367723 You promised your fiance when you proposed to her. You most certainly cannot go back to your ex now. She is your ex for a reason, remember that. If it comes down to not being able to talk to your ex, then that’s the choice you’ll have to make.

]]> The Seven Stars Tue, 15 Jan 2008 06:01:36 +0100