Try to not hold it against her, because that will do not good, for either of you, try to be as nice as you can with her, and with your sister. If you can avoid arguements… you are way ahead. They are never pleasant for any one.

I did not read the other posts yet, but, it sounds like you are in your late teens, probably, so, it shouldn’t be very long before you can be out on your own. If you can leave with the best feeling possible for the family the better off you will be.

Nothing can ever replace family, no matter how bad it gets. We are stuck with each other. Even if you are gone, they will be in your memory, so, try to avoid any trouble, if at all possible. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you, and you will want to visit your family so try not to burn any bridges.

Get some support from somewhere that is healthy, a school counselor, a pastor, a counselor, a friendly aunt, a grandmother who understands, or just a very good friend.

It is good that you came here, you will meet many very nice and helpful people on here, and can become good friends with many. They offer a whole community full of support and ideas, just keep posting and reading posts, I think you will be very glad you found this site.

Plese STOP HURTING YOURSELF….. RIGHT NOW…..

This will do no……….good. Nada….. Zilch…… Nothing…… good will come of this. NOTHING……….

Find constructive ways of helping yourself, and your situation. Do some research online, seeing how much info. you can find on the issues you are dealing with. It will take your mind off your problems, and give you some very good insight.

Count your blessings every night…… one by one… name them off, and soon you will be feeling much better….

Blessings…..

I’m planning to move out soon - going to college after summer is over. It’s located in another city, but fairly close, if I ever want to come visit.

Kemmy, I totally think you’re right when you say she’s taking out what she wants to say to my sister on me - that makes so much sense.

Also, thank you to those who posted the alternatives to self-harm lists — I’ll try them out.

It sounds like your mom is taking her feelings out on you. She has to worry about your sister and her fragile state, and probably says things to you that she wishes she could say to your sister. None of it is right, and you shouldnt hurt yourself b/c of her. It is a tough habit to break.

Hurting yourself isn’t going to solve your problems; as for “demanding that she helps you with your problems,” thats a mother’s job. If she took on the job of being a mother (twice), but had to wait for one of her daughters to attempt suicide to start caring enough to talk, then it sounds like she’s the one in need of the professional help, not you. You’ve done nothing but played your role as her daughter.

Like I said, move in with your father if you can. It sounds like it could help you out, and maybe it would be a wake-up call for her.

“I’ve started hurting myself, privately.”