[Help] I'm really sad. Updates to this post /post/142497-im-really-sad Thu, 26 Nov 2009 22:56:18 +0100 Reply from AmandaLynn /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540601 Just remember… feelings are feelings. And we cant help how we feel sometimes. Feelings are just a reslut of our perspective and mindset interacting with life situations. They come and go. And are not always reflective of REALITY or the TRUTh. So … dont try and convince yourself not to feel sad over it.. cuz loosing someone is always a sad thing,.. even if they dont die. Just dont make your saddness out to be your life.. otherwise you’ll have some major issues.

Seperate feelings from reality.. otherwise your feelings will become your reality and you’ll live on an emotional rollarcoaster for a life.

]]> AmandaLynn Sun, 16 Mar 2008 21:20:17 +0100 Reply from s_mone7 /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540478 Thanks for your insightful and understanding reply. Not sure who was right or wrong anymore. Unfortunately we live miles apart now as the other flatmate we lived with kicked me out. He suggested we get a place together but I felt it was all too soon and some of his behaviour suggested he may not be as committed to me as i would hope from someone i would live with. So i moved back home to my parents. All i know now is that i’m sad and he’s moved on. Of course i have learned a lot from this but feel sad about it as we were very close at one point. I feel alone and find it hard to move on. Perhaps i have been stupid but in the end i have lost out.

]]> s_mone7 Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:46:29 +0100 Reply from AmandaLynn /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540441 [quote s_mone7]He was my flatmate and I wasn’t completely sure about the relationship. He also had alot of female friends which i wasn’t comfortable with. Plus he was a bit too friendly with one of my friends..[/quote]

Well.. honestly, if my man had a female friend i wasnt comfortable with..and it wasnt an “unreasonable” thing - and considering he was as serious about the relatinship as I was… i would have issues with it too. ESPECIALLY if he was disregarding my feelings. Some guys want that serious relationship, others dont …and the same with girls. Some like that one on one, soul mate, dating thing… others date and have a relationship and continue to have guy or girl friends. You need to make sure the guy you date feels the same and has the same standards. Or you’ll clash and always have that problem.

]]> AmandaLynn Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:33:59 +0100 Reply from AmandaLynn /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540432 Ok.. well.. im open to read a complicated story if you wanna write it. But… seeing as how all i have to go with is that you ultimately brok up with him - there must have been a reason WHY you decided to end it. Something inthe “complication” must have caused you to feel that it wasnt worth keeping the relationship - so hence the break up. Right?

And since you did break up with him - and ended the relatinoship… well.. we dont end a relationship to get back in the same relationshp we ended.. u know? If a relationship is having trouble - and we still want it… then we start working on the relationship - we dont leave it. So … having him start to date another girl, well… why wouldnt he? My boyfriend suddenly brok up with me when i was in highschool after we dated for over a year.. saying that he “wasnt ready for a commitment like that”. So a few days later another guy asked me out and i said yes. And my X freeked out! And for the life of me i couldt figure out why. He was starting to “feel” a certain way (hence he felt the need to break up the relatinoship) but then learned that even though he “felt” a bit traped or whatever - he also learned that in his heart and mind his love for me was still there, even though he felt like we were getting to serious. It was just NEW to him. And he droped it and now regretted it. In short… HE WAS LEARNING. Maybe you are to.

I ended up going back out with him because i understood he was learning. And nothing like that happened again. And we grew closer. But im a very understanding person and i still loved him very much. I knew we were ment for one another..and now we’re married. But through that, we’ve both learned a lot. And we’ve learned to not make “perminant” or “big” decisions based on how we feel. But instead use our feelings to better determine the truth.

]]> AmandaLynn Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:31:34 +0100 Reply from s_mone7 /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540428 He was my flatmate and I wasn’t completely sure about the relationship. He also had alot of female friends which i wasn’t comfortable with. Plus he was a bit too friendly with one of my friends..

]]> s_mone7 Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:30:11 +0100 Reply from s_mone7 /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540420 It was very complicated, I guess I split up with him.

]]> s_mone7 Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:24:21 +0100 Reply from AmandaLynn /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540418 u there???

]]> AmandaLynn Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:22:40 +0100 Reply from AmandaLynn /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540397 Like… what caused it? And who broke up with who?

]]> AmandaLynn Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:09:21 +0100 Reply from AmandaLynn /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540395 How did the break up happen?

]]> AmandaLynn Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:09:01 +0100 Reply from s_mone7 /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540385 Not sure I think at least 6mths

]]> s_mone7 Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:03:23 +0100 Reply from AmandaLynn /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540380 how long have yall been broke up?

]]> AmandaLynn Sun, 16 Mar 2008 20:01:35 +0100 Reply from Setto? /post/142497-im-really-sad#reply-3540377 you could try keeping as busy as you can, to take your mind off it.

or you could (if possible) try stay at a friends place for a while, relax and have fun with a good friend.

you could look through a few other peoples problems on this site and try and help them. that’s a good way of forgetting your own problems.

hope this helped.
and hope you feel better soon.

]]> Setto? Sun, 16 Mar 2008 19:59:20 +0100