I think that maybe the fear could have come from being in a situation that was totally out of your control, at some point in your life, and since things stick in our minds for very lengthy periods of time, perhaps it turned into fear.

My sister has finally mastered the fear that was plaguing her, for many years. I think it was imposed upon her as a child. Our mother was a fearful person. It didn’t seem to interfere with her life, at least, I didn’t see if if it did, however, I was a child, it could have affected her more than I realized.

But, I feel that she inflicted this upon my sister. She was a very impressionable person, very kind, and gentle, loving and sincere, and should have been protected from the darker aspects of life. However, Mom continually warned about things, that could happen…. I know that she meant well when she did this, but, it had a terrible effect on my sister.

She has spent the better part of her life, trying to find coping tools, to help her to overcome the damage that was done. Such a waste of a beautiful life. How different it could have been if this had not happened to her.

But, the good news is that she has just about put this under her feet. Praise God.
With his help, and the help of many counselors, much prayer, she is doing much better.

Joyce Meyer has a book out called Be Anxious For Nothing. I really enjoyed reading it, as anxiety was something that I had to battle. You might want to get a copy, the library might have one on hand too.

Father, I pray for your light to shine into this situation, touching the problem, and bringing a solution, in Jesus Name. Amen. (((hugs))

Here a couple of sites that could help.

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The fear of the unknown.

You probably know that exact feeling I’m talking about. That flutter in your stomach, that vague discomfort when you get close to the edge of familiarity, that warning in your head that can be so easily misinterpreted as a valid red flag. You know what I mean.

There are parts of our minds and natures that have a single purpose: To keep us safe. These parts are trained throughout our lives to discern between what is okay, and what is dangerous. When you accidentally touched the hot stove burner or iron as a child, that safety center learned from that. When you strayed too far from your parents and they called you back with that tone of worry and fear in their voices, that safety center in your head heard it and learned. Unfortunately, most people’s safety centers have gone a little too far in their learning. The lesson you probably internalized was “if it is unfamiliar, it could be dangerous. Only trust the things you know.”

The result of this, is that when you get too close to the edge of what’s familiar, your brain sends off all the same warning signals and red flags that it would if you absentmindedly got too close to the hot stove. It’s there to protect you, but it also is keeping you fenced into a safe little circle away from opportunity and growth.

What can you do about this?

Some people can break through this fence, ignore the warning signals, and seek new opportunities. There is a rush associated with this behavior that beats any drug. It’s precisely that feeling of danger that provides the rush. Unfortunately, most of us can’t bring ourselves to fling ourselves headlong through the fence (or at least not very often), so is there an alternative for the rest of us chickens out here who are not happy in the fence, but not impulsive enough to throw caution to the wind?

Yes. We have to make the unfamiliar feel familiar.

That may sound strange, but it is very possible. It takes no money, no special skills, just a few minutes each day. The only thing you need for this simple technique is your imagination.

Sit down somewhere quiet for a few minutes (if you have rambunctious children or a crazy schedule, you might have to do this in bed each evening or even when you have a few minutes to yourself in the bathroom). Close your eyes and think about the thing that has been scaring you. Don’t worry about the fear of even thinking about it. In the privacy of your imagination, you are totally safe. Imagine step by step, doing the activity that has been giving you the flutters. At each step, stop and ask yourself what could go wrong at that point, how likely that really is, and what you can do to avoid the problems. What you are doing is looking around for the monsters outside the fence and seeing if there really is any danger to worry about. Once that is done, you can imagine yourself doing the steps to your goal, visualizing in vivid detail each bit as if you were actually doing it.

The results of this technique is that you can do something over and over again as many times as you need to until it becomes so familiar that there is no fear involved. What you are doing is essentially extending the fence to include wherever you want to go. This is something you can do again and again, making the fence bigger and bigger to include anyplace you wish. The biggest benefit is that rather than throwing yourself headlong through the fence and then possibly discovering all those problem and “monsters” that you mind had been warning you were there, once you have already committed yourself, instead you get to scope out the terrain bit by bit, and by the time you meet an obstacle, you generally saw it coming and already know what to do about it.

There are some people out there who have no fear of the unknown, and who can simply decide logically what they want to do and do it (I know, my mother is one of those people), but for the rest of us, this little technique can take the fear and trepidation out of the unfamiliar. Give it a try, I’ll think you will like the results.

Meredith Keeney is a motivational writer and publisher of The Right Path newsletter, a free bi-weekly ezine that helps you achieve your dreams. Check out http://www.TheRightPath.bravehost.com!
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