[Help] I lost a friend who is really sick and needing surgery because my ex of three years ... Updates to this post /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick Sun, 07 Sep 2008 20:32:43 +0100 The post was closed by private.one /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-5163773 private.one Thu, 24 Apr 2008 11:15:00 +0100 Reply from Snar /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664860 :) thanks man, cheers to yah too. Its good for me to talk and help, helps me feel less alone so np :P

]]> Snar Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:50:31 +0100 Reply from private.one /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664856 You listened and offered good advice - that helps. Cheers Snar

]]> private.one Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:48:52 +0100 Reply from Snar /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664852 :) im glad you have that at least man! Try and hang in there, hopefully shell either realize how much of a ***** shes being or get whas coming to her somehow. I’m sorry that I can’t be of that much help :(

]]> Snar Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:46:23 +0100 Reply from pq /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664851 Try to en-prove your life rather than saying it suck because you only have one life

]]> pq Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:45:52 +0100 Reply from private.one /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664850 I’m in New Zealand. No system for that kind of help here but appreciate what you are saying. There is citizen advice who know all the legal angles so maybe an option there - cheers.

I think she has some friends and they know what they are doing to me. I think its a bit of a laugh for them. My eldest daughter has told her what she is doing too but she denies everything. She lives away in the same city as me (my eldest daughter) so it’s not such a problem with her. Something at least.

]]> private.one Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:44:39 +0100 Reply from Snar /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664845 hmmm aren’t there like public defenders for those who cant afford lawyers? I’m not sure because I study the Canadian and British systems but rarely the american plus… I’m not all that knowledgeable.

Honestly I’d just tell her upf ront shes hurting you, making your life a hell and all you can ask is that she just stops and lets you move on. Shes an adult! Thats pathetic! I guess if you’ve tried that or you do, and it doesnt work. YOu can only take legal action or try and dodge her.

The only thing is access to your kids, thats absolutely not fair. You raelly need a way to fight that because I think its despicable to keep sum1s kids from them.

]]> Snar Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:41:07 +0100 Reply from private.one /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664840 Don’t know really. We were married for 20 years. We fought regularly and it was no good for the kids. I tried to get us help but she had too much pride to let anyone outside the family get involved. In the end I just had to call it quits. She took it badly and then wanted the same. In fact she pushed through the divorce much quicker than I had intended. So I guess she is bitter that I couldn’t keep it together but the kids are happier now and doing well. I’m not hard to like and don’t have a mean streak we just don’t get on.

]]> private.one Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:38:00 +0100 Reply from Snar /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664836 :( this is awful, im sorry man. Do you have any idea why she keeps this up so long after you’ve both “moved on” ?

]]> Snar Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:34:18 +0100 Reply from private.one /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664835 [quote Snar][quote private.one][quote Snar]legal-action a possibility? She needs to learn the consequences of her…. {insert expletivers here)-ery.[/quote]

I wish but proving it is pretty hard as the net is pretty good for being sneaky. Besides I’m broke and lawyers cost[/quote]

Have you two managed any civil discussions? I see that as the only remaining option, explain to her its just not fair to be doing this to you and you wanna move on and ask if theres soemthin she needs you to do or some way you can stop all this and at least stop being hostile.[/quote]

[quote Snar][quote private.one][quote Snar]legal-action a possibility? She needs to learn the consequences of her…. {insert expletivers here)-ery.[/quote]

I wish but proving it is pretty hard as the net is pretty good for being sneaky. Besides I’m broke and lawyers cost[/quote]

Have you two managed any civil discussions? I see that as the only remaining option, explain to her its just not fair to be doing this to you and you wanna move on and ask if theres soemthin she needs you to do or some way you can stop all this and at least stop being hostile.[/quote]

Have tried. I keep out of her way. Even moved cities. Offered to go through counselling together. She says she has moved on and yet the crap still keeps coming. I don’t react, just keep my head low. Fired a warning shot over her bow about the latest incident but its too late. The damage is done.

]]> private.one Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:33:03 +0100 Reply from Snar /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664830 [quote private.one][quote Snar]legal-action a possibility? She needs to learn the consequences of her…. {insert expletivers here)-ery.[/quote]

I wish but proving it is pretty hard as the net is pretty good for being sneaky. Besides I’m broke and lawyers cost[/quote]

Have you two managed any civil discussions? I see that as the only remaining option, explain to her its just not fair to be doing this to you and you wanna move on and ask if theres soemthin she needs you to do or some way you can stop all this and at least stop being hostile.

]]> Snar Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:28:54 +0100 Reply from private.one /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664825 [quote Snar]legal-action a possibility? She needs to learn the consequences of her…. {insert expletivers here)-ery.[/quote]

I wish but proving it is pretty hard as the net is pretty good for being sneaky. Besides I’m broke and lawyers cost

]]> private.one Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:25:49 +0100 Reply from Snar /post/154337-i-lost-a-friend-who-is-really-sick#reply-3664823 legal-action a possibility? She needs to learn the consequences of her…. {insert expletivers here)-ery.

]]> Snar Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:24:25 +0100