[Help] I feel like I'm being ripped apart. Updates to this post /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped Fri, 05 Sep 2008 04:32:19 +0100 Reply from els /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped#reply-3621632 It is such a pleasure to know that my advice was worth it. Feel free to give me a shout out any time, although I’m not in any way an expert on this.

]]> els Fri, 11 Apr 2008 21:25:44 +0100 Reply from Moon /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped#reply-3621620 I read almost all of that paper and about 3/4 of the way down I found this:

“Transgenderist”

Transgenderists are men and women who prefer to steer away from gender role extremes and perfect an androgynous presentation of gender. They incorporate elements of both masculinity and femininity into their appearance. Some persons may see them as male, and by others as female. They may live part of their life as a man, and part as a woman, or they may live entirely in their new gender role but without plans for genital surgery.

It’s me in a paragraph. I really just wanted to thank you again. I didn’t know that there was a term for the way I feel. I’m so much less confused. I know that there’s more I need to learn, but this little paragraph is more than I could have hoped for so soon. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

]]> Moon Fri, 11 Apr 2008 21:21:26 +0100 Reply from els /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped#reply-3621613 Wonderful, I hope it’s at least a start.

]]> els Fri, 11 Apr 2008 21:18:32 +0100 Reply from Moon /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped#reply-3621552 Thank you so much. I really think this will help!

]]> Moon Fri, 11 Apr 2008 20:45:31 +0100 Reply from els /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped#reply-3618902 Have you tried getting in contact with any transgender groups. I’m not saying that you should just go ahead and get reassignment surgery but I think this is a group of people who are exploring their sexuality in a way that might help you. Many people are unhappy in their body but it could be for any number of reasons. Maybe you just feel like you don’t get enough respect looking the way you do, and you need to explore how you can get the respect you think is only forwarded to men (and isn’t that sometimes the truth) while remaining a woman? Or maybe it is truly that you want to have a male body. I know to undergo any transgender surgery you need to have specific psychological counseling, and during these sessions a number of people with issues like you realise that it isn’t what they thought they were looking for. I don’t think gender identity is so cut and dried as a lot of the media portrays it, and there really is a spectrum from being ultimately and only male to being ultimately and only female. There is so much in between with room for everyone. Good luck in your quest for realisation of yourself.

This is a really involved, quite technical paper, but could help:

http://www.transgendercare.com/guidan…

Here’s a link from the same people to a ton of support groups and blogs and such

http://www.transgendercare.com/suppor…

]]> els Thu, 10 Apr 2008 21:51:42 +0100 Reply from Moon /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped#reply-3618784 I havn’t really thought of it quite like that before…
I suppose I would like to be able to express stereotypical male characteristics(I’m such a horrible speller, I have no idea if I spelled that right). I know that I absolutly loathe my breasts. Not just because they’re annoying, they feel and look out of place. I wish my voice were deeper and my eyes less feminine.
…That’s not the answer to the question…
I want to be able to walk down the street and be treated like a man. I don’t want people in a store to say “Hello, miss, how may I help you today?” I want them to look me right in the eye, give me a firm handshake and say “Good afternoon, sir. What can I do for you?”
I don’t like being dainty or feminine at all….I like to show toughness and masculinity as much as possible.
Ummm, is that close enough to the answer?

]]> Moon Thu, 10 Apr 2008 21:14:03 +0100 Reply from els /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped#reply-3618734 More what are the male feelings that you want to explore and express?

]]> els Thu, 10 Apr 2008 21:03:06 +0100 Reply from Moon /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped#reply-3618713 I can do my best. I’m not exactly sure what you mean by define though. For example: do you mean looks, personality, actions etc.?

]]> Moon Thu, 10 Apr 2008 20:57:23 +0100 Reply from els /post/150062-i-feel-like-im-being-ripped#reply-3618706 Can you try and define what your male aspect is? If you can then maybe you can do some research on other women who have taken on very masculine roles/characteristics, while still being women, and find out how they made it work.

]]> els Thu, 10 Apr 2008 20:55:45 +0100