I don’t know what to do….nothing seems to be going my way and I cannot get out of this funk…

But then in the early 1990s, I saw the John Bradshaw program Homecoming on public television and sat through all 16 hours of it. I got all choked up and realized there is something to this inner child thing. That lead me to the 12 Step programs of ACA and CoDA. My life started taking a turn for the better. Even though I have had many years of talk therapy, two thirds of my “recovery” has come through the 12 Step meetings. Bottom line: I had to get down to the underlying pain. “Feeling the feelings” is what saved my life. Feelings can be miserable sometimes, but not feeling my deeper feelings nearly lead to my death at my own hands.

ACA deals with our childhood environment, which has a major life long impact. And one does not have to have an alcoholic parent to participate, mine weren’t. What usually happens is that in our childhood we do not have permission to be who we really are. And that feels unsafe, so we shut our feelings down in order not to feel hurt over and over again. That is necessary to survive but unnatural. Once adult, we still avoid feelings because we fear vulnerability. That leads to all kinds of behavioral problems.

Getting down to, opening up and releasing our deepest feelings is scary and almost impossible to do alone. That is why emotional support from others who understand is so important. Try ACA (aka ACoA) and CoDA for at least a few weeks to see if it is for you. It is working for me. And it literally saved my life.

http://www.filosoficas.unam.mx/~morad…

It’s surprising that this doesn’t ring a bell with you, Anon …

I know it comes from low self esteem
It can come from feeling depressed
I fear failure
I convince myself that it’s ok to leave it until later - then panic

There are so many reasons for procrastinating - if it’s really getting in the way of your life maybe you need to see a counsellor or talk to someone more professional about it?
It all depends on the person I think - some people procrastinate because they don’t really want to do the task, other’s are scared of not doing it to perfection…

really? what would they be working on? I’ve never heard of this as a cure for procrastination. Are you serious?

Your planner would tell you which part of the week you are going to rest and have time to play.

Give yourself some rewards. Say if you finish doing something, you’d get to have an ice cream or a nice movie.

And it’s stressing me out more than usual because I have anxiety that makes me not do easy tasks that normal people can do. It’s driving me crazy.

Good luck.

Try thinking if you are not going to do this and that today, then nothing will happen even after ten years. And your health and other important part of you will suffer.

ACT now.