[Help] My biggest problems and what I need help with: Updates to this post /post/157626-my-biggest-problems-and-what-i-need Sun, 07 Sep 2008 19:42:03 +0100 Reply from Opeth /post/157626-my-biggest-problems-and-what-i-need#reply-3702445 “I’m afraid to make friends, whenever I want to talk to someone I distance myself from them, and when they start talking to me I start questioning their sincerity and wonder if it’s even worth their time if they’re actually being sincere, or if I could actually say anything to make us friends.”

That’s similar to the way I feel a lot of the time; I am very detached from a lot of people and hardly have connections to people. I don’t want to be close to anyone because it’s easier that way.

But I’ve learned over time that it’s about meeting the right people, and soon enough you will. You’re only 14 I’m guessing. I’ve learned to accept everyday that I don’t fit in with the people at my college, but I didn’t force myself to make friends with people that could potentially hurt me. I’m sure it’s your anxiety that causes your over-questioning (I’ve done it all my life), but you’ll find people who are ’sincere’ and you don’t have to worry about them.

]]> Opeth Sun, 04 May 2008 20:57:55 +0100 Reply from Amethysterics /post/157626-my-biggest-problems-and-what-i-need#reply-3701960 I feel quite the same as you do at times. I wish there was a quick fix for this, but unfortunately there isn’t. All you can do is be patient with yourself and stop feeling spoiled. True, anxiety affects a lot of people and you certainly aren’t alone. But that doesn’t make you spoiled.
Keep accepting help and try to stay strong inside, even if it’s just a little bit each day. You’ll be able to make friends as your sense of self develops.
Perhaps you are just waiting for some sort of epiphany to hit you. Just be patient with yourself, and good luck. And speaking of your grades, also remember that community college is still an option for transferring to even the best of the Ivy League. Some people just take more time to develop than others, but it doesn’t make them less worthy of living than any one else is, even an overachiever who seems to have a “perfect” life.

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