[Help] Awkward situation, im planning my wedding but my parents Updates to this post /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w Sun, 07 Sep 2008 19:49:04 +0100 Reply from blondie501 /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3770882 I agree not everybody has a family that they keep ties with. That is up to you and your situation.

]]> blondie501 Fri, 23 May 2008 18:47:50 +0100 Reply from /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3770847 I do feel I have to say that people told me to keep ties with my family and I feel that was bad advice. I believe that people base their ideals on their own families rather than taking the wider view.

Maybe your family are the people who put up the wall?

It is your day, not a day for compromises.

]]> Fri, 23 May 2008 18:43:58 +0100 Reply from blondie501 /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3770826 Your wedding day will be a day that you should never forget. The wedding is about you and your loved one. It is great that your family wants to pay for the wedding, but you also don’t want to put a “wall” up around you and your family after the whole thing is over. It may be in your best interest to pay for it yourself or come to a compromise. Whatever happens, keep strong ties with your family and maybe have a heart to heart with your family. Your wedding day is just one day, when you have a whole lifetime to enjoy with your future spouse.

]]> blondie501 Fri, 23 May 2008 18:40:42 +0100 Reply from /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3730533 it is your wedding day, not your mothers. Do it your way.

]]> Mon, 12 May 2008 19:50:51 +0100 Reply from chillout157 /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3729018 mum is refusing to talk to me!!! grrrrrrrr!!

]]> chillout157 Mon, 12 May 2008 10:28:41 +0100 Reply from chillout157 /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726627 id love to adopt that attitude, ill just see how it pans out, if worst comes to worst ill pay,

i hope it goes well too:)

]]> chillout157 Sun, 11 May 2008 21:37:13 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726624 [quote Anonymous]yeh:)

well i jsut want everyone to be happy, but shes not talking to me atm,

grrrr,

i think she thinks be ignorant 21 yr old university students!![/quote]

i don’t think ignorance has much to do with age haha but i hope that you do get that fixed and your wedding goes well

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:36:45 +0100 Reply from rstarzboxer /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726617 Me personally, I would do what I want to do- my way- if she doesn’t want to be involved in it then so be it. But that is me.

]]> rstarzboxer Sun, 11 May 2008 21:35:19 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726605 yeh:)

well i jsut want everyone to be happy, but shes not talking to me atm,

grrrr,

i think she thinks be ignorant 21 yr old university students!!

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:31:58 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726597 well not good thing…but important

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:30:16 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726594 [quote Anonymous]thank you, i started to feel like i was becoming the selfish one, i just wanna have the best day i can, my fiance was discusted by the way she talked to me, it really did hurt me, i just hope it doesnt take the shine off the wedding, i mean im not missing something am i , it is all about me and trevor getting married and thats it???[/quote]
hey.. he should have been..that was kinda mean of your mom to say. it’ll probably bring some unhappy things up but the only thing that does matter is that you two’ll be together. and that should be the only good thing

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:29:30 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726546 thank you, i started to feel like i was becoming the selfish one, i just wanna have the best day i can, my fiance was discusted by the way she talked to me, it really did hurt me, i just hope it doesnt take the shine off the wedding, i mean im not missing something am i , it is all about me and trevor getting married and thats it???

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:18:55 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726536 [quote Anonymous]well she thinks im really weird that i dont care if there matching or not and she wants people to be impressed and i dont give a crap what people think, i just want to marry the man i love to bits!!

it broke my heart today when she said she didnt care about the marriage just the day..thats actually what she said!!!!

the problem is if i pay she will begrudge coming and make me miserable on the day and fell crap[/quote]

hmmm.. that’s not very nice of her..well maybe i can understand her wanting her kid’s wedding to be all nice…cause parents are like that..it’s understandable.. maybe try to do a little mix of fancy casual things? or help her realize that you’re an adult now… and you can do it how you want..and it’s not your fault she doesn’t like it that way

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:16:14 +0100 Reply from rstarzboxer /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726532 well they can celebrate with you when you get home at the reception… that mom can pay how ever much she wants to pay for and decorate it how ever she like.

You pay for your tropical honeymoon/wedding and make it your dream wedding.

OR you just put your foot down…this is what I want and if you don’t want to pay for it I understand, then I will because this is my day and it only comes once in a lifetime.

]]> rstarzboxer Sun, 11 May 2008 21:15:16 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726516 yes, thats exactly what i wanted to do but i wnt my friends and family to celebrate t with me!

she could plan the reception but she wants to spend 2,000 and i want to spend 800, more money she spends less towards the honey moon

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:12:26 +0100 Reply from rstarzboxer /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726511 You mom could always plan a reception for when you come back…however she likes it and pays for it.

]]> rstarzboxer Sun, 11 May 2008 21:11:21 +0100 Reply from rstarzboxer /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726509 ever thought about just going to a tropical spot and getting married there alone? It’s very romantic.

]]> rstarzboxer Sun, 11 May 2008 21:10:15 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726508 well she thinks im really weird that i dont care if there matching or not and she wants people to be impressed and i dont give a crap what people think, i just want to marry the man i love to bits!!

it broke my heart today when she said she didnt care about the marriage just the day..thats actually what she said!!!!

the problem is if i pay she will begrudge coming and make me miserable on the day and fell crap

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:10:00 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726491 that’s weird to think you’re selfish..since you’re growing up and moving on with your future husband it might be cool to just do it yourself…to show you’re grown up

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:07:02 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726482 i know, she wnat everyone to match and have a fancy cake in a fancy reception after…i just wanna have abbq at the beach!!

she thinks im selfish!! argh!!

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:05:11 +0100 Reply from rstarzboxer /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726464 Your the one getting married, not your mom.

]]> rstarzboxer Sun, 11 May 2008 21:03:09 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726460 true,true, i just hope they understand,dhe cnt accpt i want a low key wedding and an amazing honeymoon and she wants a fancy wedding!!

grrrr

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 21:02:25 +0100 Reply from rstarzboxer /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726432 It’s your wedding, if you want something they won’t pay for, pay for it yourself.

]]> rstarzboxer Sun, 11 May 2008 20:58:51 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726425 But they gave my brother 10,000 and they really wanna pay for the wedidng

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 20:57:53 +0100 Reply from rstarzboxer /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726424 Pay for your own wedding.

]]> rstarzboxer Sun, 11 May 2008 20:57:22 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726420 that’s true.. well what’s the harm in paying it yourself?

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 20:57:07 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726411 its really hard, they keep telling me there paying and telling me its there desision…im tempted to say i dont wnt them to pay, but i just dnt wnt to proparly fall out…but its about me and my fiance not mum nd dad

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 20:53:27 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159848-awkward-situation-im-planning-my-w#reply-3726400 hmmm….maybe try a calm compromisism? try to find a half way thing or at least a 25-75 in their favor…since it is their money true but also your day..if that helped..

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 20:51:44 +0100